I can't be friends with moms of 3+ kids

[Anonymous]

You’re old if you have a 12yo. No wonder you don’t have much in common with non-perimenopausal moms.

Yes, we should execute everyone over the age of 45, I mean really, what is up with all of these old people?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are trolling, obviously too much time on your hands. Maybe have a second to keep you busy?

She can’t. She’s too old.

You think just because a woman is not popping kids out she is too old?
Well, that’s pretty pathetic.

No, I say that because she has a 12-year old.

You might be young and ovulating and ready for popping But doesn’t mean everyone else should too. I know several moms with tween in their 30s and it’s a valid choice to use birth control.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh so now the mommy wars have devolved into HOW MANY kids we have and not just whether we work or stay at home? Geez, I feel like I can't keep up with you ladies!

Seriously! This is wild! Can’t we all agree that OP is nuts and leave it at that? Why are people arguing with each other about their ages and the number of kids they have?

Because people need validation in how many kids they have and being young is valued in this country. This board trends with people having 2 or 3 kids. Anything out of the norm tends to be attacked. So people are attacking old women and moms of single children to validate their choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have different friends with different age children. I have one twelve year old.

I find it impossible to maintain a friendship once they hit child #3.

It's impossible to have adult only time doing something fun because spending $60 an hour for a sitter is too expensive for them. They usually don't have any other support as no one wants to watch their kids for free.

If we get together with kids it's exhausting just to watch - both dad and mom are constantly chasing their 2 year old and 4 year old and making sure they don't kill themselves. You can't have a conversation with them because they're constantly running around after the kids. Also, if you have a nice, clean house with expensive furniture their kids will jump on your nice couch with their shoes on, spill juice on your carpet, leave hand prints on walls, etc. You'll need to do a deep cleaning afterwards.

Finally, they don't have any interests. These women usually don't work. Their life revolves around changing diapers and feedings and there is nothing to talk about other than which gymnastics class to take. It's utterly boring.

This is not a year or two. This lasts years.

All this makes me wonder why women sabotage themselves having 3-4 kids? Why do you do this to yourselves?

Different ages and stages. You have 1 preteen on the cusp of teenagedom. Cultivate friendships with parents in the same stage, regardless of the number of children they have.

[Anonymous]

The judgement from parents of 1 to parents with 3+ is so irritating.

And you are just raising more intolerant people.

[Anonymous]

I always wonder why people with kids ask people with more kids why they had so many. Like Op asks why are you sabotaging yourself? I mean, WHY did you have a kid in the first place? Was your one child not expensive, demanding and messy? I assume it’s for the same reason you had a child.
If you really find children this distasteful, why did you have any at all??

[Anonymous]

Have you ever considered that the people you happen to know totally suck?

[Anonymous]

I find that judgement of families with one is comparable to those with three+. Along the lines of "Whyyyyyy would you not do the exact thing!!!! That we have all told you!!!! to do!!!! 2.5 children!!!!!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always wonder why people with kids ask people with more kids why they had so many. Like Op asks why are you sabotaging yourself? I mean, WHY did you have a kid in the first place? Was your one child not expensive, demanding and messy? I assume it’s for the same reason you had a child.
If you really find children this distasteful, why did you have any at all??

I think OP is being super obnoxious and I would never ask one of my friends with more kids why they had more— that’s rude. But (1) I have been asked a million times when I’m having another and why I don’t want to give my only a sibling, which is also extremely rude, and (2) I think often the people who ask why you have more kids are often speaking from a place of being exhausted and overwhelmed by their 1 or 2. I think it’s said in awe as much is in judgment.

But op is definitely judging and I disagree with her, FTR.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old if you have a 12yo. No wonder you don’t have much in common with non-perimenopausal moms.

Plenty of people with 12 year olds are in their mid 30s and nowhere near menopausal, but hey, at least you tried.

I have a 13 yo and I’m 42. Still ovulating lol. Could probably have another baby if I wanted, I’ve always been plenty fertile and my family has had babies late in life.

A lot of moms in the DC area are having their first kid in their late 30s anyway so some of those toddler moms are the same age as me. This feels irrelevant

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

OP here. No, you're not fun. You don't have anything to talk about other than childcare. You're also always tired because you never get any sleep, but you spend your days cooking and cleaning and you complain all the time about your life. So why do this to yourself?

I’m an AVP at a Big Ten. I travel and am a Master’s swimmer. Bye! Sorry you can’t handle more than one lonely child.

This is horrible mean. It was kind of rude of OP to make judgements in her original post, but this is beyond the pale and really reflects poorly on you. Shame on you. So mean.

OP felt free to make some sweeping generalizations. If you dish it out…

OP insulted you (apparently). YOU insulted a child. That's the difference.

[Anonymous]

I have 5 kids so I have an evolutionary advantage over everyone in this thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 5 kids so I have an evolutionary advantage over everyone in this thread

Except me (I have 7)

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

OP here. No, you're not fun. You don't have anything to talk about other than childcare. You're also always tired because you never get any sleep, but you spend your days cooking and cleaning and you complain all the time about your life. So why do this to yourself?

I’m an AVP at a Big Ten. I travel and am a Master’s swimmer. Bye! Sorry you can’t handle more than one lonely child.

This is horrible mean. It was kind of rude of OP to make judgements in her original post, but this is beyond the pale and really reflects poorly on you. Shame on you. So mean.

OP felt free to make some sweeping generalizations. If you dish it out…

OP insulted you (apparently). YOU insulted a child. That's the difference.

No, that poster didn’t. They said OP wasn’t able to handle more than one. That’s a reflection of the Op, not the kid. They were insulting the OP who no one feels sorry for, except apparently you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have 5 kids so I have an evolutionary advantage over everyone in this thread

Except me (I have 7)

I bow to your evolutionary advantage. May our children marry and take over the world.