Capital Orange Parents - If you could do it all over again

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Keep hearing this. How exactly is KJ so mean?


What is worse? Having a coach give you personal feedback - good or bad, or having a coach just ignore you and let you drift along and think you're the next Charlotte North or Izzy Scane?


Parents saying she’s mean are the ones who can’t handle their kids getting less than perfect feedback for their daughters playing skills


Honest feedback.
Anonymous

The only year Pride field a true high school A team was the 2023 class. They consistently played in the top tournament brackets and top 5 schedules per USCL. I believe 3 or 4 players on that went in on to earn Player of the Year awards. They had the talent, but Pride completely dropped the ball on recruiting. Some players did commit to good D1 programs, but that was through their efforts not Pride. Pride’s poor handling of that talented class sealed their fate as a respectable high school program.

This is extremely accurate. That team had awesome talent and many of them are doing great on their college teams, but they got ZERO help with recruiting. We will never understand why KM didn't devote all her energy into that team doing well since it would have set a new standard for Pride high school, and the material was there for her. As a mom of a daughter right on their heels, I was excited for the new direction for the team. But instead, in her infinite wisdom, she let it all go to waste. Even the girls who ended up doing well would never encourage others to follow in their path, so we changed quickly. Really too bad, but agree that was the end.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She only cares about the very top few players.


That’s just not true. Kathy has strong relationships with many girls who aren’t top players. Kathy cares about character, attitude, toughness and work ethic just as much as top talent. Just because you and/or your daughter don’t like her doesn’t make her mean or a bad person.


There is no need to debate this. Ask any of the moms BESIDES the moms of the top three players in each grade. See what answers you get. It will be uniform for 2024, 2025 and 2026.
I rest my case.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She only cares about the very top few players.


That’s just not true. Kathy has strong relationships with many girls who aren’t top players. Kathy cares about character, attitude, toughness and work ethic just as much as top talent. Just because you and/or your daughter don’t like her doesn’t make her mean or a bad person.


There is no need to debate this. Ask any of the moms BESIDES the moms of the top three players in each grade. See what answers you get. It will be uniform for 2024, 2025 and 2026.
I rest my case.


How does this affect team morale and chemistry? Do the favorites change from year to year?
Anonymous
Just to be clear you are referring to KJ and she is not a coach at Capital. Just noting for anyone reading based on the title of the thread.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She only cares about the very top few players.


That’s just not true. Kathy has strong relationships with many girls who aren’t top players. Kathy cares about character, attitude, toughness and work ethic just as much as top talent. Just because you and/or your daughter don’t like her doesn’t make her mean or a bad person.


There is no need to debate this. Ask any of the moms BESIDES the moms of the top three players in each grade. See what answers you get. It will be uniform for 2024, 2025 and 2026.
I rest my case.


+1
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She only cares about the very top few players.


That’s just not true. Kathy has strong relationships with many girls who aren’t top players. Kathy cares about character, attitude, toughness and work ethic just as much as top talent. Just because you and/or your daughter don’t like her doesn’t make her mean or a bad person.


There is no need to debate this. Ask any of the moms BESIDES the moms of the top three players in each grade. See what answers you get. It will be uniform for 2024, 2025 and 2026.
I rest my case.


And after 2024 it will only be a few 2026s that really matter.
Anonymous
I work with a woman who was a Saint lax player. She did not play in college and KJ sat with her parents at her wedding.

So there’s at least one person out there who liked her.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She only cares about the very top few players.


That’s just not true. Kathy has strong relationships with many girls who aren’t top players. Kathy cares about character, attitude, toughness and work ethic just as much as top talent. Just because you and/or your daughter don’t like her doesn’t make her mean or a bad person.


There is no need to debate this. Ask any of the moms BESIDES the moms of the top three players in each grade. See what answers you get. It will be uniform for 2024, 2025 and 2026.
I rest my case.


And after 2024 it will only be a few 2026s that really matter.


and one or two 2027s, maybe one 2028 and 3-5 in 2029
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She only cares about the very top few players.


That’s just not true. Kathy has strong relationships with many girls who aren’t top players. Kathy cares about character, attitude, toughness and work ethic just as much as top talent. Just because you and/or your daughter don’t like her doesn’t make her mean or a bad person.


There is no need to debate this. Ask any of the moms BESIDES the moms of the top three players in each grade. See what answers you get. It will be uniform for 2024, 2025 and 2026.
I rest my case.


And after 2024 it will only be a few 2026s that really matter.


and one or two 2027s, maybe one 2028 and 3-5 in 2029


This conversation around KJ is about the dumbest thing I have ever read - My experience with her has been excellent and I have assisted her in helping kids that were never going to be a top player for her. If you are going to besmirch the ladies character, don't do it anonymously, put your name on it.

Your anonymous comments say much more about your character than hers.....
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She only cares about the very top few players.


That’s just not true. Kathy has strong relationships with many girls who aren’t top players. Kathy cares about character, attitude, toughness and work ethic just as much as top talent. Just because you and/or your daughter don’t like her doesn’t make her mean or a bad person.


There is no need to debate this. Ask any of the moms BESIDES the moms of the top three players in each grade. See what answers you get. It will be uniform for 2024, 2025 and 2026.
I rest my case.


And after 2024 it will only be a few 2026s that really matter.


and one or two 2027s, maybe one 2028 and 3-5 in 2029


This conversation around KJ is about the dumbest thing I have ever read - My experience with her has been excellent and I have assisted her in helping kids that were never going to be a top player for her. If you are going to besmirch the ladies character, don't do it anonymously, put your name on it.

Your anonymous comments say much more about your character than hers.....


And your name is?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She only cares about the very top few players.


That’s just not true. Kathy has strong relationships with many girls who aren’t top players. Kathy cares about character, attitude, toughness and work ethic just as much as top talent. Just because you and/or your daughter don’t like her doesn’t make her mean or a bad person.


There is no need to debate this. Ask any of the moms BESIDES the moms of the top three players in each grade. See what answers you get. It will be uniform for 2024, 2025 and 2026.
I rest my case.


And after 2024 it will only be a few 2026s that really matter.


and one or two 2027s, maybe one 2028 and 3-5 in 2029


This conversation around KJ is about the dumbest thing I have ever read - My experience with her has been excellent and I have assisted her in helping kids that were never going to be a top player for her. If you are going to besmirch the ladies character, don't do it anonymously, put your name on it.

Your anonymous comments say much more about your character than hers.....


And your name is?



I ain't crapping on anyone.... If I got a problem with you I take it to you, not an anonymous forum
Anonymous
With all of the talk on the 28 thread I did wonder if your daughter does not make Capital Blue....would everyone still agree that Orange is the next best option?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She only cares about the very top few players.


That’s just not true. Kathy has strong relationships with many girls who aren’t top players. Kathy cares about character, attitude, toughness and work ethic just as much as top talent. Just because you and/or your daughter don’t like her doesn’t make her mean or a bad person.


There is no need to debate this. Ask any of the moms BESIDES the moms of the top three players in each grade. See what answers you get. It will be uniform for 2024, 2025 and 2026.
I rest my case.


And after 2024 it will only be a few 2026s that really matter.


and one or two 2027s, maybe one 2028 and 3-5 in 2029


This conversation around KJ is about the dumbest thing I have ever read - My experience with her has been excellent and I have assisted her in helping kids that were never going to be a top player for her. If you are going to besmirch the ladies character, don't do it anonymously, put your name on it.

Your anonymous comments say much more about your character than hers.....


KJ is successful. Period. Is her way of coaching old school. Yes, mother of all understatements, but 9/10 of her former players have come to understand why she did what she did. Either to prepare the girls for college play, college coaching or life. She has been in dozens of her former players weddings. She is the godmother of dozens of her former players kids. She routinely checks in on her players and not just her favorites. She goes to many of their local games. It is hard to find fault with her when viewed in perspective. Is she for everyone, absolutely not. But its hard to deny she hasn't had a net positive on her teams, her school and the clubs she founded.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:With all of the talk on the 28 thread I did wonder if your daughter does not make Capital Blue....would everyone still agree that Orange is the next best option?

I’m not sure what people are arguing about. However, looking at CLC Orange rosters it looks like a mixed bag. So I guess a good number of players go elsewhere for A teams and you can see that with DMV players on MD A team rosters.
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