Another mom invited herself to my kid’s birthday party

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Anonymous wrote:Yes tell her you can’t accommodate her as the venue has a strict count. She can choose to drop off her child or not bro if him at all. I would be miffed too. Does she stay at school with him too? Ridiculous

Wow. Now I know where the mean kids get it from. Is having to talk to someone other than your bestie so awful that a child should be excluded from the party?

These boards always make me understand where the kids being exclusionary at school learn it. I’m always shocked at these responses honestly.

I can only imagine the conversation between OP and her DD regarding this child’s anxiety and whatever other issues and mom’s feelings about making small accommodations.

It really explains why my autistic child didn't get a single party or playdate invitation while in public school (she was fully mainstreamed). People suck.

I’m so sorry to hear this.
My nephew was this anxious 8 yr old and my sister kept in his view (when in strange places) almost until age 12. Then he was fine. If you’re on a life-saving flight helicopter to Washington Hospital Center, he may well be the trauma surgeon on call. Be nice people.

I guess you’d call me weird mom with weird kid. But my anxious kid just needed to know he could find me if we were in certain new places. Otherwise he was 100% typical kid. So I did sit off in a corner and read a book or helped with the party when asked, never made myself part of the party or inner circle adults. It never once occurred to me that people like OP would snear and rant against my kid and me. So thank you to the moms and dads and kids who don’t object and are welcoming.

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

Cause/effect OP. You are literally saying "I don't care if an unimaginably small sacrifice on my part makes another child's life happier and easier." People are responding to that by calling you an ass. That's not "out of hand". That's facts.

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I’m just stuck on the idea that someone out there exists who thinks a party of second graders at Pump It Up is an exclusive social event venue for adults. I’m genuinely fascinated by OP.

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

Cause/effect OP. You are literally saying "I don't care if an unimaginably small sacrifice on my part makes another child's life happier and easier." People are responding to that by calling you an ass. That's not "out of hand". That's facts.

OP, as the parent of a now-adult with autism, I will say that you are a terrible person. At 2nd grade DS couldn't have handled such a party without my assistance. I wouldn't have been speaking to you because I would have been busy making sure he was staying in line with his behavior. As a person who has worked with kids for years, I likely also would have been monitoring all the other kids whose parents think their behavior is fine, but who also get a little crazy at these venues. DS is on the verge of getting a job that will help keep you and your family safe for years to come. With some immature behavior came a great mind. I will also say that he has become an exceptionally compassionate person who truly cares about making the world a better place for all. I am quite sure you won't be able to say the same about any child you raise with your attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

OP, if you invite the whole class, you invite the whole class. YOU are the one making a problem where there is none. Period. Stop whining and be a gracious host.

The students in the class were invited NOT every kid's parent/parents. If your child is still tied to you apron strings by 2nd grade, then RSVP "No."

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OP- it’s very telling about your character if you cannot see the POV of the asking mom. I didn’t read all of the pages in this thread, so others may feel differently than me. Look at it as an accommodation for the child so that he can participate and have fun celebrating your child.

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

OP, if you invite the whole class, you invite the whole class. YOU are the one making a problem where there is none. Period. Stop whining and be a gracious host.

The students in the class were invited NOT every kid's parent/parents. If your child is still tied to you apron strings by 2nd grade, then RSVP "No."

NP. How old is your oldest child? You’re speaking with authority on a subject that you seem to know nothing about. In 2nd grade, you should expect at least a handful of parents to stay at a venue party.

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

OP, if you invite the whole class, you invite the whole class. YOU are the one making a problem where there is none. Period. Stop whining and be a gracious host.

The students in the class were invited NOT every kid's parent/parents. If your child is still tied to you apron strings by 2nd grade, then RSVP "No."

Wow. One of my kids friends asked her mom to stay at a recent birthday party. Kids are all in second grade. No one cared. No one. The second graders are less judgmental and more emotionally mature than some of you.

I think OP has an inflated sense of her social standing and thinks this mom wants to talk to her. Joke may be on you in a few years when that kid is the most popular one in your kids grade and you find out that his mom or dad is someone you would like to network with. Kindness (or even decency) is cheap and easy and doesn’t come back to bite you in the butt later…

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

OP, if you invite the whole class, you invite the whole class. YOU are the one making a problem where there is none. Period. Stop whining and be a gracious host.

The students in the class were invited NOT every kid's parent/parents. If your child is still tied to you apron strings by 2nd grade, then RSVP "No."

But why? Many 2nd graders would feel more comfortable with a parent, but even if we were talking about a substantially older child -- why does someone who needs more help than the average person need to stay home? Would you say the same if the child had a physical disability that required a parent's assistance?

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

Op- you are not very intelligent. If you invite a 7 year old to a birthday party you are implicitly inviting at least one of their parents to accompany them. Many parents likely will just plan to stay without asking or even giving it a second thought because it is well within the range of normal to do so at a second grade birthday event. This particular woman was going above and beyond to be courteous in reaching out to confirm it was okay for her to stay with her child when most parents would just take it as a given. She is not asking for you to entertain her or be her friend- honestly judging from your posts most people probably want nothing to do with you and just feel bad for your kid for having such a wretched mother. Be better.

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It is heartening to see how the vast majority of posters don’t agree with the behavior in OP’s story. I say story because that’s clearly what it is- OP is a troll.

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Most of these venues are completely open and it's impossible for the host parents to fully supervise, especially when they don't even know many of the kids. I wouldn't leave my 2nd grader with a stranger let alone an open venue. OP, why do you care if a parent stays? Get a big costco cake for everyone and be done with it. Or, be selfish and that parent who doesn't offer food.

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

OP, if you invite the whole class, you invite the whole class. YOU are the one making a problem where there is none. Period. Stop whining and be a gracious host.

The students in the class were invited NOT every kid's parent/parents. If your child is still tied to you apron strings by 2nd grade, then RSVP "No."

Wow. One of my kids friends asked her mom to stay at a recent birthday party. Kids are all in second grade. No one cared. No one. The second graders are less judgmental and more emotionally mature than some of you.

I think OP has an inflated sense of her social standing and thinks this mom wants to talk to her. Joke may be on you in a few years when that kid is the most popular one in your kids grade and you find out that his mom or dad is someone you would like to network with. Kindness (or even decency) is cheap and easy and doesn’t come back to bite you in the butt later…

I have to assume that poster is OP. There can’t be two people that stupid.

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The ones my dcs were invited to were not close so I may have gone to a nearby Starbucks for 30 min or so and returned or brought a book and read. It was so common 10 yrs ago for Parents to hang around these bounce places/ party venues as they were in industrial parks.

We did not stay to be entertained by hosts but more of a convenience for us. Don’t overthink it.

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

OP, one word - Karma
Hope you are finished having kids because if not your next could be special needs and you will be the one working so hard to make sure your child is ok at a silly bday party.