Was accidentally on a group text...

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Anonymous wrote:Op should use this as a reality check to get her kids behavior under control before the invites stop all together.

Oh dearie me.

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"Confused should I bring extra wine for all because we are coming, or will you be providing me extra wine because I live with him and will be taking him home with me?"

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Anonymous wrote:"Confused should I bring extra wine for all because we are coming, or will you be providing me extra wine because I live with him and will be taking him home with me?"

I hate this response, even in jest. What if your kid saw it? We're supposed to back our kids up; not use them as social fodder and joke about how terrible they are to ingratiate ourselves with a mom group.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d have Dad take him to the party. Clearly these women are mean and they aren’t worth being around.

I’d also think about switching schools if that makes sense (depending on how big an issue behaviors are), or at least evaluate who you are close enough to text. Real friends will accept your child and not talk about them behind your back.

I've done that when I cannot stand the Moms. They used that to then get their husbands to do the parties too. It was pretty funny.

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Anonymous wrote:Op should use this as a reality check to get her kids behavior under control before the invites stop all together.

OP does need to work with her child on behavior but that's not the point.

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I wouldn’t respond and I wouldn’t open it up for discussion with anyone else. They showed you who they are, believe them....the first time.

I’d had a bad feeling about another parent (and their kid) for some time and got a gossipy condescending text message from them. It was clear that she had been entertaining gossip about my kid. The fact that she came at me with it was shocking. I’m thinking she may have a drinking problem or something. The number is now blocked, I don’t put up with that kind of crap. Life is too short!

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Anonymous wrote:I would take those words to heart. The person who sent that text knew she’d find a receptive audience because at least some of the other parents feel the same way about your child. My middle brother was that child. My best friend’s son is that child. It is really hard for you to hear it, but also hard for everyone who has to share a social space with your DS.

This 100%. I guarantee you they've talked about your kid behind both your backs. It might be best for everyone if you all went your separate ways, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I would take those words to heart. The person who sent that text knew she’d find a receptive audience because at least some of the other parents feel the same way about your child. My middle brother was that child. My best friend’s son is that child. It is really hard for you to hear it, but also hard for everyone who has to share a social space with your DS.

+1

This, OP. I also agree with the poster upthread that kids like this can turn out to be amazing in adulthood -- however, that is likely with stellar parenting and support. But people usually have this attitude towards kids when they are a handful AND under-parented, so you might need to self-reflect a bit here.

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17:56 and 17:59 are spot on.

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I can’t even remember the names of all the horrible moms I pretended to like because my kids liked their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would take those words to heart. The person who sent that text knew she’d find a receptive audience because at least some of the other parents feel the same way about your child. My middle brother was that child. My best friend’s son is that child. It is really hard for you to hear it, but also hard for everyone who has to share a social space with your DS.

+1

This, OP. I also agree with the poster upthread that kids like this can turn out to be amazing in adulthood -- however, that is likely with stellar parenting and support. But people usually have this attitude towards kids when they are a handful AND under-parented, so you might need to self-reflect a bit here.

I'm sure some kids are "under-parented" per certain groups' social norms. But I think it's much more often true that self-righteous moms have no clue what it's like to parent difficult or SN kids, and are judgmental about attributing difficulties to parenting.

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Agree with others that everyone agrees with the person that sent the text. You now know where your group stands. They don't like your kid and/or how you handle your kid.

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Anonymous wrote:I think I'd go with "Happy holidays, Suzie! -- Larlo's mom"

This. exactly this. Please. It’s the only response. You get the opportunity to stay classy while she melts.

. I love this! Please do it and please come back and tell us what happens! 🤣🤣

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would take those words to heart. The person who sent that text knew she’d find a receptive audience because at least some of the other parents feel the same way about your child. My middle brother was that child. My best friend’s son is that child. It is really hard for you to hear it, but also hard for everyone who has to share a social space with your DS.

+1

This, OP. I also agree with the poster upthread that kids like this can turn out to be amazing in adulthood -- however, that is likely with stellar parenting and support. But people usually have this attitude towards kids when they are a handful AND under-parented, so you might need to self-reflect a bit here.

I'm sure some kids are "under-parented" per certain groups' social norms. But I think it's much more often true that self-righteous moms have no clue what it's like to parent difficult or SN kids, and are judgmental about attributing difficulties to parenting.

I've literally never seen someone say a bad thing about a child or parent, no matter the behavior, when the parents are clearly doing everything they can. When you become a private joke on a group email or text, public perception is that you are indeed poorly parenting the kid. And that's based on what people see when they're with you.

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Anonymous wrote:We had that one kid too and we loved the mom. And the kid too but still. We also would never call him out like that on a text. Ever. That is poor form. That mom is an idiot.

I would reply back "I don't think Advil should be combined with wine, but I am happy to bring a bottle of red. See you guys soon!"

Perfect.