Another mom invited herself to my kid’s birthday party

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

OP, if you invite the whole class, you invite the whole class. YOU are the one making a problem where there is none. Period. Stop whining and be a gracious host.

The students in the class were invited NOT every kid's parent/parents. If your child is still tied to you apron strings by 2nd grade, then RSVP "No."

You’re pathetic. Are you in middle school?

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These responses are getting a little out of hand.

NP. I don't think they are. The other mom is being very polite. I can almost guarantee that other parents will stay too; it just wouldn't have crossed their minds that anyone would object to them doing so. Inviting a few parents of kids in the same grade who plan to stay makes it even more likely that some other parents will stay. I don't think anyone would think a mom who invited the entire class would only allow a few of her chosen parent friends to stay. That's just plain strange.

[Anonymous]

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These responses are getting a little out of hand.

NP. I don't think they are. The other mom is being very polite. I can almost guarantee that other parents will stay too; it just wouldn't have crossed their minds that anyone would object to them doing so. Inviting a few parents of kids in the same grade who plan to stay makes it even more likely that some other parents will stay. I don't think anyone would think a mom who invited the entire class would only allow a few of her chosen parent friends to stay. That's just plain strange.

I agree. My kids are older now, but there was always a handful of parents that stayed at public venue parties in second grade. Particularly parents who didn't know the host that well.

[Anonymous]

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These responses are getting a little out of hand.

NP. I don't think they are. The other mom is being very polite. I can almost guarantee that other parents will stay too; it just wouldn't have crossed their minds that anyone would object to them doing so. Inviting a few parents of kids in the same grade who plan to stay makes it even more likely that some other parents will stay. I don't think anyone would think a mom who invited the entire class would only allow a few of her chosen parent friends to stay. That's just plain strange.

In OP's defense, there were a few really vitriolic texts that have been deleted. I think that is what she was referring to.

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Wow OP. You sound rude and snotty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

This is a really bizarre interpretation of what the mom was asking which was to stay so her kid would be OK and by extension the party go smoothly.

What kind of super exciting venue is this that parents are trying to finagle their own invite? Or maybe OP is a minor celebrity or wife of an athlete or something?

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Op is such trash.

You know what’s funny, op? I hope that mom reads this thread and word gets around about your little party. Maybe no kids will show up and then you and your friends can have your little adult brunch in peace at the trampoline park.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. These responses are getting a little out of hand. I'm just annoyed because I feel like this mom is pushing in on a party she wasn't invited to. Maybe her kid has special needs. I don't know. That doesn't feel like my problem.

This is a really bizarre interpretation of what the mom was asking which was to stay so her kid would be OK and by extension the party go smoothly.

What kind of super exciting venue is this that parents are trying to finagle their own invite? Or maybe OP is a minor celebrity or wife of an athlete or something?

Celebrity wives have better places to catch up with their friends than at the kids party zone. lol

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Anonymous wrote:The ones my dcs were invited to were not close so I may have gone to a nearby Starbucks for 30 min or so and returned or brought a book and read. It was so common 10 yrs ago for Parents to hang around these bounce places/ party venues as they were in industrial parks.

We did not stay to be entertained by hosts but more of a convenience for us. Don’t overthink it.

Yeah we went to a party yesterday that was 90 minutes long and a 45 minute drive from our house (and the school our kids attend). Would not have made sense to come home!

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I have 3 kids. I have hosted many parties and at least one parent has stayed for every single one. My son just had his 14th birthday and it was the first party my son had no adults hang around.

He has a paintball party last year and several parents stayed, probably because it was so far out. We are friends/friendly with several parents and it was the first party since Covid so a lot of people wanted to catch up.

7? Totally normal for a few parents to stay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The ones my dcs were invited to were not close so I may have gone to a nearby Starbucks for 30 min or so and returned or brought a book and read. It was so common 10 yrs ago for Parents to hang around these bounce places/ party venues as they were in industrial parks.

We did not stay to be entertained by hosts but more of a convenience for us. Don’t overthink it.

Yeah we went to a party yesterday that was 90 minutes long and a 45 minute drive from our house (and the school our kids attend). Would not have made sense to come home!

When my child was in 2nd grade, we were at bounce U parties almost every weekend. Almost all the parents stayed because there was no place to go. We didn't bother the host, who was usually busy, but we did enjoy socializing with each other.

But then, we were an inclusive and kind group willing to talk to people other than our two best friends.

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I hate to burst your bubble but there will might be other moms that plan on staying as well - they just didn’t ask. If she’s worried enough about her kids, anxiety to asked to stay and she’s probably gonna stay with her kid at the party and not bother you and your friends anyways.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- it’s very telling about your character if you cannot see the POV of the asking mom. I didn’t read all of the pages in this thread, so others may feel differently than me. Look at it as an accommodation for the child so that he can participate and have fun celebrating your child.

right? so much for the much-vaunted “theory of mind” NTs supposedly excel in.

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Anonymous wrote:Just an FYI for everyone saying the OP wove busy supervising the whole class. I used to work at a place that did weekend parties. There were hired people who ran the parties. We didn’t need the parents to do anything other than show up with food, pay and tip, and take the garbage bags full of gifts out to the car.

Really depends on the venue I guess. Been to a lot of three parties and really disagree.

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If it were me, I’d let her come and be warm and inviting to her. But you do you.