Drafted letter to other woman’s husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you assume he doesn't already know?

She’s had multiple and is a pathological, manipulative liar. He’s clueless. She plans to divorce him and make him think it’s his fault.

Not going to an overly dramatic place here but if she truly is pathological then please just keep more of an open eye than you might have otherwise. Sometimes unhinged people will do some pretty crazy stuff. If she has no regard for your health and well being (which it sounds like she doesn't) she may try to retaliate. Calling your DH's employer and trying to cause trouble is what sprang to mind. Not saying don't send the letter, saying please look out for yourself.

+1 A bit mistake people make is assuming people all think rationally and respond in a predictable way. Screwed up people are not normal. They do crazy, hurtful, retaliatory things that most people would never do. Thinking about revenge is one thing, but some people actually DO IT. Be careful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you assume he doesn't already know?

She’s had multiple and is a pathological, manipulative liar. He’s clueless. She plans to divorce him and make him think it’s his fault.

Not going to an overly dramatic place here but if she truly is pathological then please just keep more of an open eye than you might have otherwise. Sometimes unhinged people will do some pretty crazy stuff. If she has no regard for your health and well being (which it sounds like she doesn't) she may try to retaliate. Calling your DH's employer and trying to cause trouble is what sprang to mind. Not saying don't send the letter, saying please look out for yourself.

+1 A bit mistake people make is assuming people all think rationally and respond in a predictable way. Screwed up people are not normal. They do crazy, hurtful, retaliatory things that most people would never do. Thinking about revenge is one thing, but some people actually DO IT. Be careful.

Yes. Something cheaters need to realize too. You have no idea what a betrayed spouse will do when they find out. It goes both ways. Family and children and home are the biggest things in life. You sh@t on that—look out. It’s not always the “Alex” (Fatal Attraction) that will do crazy things, sometimes it’s the spouse whom you didn’t think or care about.

[Anonymous]

Send it for sure OP. If I were the spouse I would want to know and to get a health checkup.

However, do it anon and make it look like it came from a concerned neighbor. Say they saw her multiple times with this man.

Then get divorced and move forward!

[Anonymous]

Do not send a letter. Deal with your own marriage.

You have no idea whatsoever what the OW's marriage is like. It could be an open marriage, they could be staying only for kids, they could have been sleeping in separate beds for years, they could already be separated, she could want a divorce, he could want a divorce, he could be cheating, he could be abusive...you have absolutely no idea.

If you are mad about the cheating, deal with it with your own husband or divorce him. The OW is not your concern.

[Anonymous]

Sending a letter like that makes YOU look crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not send a letter. Deal with your own marriage.

You have no idea whatsoever what the OW's marriage is like. It could be an open marriage, they could be staying only for kids, they could have been sleeping in separate beds for years, they could already be separated, she could want a divorce, he could want a divorce, he could be cheating, he could be abusive...you have absolutely no idea.

If you are mad about the cheating, deal with it with your own husband or divorce him. The OW is not your concern.

Irrelevant. Not OP’s concern. AT ALL. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

OW could interpret that as...having betrayed spouse f@ck her husband behind her back OR telling the other betrayed spouse because it is the correct thing to do for health and safety reasons.

A whore is not her concern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sending a letter like that makes YOU look crazy.

Nah. Just makes the OW look like the complete dirty, lying whore scumbag that she is. Victim blaming us so overdone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send it for sure OP. If I were the spouse I would want to know and to get a health checkup.

However, do it anon and make it look like it came from a concerned neighbor. Say they saw her multiple times with this man.

Then get divorced and move forward!

I’m sure the neighbors did see Mr. Friday walking up the walkway every other Friday around noon for YEARS.

I’m sure the entire neighborhood knows...except the husband. Poor guy. Poor kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Send it for sure OP. If I were the spouse I would want to know and to get a health checkup.

However, do it anon and make it look like it came from a concerned neighbor. Say they saw her multiple times with this man.

Then get divorced and move forward!

I’m sure the neighbors did see Mr. Friday walking up the walkway every other Friday around noon for YEARS.

I’m sure the entire neighborhood knows...except the husband. Poor guy. Poor kids.

Which makes it completely plausible for a neighbor to send the note...

[Anonymous]

I’d have to sell the house. Gross

[Anonymous]

I say go tell em in person.
If you gonna deliver a message then DELIVER IT.
Mail is a punk way out.

[Anonymous]

I agree. Go tell them in person. My friend did that when his wife was cheating on him with another guy and my friend and the wife ended up falling in love too.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you do go tell them in person and there are kids there please ask the adult(s) to step outside for a moment. The kids are truly innocent in all of this and yes, their mom made a shit choice for them but that's not their fault and they don't deserve to suffer any more than they already have or will. Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Email. cc the other woman.

I did it. It was so GD satisfying.

I like that. Do it on her birthday (very easy to find on the Internet)

Every birthday she can relive the pain of discovery. Great idea. She ruined your life and she will think about it forever. She can have every one of her future birthdays reliving this horror.

You crazies really do not understand how the other side lives, feels, and carries on in life.

Enjoy your bitterness and thinking you delivered humble pie. Trust me, this letter will do nothing to the OW, her husband, or her marriage. Her marriage is not yours. If she had shame and horror over cheating she wouldn't have done it in the first place.

That’s not what the email she sent me two years later said.

[Anonymous]

^ the things people should think about before they f@ck other people’s spouses. They didn’t care about their kids, their spouse or the other woman and her kids. Selfish, selfish awful people. Yes. She should have thought about how the fallout would affect her kids and thus innocent woman’s life before seeking out married men to f@ck. And same with the guy she did f@ck. Playing games with people’s lives.