Update to previously deleted thread- my sister won’t let anyone hold her baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This poster is nuts and is making things up.

+1. Not buying it. When people aren’t siding with the OP, she trickles in new info disguised as “the latest”…likely so she can justify her perception of her sister and seeking validation that her position is correct. OP also conveniently started the update with claiming her sister FIRED the nanny but when explaining the update it doesn’t appear the nanny was fired but that the nanny packed up her stuff and left on her own after deciding the conditions didn’t work for her. The sister didn’t fire the nanny like the OP claimed, the nanny quit in protest. Again, just evidence that the OP is making things up or twisting things to justify herself.

[Anonymous]

“Some even have additional antibodies from having omicron.” This, really, is all one needs to know: that members of the family clamoring to see an unvaccinated newborn had COVID. I’m not sure what the OP is trying to accomplish by raving to anonymous people on the internet, but it’s a good thing that at least she’s not breathing on the baby.

[Anonymous]

I don't really know why OP is so angry. I agree OP should speak to the husband about trying to get mental health support for her sister, but other than that, OP just needs to wait this out.

The baby will grow and start to be more robust. The baby may start sleeping more/better, which alone will help with anxiety. The pandemic will continue to shift. (I expect/hope this will make things better, but who knows how it will shift?)

Try to offer whatever support she will accept, which it sounds like is pretty limited at the moment (food, company, etc.). Can you offer to do her laundry or help her with chores, maybe while she and baby are somewhere else? Send supportive texts. Etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop posting about it on the Internet and start talking to her husband about having her assessed for postpartum anxiety.

Do you have suggestions on how to phrase the conversation?

Phrase it the way you did here.

[Anonymous]

OP wants someone else to handle it for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop posting about it on the Internet and start talking to her husband about having her assessed for postpartum anxiety.

Do you have suggestions on how to phrase the conversation?

"Hey Jimmy-John. I'm sorry if I'm overstepping but I'm worried about Larla. She told me she doesn't plan to take the baby outside anymore because she thinks it's not safe. I'm worried that she is having some post partum mental health issues. I know it's not my place to step in, but I'm hoping you might talk to her and her doctor."

[Anonymous]

OP you are being interfering. Leave her baby alone. Just be nice to your sister in whatever way she will accept.

[Anonymous]

SOP, other than posting gleeful updates about your sisters matters, have you taken any of the advices offered to you in TWO separate threads and many weeks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This poster is nuts and is making things up. [/quote
I couldn’t make this up if i tried. And why would I want to? It’s weird and scary and intense for our family.

Weird, scary, and intense? Your family is weird, scary, and intense. You don't have a right to her child. Grow up and get some hobbies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a preemie 18 years ago so no pandemic. When she was released from the NICU it was RSV season. We were advised to avoid exposure so no family visits or taking her places. Her pediatrician was great and the office scheduled well visits in the morning to limit exposure for newborns in general.

After seeing full term newborns admitted into the NICU for RSV we had no intention of disregarding protecting her. The howls from extended family still piss me off 18 years later. I clearly remember which family members were respectful of our situation and which ones were selfish, entitled jerks. The only thing that kept us from going ballistic on them was DH’s aunt who had had two small preemies 30 years earlier. She and the former preemie cousins ran interference with nasty SIL, other aunts and in laws who demanded visits.

I could have written this. I had preemies who came home with medical issues and MIL never got over the the fact she had to cancel a grandma shower she was throwing for herself. She wanted my just out of the nicu twins to attend without me or dad. They had reflux and monitors and medicines throughout the day. She lived over an hour away. She started drama the day I gave birth and was mad about not having access to the nicu when she wanted. She was never interested in our children as they grew older and never tried to spend any time with them. She was so horrible it was a relief when she died.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update. My sister just fired her live in nanny on the spot for hugging someone maskless. The nanny’s son came to visit- outside only allowed. He was wearing a mask during the visit. He was going to drive off but forgot to give his mom (nanny) something from the car. He walked back from the car without his mask on, gave his mom whatever it was, and hugged her.

My sister saw them hug. She told me she flipped out, screamed that nanny knows how they are about COVID precautions. Nanny apparently said “am I not allowed to hug my son? You are disrespecting me.” My sister then told her “you can hug whom ever you’d like but not while you’re living in my house.”

She has completely lost touch with reality and has zero reasonable risk assessment. The nanny packed up her stuff and is gone.

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This fictional story is boring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update. My sister just fired her live in nanny on the spot for hugging someone maskless. The nanny’s son came to visit- outside only allowed. He was wearing a mask during the visit. He was going to drive off but forgot to give his mom (nanny) something from the car. He walked back from the car without his mask on, gave his mom whatever it was, and hugged her.

My sister saw them hug. She told me she flipped out, screamed that nanny knows how they are about COVID precautions. Nanny apparently said “am I not allowed to hug my son? You are disrespecting me.” My sister then told her “you can hug whom ever you’d like but not while you’re living in my house.”

She has completely lost touch with reality and has zero reasonable risk assessment. The nanny packed up her stuff and is gone.

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Wow, impressive how you make up sh*t to go along. If this is not a troll post, I don't know what is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update. My sister just fired her live in nanny on the spot for hugging someone maskless. The nanny’s son came to visit- outside only allowed. He was wearing a mask during the visit. He was going to drive off but forgot to give his mom (nanny) something from the car. He walked back from the car without his mask on, gave his mom whatever it was, and hugged her.

My sister saw them hug. She told me she flipped out, screamed that nanny knows how they are about COVID precautions. Nanny apparently said “am I not allowed to hug my son? You are disrespecting me.” My sister then told her “you can hug whom ever you’d like but not while you’re living in my house.”

She has completely lost touch with reality and has zero reasonable risk assessment. The nanny packed up her stuff and is gone.

😶

This fictional story is boring.

+1 At least put some effort if you feel like trolling.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I guess I should be a screenwriter if you all think I’m just making things up. I wish I were. Do I need to
Post screenshots of the texts between my sister and me and among our family?

She hired a new nanny this week. Nanny asked to take baby on a stroll around neighborhood or to the park. She said no- again citing COVID. Nanny was asked to double mask around the baby.

My sister is talking about plans for baby number 2. Her dh is not on board until she addressed her anxiety and mental health. My sister is livid and claims yo not understand why he’s “being like this.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I guess I should be a screenwriter if you all think I’m just making things up. I wish I were. Do I need to
Post screenshots of the texts between my sister and me and among our family?

She hired a new nanny this week. Nanny asked to take baby on a stroll around neighborhood or to the park. She said no- again citing COVID. Nanny was asked to double mask around the baby.

My sister is talking about plans for baby number 2. Her dh is not on board until she addressed her anxiety and mental health. My sister is livid and claims yo not understand why he’s “being like this.”

Good for the husband.