I can't be friends with moms of 3+ kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re what, 45? I wouldn’t think we’d have much in common. Moms of online are always anxious and defensive anyway.

Pass.

We’re you under the mistaken impression that OP was inviting you to be her friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re what, 45? I wouldn’t think we’d have much in common. Moms of online are always anxious and defensive anyway.

Pass.

We’re you under the mistaken impression that OP was inviting you to be her friend?

Ugh, “were” not we’re, obviously. Thanks, phone…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are trolling, obviously too much time on your hands. Maybe have a second to keep you busy?

She can’t. She’s too old.

You know every time you post these pithy, nasty little jabs, you’re not scoring a point, but instead are telegraphing your own insecurity for all to see, right? Just checking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have different friends with different age children. I have one twelve year old.

I find it impossible to maintain a friendship once they hit child #3.

It's impossible to have adult only time doing something fun because spending $60 an hour for a sitter is too expensive for them. They usually don't have any other support as no one wants to watch their kids for free.

If we get together with kids it's exhausting just to watch - both dad and mom are constantly chasing their 2 year old and 4 year old and making sure they don't kill themselves. You can't have a conversation with them because they're constantly running around after the kids. Also, if you have a nice, clean house with expensive furniture their kids will jump on your nice couch with their shoes on, spill juice on your carpet, leave hand prints on walls, etc. You'll need to do a deep cleaning afterwards.

Finally, they don't have any interests. These women usually don't work. Their life revolves around changing diapers and feedings and there is nothing to talk about other than which gymnastics class to take. It's utterly boring.

This is not a year or two. This lasts years.

All this makes me wonder why women sabotage themselves having 3-4 kids? Why do you do this to yourselves?

And is your cubicle 9-5 job so interesting to hear about? It
Is it so very fulfilling?

You know that many people have fulfilling, remunerative careers that don’t involve “cubicles,” don’t you?

[Anonymous]

Actually I think they just don’t want to be friends with you. I wouldn’t.

- mom of two

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp w 5 kids. I socialize w childless people. I have a spouse who can babysit. I really don't see how its any harder than 2 in terms of my social life. Once you need babysitting you need babysitting

So you live in the dc area? So you like exploiting other people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 4yo (only right now for the next 3 months) and my friend has a 4yo (only forever - they’re one and done). She spends every playdate attached to the hip with her kid, even though we could easily let them hang out in the playroom while we chat on the couch. It’s so annoying!! They’re 4, not 2! They can be alone for 15 min in a room 30 feet away[/quote

Dp. Perhaps her kid has anxiety that she doesnt wish to share that information? Just be ause your four year old is ready doesn't mean her four year old is.

Stop being judgemental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re what, 45? I wouldn’t think we’d have much in common. Moms of online are always anxious and defensive anyway.

Pass.

We’re you under the mistaken impression that OP was inviting you to be her friend?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh so now the mommy wars have devolved into HOW MANY kids we have and not just whether we work or stay at home? Geez, I feel like I can't keep up with you ladies!

Seriously! This is wild! Can’t we all agree that OP is nuts and leave it at that? Why are people arguing with each other about their ages and the number of kids they have?

[Anonymous]

It's okay, OP. I don't waste my time being friends with people as smug and judgmental as you, anyway.

-FT working mom of three who has her own interests and can hold a conversation just fine, thank you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re what, 45? I wouldn’t think we’d have much in common. Moms of online are always anxious and defensive anyway.

Pass.

We’re you under the mistaken impression that OP was inviting you to be her friend?

Ugh, “were” not we’re, obviously. Thanks, phone…

Oh no, you were trying to sink a shot, and missed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh so now the mommy wars have devolved into HOW MANY kids we have and not just whether we work or stay at home? Geez, I feel like I can't keep up with you ladies!

Seriously! This is wild! Can’t we all agree that OP is nuts and leave it at that? Why are people arguing with each other about their ages and the number of kids they have?

Everyone wants external validation that they "made the right choice" when it comes to the composition of their family.

I have one friend who straight up told me "[MY DS's NAME] will be so sad if you don't give him a sibling." They are currently pregnant with their 2nd.

I have another friend - a single guy with no kids - who said to me: "I love my sister so much. I wish I had a 3rd sibling, and a 4th sibling, and a 5th sibling....you should definitely have at least 3 kids. That would make [MY DS's NAME] happiest."


People want validation that their life is the best. Ignore and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

Is this an oxymoron? As for you ovulating…eewwww.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re old if you have a 12yo. No wonder you don’t have much in common with non-perimenopausal moms.

Plenty of people with 12 year olds are in their mid 30s and nowhere near menopausal, but hey, at least you tried.

Oh, we know. They’re the jobless ones who can’t afford anything.

[Anonymous]

This thread has been very eye opening and hilarious. So glad to be childfree!