SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh look. Another whiny WOHM.

OP, you can't handle working and parenting then quit.

Oh I can handle it fine. I just can't handle listening to SAHMs who have school aged kids complain they are busy. Especially when it's to get out of helping out on things like school functions or girl scout activities.

There it is!!! You’re mad because the SAHMs aren’t providing as much free labor as you would like them to.

Guess what? Nobody owes you free labor regardless of work status. Grow up OP. Read some threads about how so many people hate school functions and room parents make insane demands for class parties, don’t even get me started on the PTA...

Hahahaha free labor?? You are a free LOADER if your child participates in any school activities, field trips, lunch program, carline, after school enrichment like scouts or sports, if you never help out in any way. All of these activities require volunteers to make it happen. I think perhaps you are the one who needs to grow up for the sake of your children. Sad that your child never has your participation in these things yet benefits from them.

SAHMs calling others freeloaders. The ultimate irony.

This is such an interesting dynamic. Working moms denigrate SAHMs all the time, yet feel entitled to these women's unpaid labor. I wonder how these women keep a job with such terrible social skills.

In what sense? I’ve never used a SAHM for anything. All the class volunteers in my kids classrooms work. What exactly is this labor? And are they forced to do it? *tiny violin

I often get called on snow days or other days off school to babysit and its annoying. They aren't offering to pay and I want those days with my kids. If I wanted their kid, I'd invite them. And, when I take their kids, I get stuck paying for the outing so their free babysitting costs me money. Our school doesn't have classroom volunteers. Will not allow it. There is a strong expectation that SAHM's help out with child care and other stuff because they are home and people think we are bored. I have plenty to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have just one child (due to secondary infertility--we cannot have more) and I work from home very part-time (10 hours per week). My daughter is in full-day Kindergarten, so this is the first year that I have a lot of time to myself (previously she was in morning preschool 9:30-1 pm).

My husband has a job with crazy hours, and we have no local family/no childcare help. I do all drop offs, pick ups, sick days and snow days because my husband is in the type of field where he can't do any of this. I also do everything in the mornings (husband leaves for work at 5 am). I also do the dinner/bedtime routine myself at least twice a week, and do all childcare 2 weekends per month when my husband travels for work.

During the school day, when not doing my 10hours/week of work I:

-get all grocery shopping/errands during the week when it's not crowded
-clean the house daily, do all deep cleaning
-cook all meals from scratch (we eat out once per week)
-deal with all appointments, car stuff
-shop leisurely at the mall
-take care of personal grooming (hair cut/color every 6 weeks)
-take care of all Dr. appts in a timely fashion
-work out during the day
-meet friends for lunch/coffee during the day
-work on job certifications for my career

On weekends, since all the boring stuff is out of the day, we often do day trips or weekend trips. We also spend most of the weekends on our child's sports/activities, going out for lunch, meeting up with friends, and just relaxing

Are you saying all this to say your are busy? So confused. I'm a working mom and I have to do all of that sort of stuff, too, I mean besides meeting friends for lunch and working out during the day. What is your point?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have just one child (due to secondary infertility--we cannot have more) and I work from home very part-time (10 hours per week). My daughter is in full-day Kindergarten, so this is the first year that I have a lot of time to myself (previously she was in morning preschool 9:30-1 pm).

My husband has a job with crazy hours, and we have no local family/no childcare help. I do all drop offs, pick ups, sick days and snow days because my husband is in the type of field where he can't do any of this. I also do everything in the mornings (husband leaves for work at 5 am). I also do the dinner/bedtime routine myself at least twice a week, and do all childcare 2 weekends per month when my husband travels for work.

During the school day, when not doing my 10hours/week of work I:

-get all grocery shopping/errands during the week when it's not crowded
-clean the house daily, do all deep cleaning
-cook all meals from scratch (we eat out once per week)
-deal with all appointments, car stuff
-shop leisurely at the mall
-take care of personal grooming (hair cut/color every 6 weeks)
-take care of all Dr. appts in a timely fashion
-work out during the day
-meet friends for lunch/coffee during the day
-work on job certifications for my career

On weekends, since all the boring stuff is out of the day, we often do day trips or weekend trips. We also spend most of the weekends on our child's sports/activities, going out for lunch, meeting up with friends, and just relaxing

Are you saying all this to say your are busy? So confused. I'm a working mom and I have to do all of that sort of stuff, too, I mean besides meeting friends for lunch and working out during the day. What is your point?

+1. Please don't think WOHPs don't cook from scratch. I cook from scratch at least four times a week, and leftovers stretches that to seven. We dine out less than any family I know.

I get most of my "boring stuff" during the work week, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have just one child (due to secondary infertility--we cannot have more) and I work from home very part-time (10 hours per week). My daughter is in full-day Kindergarten, so this is the first year that I have a lot of time to myself (previously she was in morning preschool 9:30-1 pm).

My husband has a job with crazy hours, and we have no local family/no childcare help. I do all drop offs, pick ups, sick days and snow days because my husband is in the type of field where he can't do any of this. I also do everything in the mornings (husband leaves for work at 5 am). I also do the dinner/bedtime routine myself at least twice a week, and do all childcare 2 weekends per month when my husband travels for work.

During the school day, when not doing my 10hours/week of work I:

-get all grocery shopping/errands during the week when it's not crowded
-clean the house daily, do all deep cleaning
-cook all meals from scratch (we eat out once per week)
-deal with all appointments, car stuff
-shop leisurely at the mall
-take care of personal grooming (hair cut/color every 6 weeks)
-take care of all Dr. appts in a timely fashion
-work out during the day
-meet friends for lunch/coffee during the day
-work on job certifications for my career

On weekends, since all the boring stuff is out of the day, we often do day trips or weekend trips. We also spend most of the weekends on our child's sports/activities, going out for lunch, meeting up with friends, and just relaxing

Are you saying all this to say your are busy? So confused. I'm a working mom and I have to do all of that sort of stuff, too, I mean besides meeting friends for lunch and working out during the day. What is your point?

+1. Please don't think WOHPs don't cook from scratch. I cook from scratch at least four times a week, and leftovers stretches that to seven. We dine out less than any family I know.

I get most of my "boring stuff" during the work week, too.

Yep. I batch cook on the weekends and also do some cooking in the morning during breakfast time, like roasting veggies for use in a lasagna later etcv

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have just one child (due to secondary infertility--we cannot have more) and I work from home very part-time (10 hours per week). My daughter is in full-day Kindergarten, so this is the first year that I have a lot of time to myself (previously she was in morning preschool 9:30-1 pm).

My husband has a job with crazy hours, and we have no local family/no childcare help. I do all drop offs, pick ups, sick days and snow days because my husband is in the type of field where he can't do any of this. I also do everything in the mornings (husband leaves for work at 5 am). I also do the dinner/bedtime routine myself at least twice a week, and do all childcare 2 weekends per month when my husband travels for work.

During the school day, when not doing my 10hours/week of work I:

-get all grocery shopping/errands during the week when it's not crowded
-clean the house daily, do all deep cleaning
-cook all meals from scratch (we eat out once per week)
-deal with all appointments, car stuff
-shop leisurely at the mall
-take care of personal grooming (hair cut/color every 6 weeks)
-take care of all Dr. appts in a timely fashion
-work out during the day
-meet friends for lunch/coffee during the day
-work on job certifications for my career

On weekends, since all the boring stuff is out of the day, we often do day trips or weekend trips. We also spend most of the weekends on our child's sports/activities, going out for lunch, meeting up with friends, and just relaxing

Are you saying all this to say your are busy? So confused. I'm a working mom and I have to do all of that sort of stuff, too, I mean besides meeting friends for lunch and working out during the day. What is your point?

+1. Please don't think WOHPs don't cook from scratch. I cook from scratch at least four times a week, and leftovers stretches that to seven. We dine out less than any family I know.

I get most of my "boring stuff" during the work week, too.

SAHM, I don't cook a lot as we are never home weeknights with activities. I will cook a few meals/leftover but we are only home one night a week. Cook mainly for the kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh look. Another whiny WOHM.

OP, you can't handle working and parenting then quit.

Oh I can handle it fine. I just can't handle listening to SAHMs who have school aged kids complain they are busy. Especially when it's to get out of helping out on things like school functions or girl scout activities.

There it is!!! You’re mad because the SAHMs aren’t providing as much free labor as you would like them to.

Guess what? Nobody owes you free labor regardless of work status. Grow up OP. Read some threads about how so many people hate school functions and room parents make insane demands for class parties, don’t even get me started on the PTA...

Hahahaha free labor?? You are a free LOADER if your child participates in any school activities, field trips, lunch program, carline, after school enrichment like scouts or sports, if you never help out in any way. All of these activities require volunteers to make it happen. I think perhaps you are the one who needs to grow up for the sake of your children. Sad that your child never has your participation in these things yet benefits from them.

SAHMs calling others freeloaders. The ultimate irony.

This is such an interesting dynamic. Working moms denigrate SAHMs all the time, yet feel entitled to these women's unpaid labor. I wonder how these women keep a job with such terrible social skills.

In what sense? I’ve never used a SAHM for anything. All the class volunteers in my kids classrooms work. What exactly is this labor? And are they forced to do it? *tiny violin

I often get called on snow days or other days off school to babysit and its annoying. They aren't offering to pay and I want those days with my kids. If I wanted their kid, I'd invite them. And, when I take their kids, I get stuck paying for the outing so their free babysitting costs me money. Our school doesn't have classroom volunteers. Will not allow it. There is a strong expectation that SAHM's help out with child care and other stuff because they are home and people think we are bored. I have plenty to do.

Whatever happened to it takes a village? Sad selfish existence PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh look. Another whiny WOHM.

OP, you can't handle working and parenting then quit.

Oh I can handle it fine. I just can't handle listening to SAHMs who have school aged kids complain they are busy. Especially when it's to get out of helping out on things like school functions or girl scout activities.

There it is!!! You’re mad because the SAHMs aren’t providing as much free labor as you would like them to.

Guess what? Nobody owes you free labor regardless of work status. Grow up OP. Read some threads about how so many people hate school functions and room parents make insane demands for class parties, don’t even get me started on the PTA...

Hahahaha free labor?? You are a free LOADER if your child participates in any school activities, field trips, lunch program, carline, after school enrichment like scouts or sports, if you never help out in any way. All of these activities require volunteers to make it happen. I think perhaps you are the one who needs to grow up for the sake of your children. Sad that your child never has your participation in these things yet benefits from them.

SAHMs calling others freeloaders. The ultimate irony.

This is such an interesting dynamic. Working moms denigrate SAHMs all the time, yet feel entitled to these women's unpaid labor. I wonder how these women keep a job with such terrible social skills.

In what sense? I’ve never used a SAHM for anything. All the class volunteers in my kids classrooms work. What exactly is this labor? And are they forced to do it? *tiny violin

The whole premise of this thread is that OP was upset SAHMs sometimes said they were busy when she asked them to volunteer for school functions. OP made it clear that she works and she was annoyed the SAHMs were not the providing the amount of volunteer work that she demanded.

That's what the whole thread is about. OP feels entitled to free labor from women who are SAHMs (It's also clear that she does not feel the same sense of entitlement to WOHMs time.)

[Anonymous]

Listen, OP, you would still bitch to/about me if I said “I don’t want to volunteer on Tuesday.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have just one child (due to secondary infertility--we cannot have more) and I work from home very part-time (10 hours per week). My daughter is in full-day Kindergarten, so this is the first year that I have a lot of time to myself (previously she was in morning preschool 9:30-1 pm).

My husband has a job with crazy hours, and we have no local family/no childcare help. I do all drop offs, pick ups, sick days and snow days because my husband is in the type of field where he can't do any of this. I also do everything in the mornings (husband leaves for work at 5 am). I also do the dinner/bedtime routine myself at least twice a week, and do all childcare 2 weekends per month when my husband travels for work.

During the school day, when not doing my 10hours/week of work I:

-get all grocery shopping/errands during the week when it's not crowded
-clean the house daily, do all deep cleaning
-cook all meals from scratch (we eat out once per week)
-deal with all appointments, car stuff
-shop leisurely at the mall
-take care of personal grooming (hair cut/color every 6 weeks)
-take care of all Dr. appts in a timely fashion
-work out during the day
-meet friends for lunch/coffee during the day
-work on job certifications for my career

On weekends, since all the boring stuff is out of the day, we often do day trips or weekend trips. We also spend most of the weekends on our child's sports/activities, going out for lunch, meeting up with friends, and just relaxing

Are you saying all this to say your are busy? So confused. I'm a working mom and I have to do all of that sort of stuff, too, I mean besides meeting friends for lunch and working out during the day. What is your point?

To defend this PP, I have to say I am in a similar boat, more kids though. And I do see how some working moms might roll their eyes. But if you can actually do all this crap and THEN also go to work put together and be productive, kudos to you. I tried it and I admit it, I could not handle it. I was a complete unprofessional sloppy mess, I was making mistakes at work all the time, and I was cutting out of work at 3, (I don't know how i got away with it so long) and then when I got home I was screaming at my kids to bathe and go to bed, no quality time at all. Honestly, no snark, I could not handle it. I wish I could. We had to make some major lifestyle changes for me to be able to stay home but I don't think i had a choice. For my sanity and for my family's quality of life.

[Anonymous]

We single mom so it all the time. Every day. It's busy, but it's not hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh look. Another whiny WOHM.

OP, you can't handle working and parenting then quit.

Oh I can handle it fine. I just can't handle listening to SAHMs who have school aged kids complain they are busy. Especially when it's to get out of helping out on things like school functions or girl scout activities.

There it is!!! You’re mad because the SAHMs aren’t providing as much free labor as you would like them to.

Guess what? Nobody owes you free labor regardless of work status. Grow up OP. Read some threads about how so many people hate school functions and room parents make insane demands for class parties, don’t even get me started on the PTA...

Hahahaha free labor?? You are a free LOADER if your child participates in any school activities, field trips, lunch program, carline, after school enrichment like scouts or sports, if you never help out in any way. All of these activities require volunteers to make it happen. I think perhaps you are the one who needs to grow up for the sake of your children. Sad that your child never has your participation in these things yet benefits from them.

SAHMs calling others freeloaders. The ultimate irony.

This is such an interesting dynamic. Working moms denigrate SAHMs all the time, yet feel entitled to these women's unpaid labor. I wonder how these women keep a job with such terrible social skills.

In what sense? I’ve never used a SAHM for anything. All the class volunteers in my kids classrooms work. What exactly is this labor? And are they forced to do it? *tiny violin

I often get called on snow days or other days off school to babysit and its annoying. They aren't offering to pay and I want those days with my kids. If I wanted their kid, I'd invite them. And, when I take their kids, I get stuck paying for the outing so their free babysitting costs me money. Our school doesn't have classroom volunteers. Will not allow it. There is a strong expectation that SAHM's help out with child care and other stuff because they are home and people think we are bored. I have plenty to do.

Whatever happened to it takes a village? Sad selfish existence PP.

Really? I’m also a sahm and sick of providing free childcare. I could use the money — and find it ironic that if I ask a fellow parent’s nanny to watch or pick up my kid I have to pay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have just one child (due to secondary infertility--we cannot have more) and I work from home very part-time (10 hours per week). My daughter is in full-day Kindergarten, so this is the first year that I have a lot of time to myself (previously she was in morning preschool 9:30-1 pm).

My husband has a job with crazy hours, and we have no local family/no childcare help. I do all drop offs, pick ups, sick days and snow days because my husband is in the type of field where he can't do any of this. I also do everything in the mornings (husband leaves for work at 5 am). I also do the dinner/bedtime routine myself at least twice a week, and do all childcare 2 weekends per month when my husband travels for work.

During the school day, when not doing my 10hours/week of work I:

-get all grocery shopping/errands during the week when it's not crowded
-clean the house daily, do all deep cleaning
-cook all meals from scratch (we eat out once per week)
-deal with all appointments, car stuff
-shop leisurely at the mall
-take care of personal grooming (hair cut/color every 6 weeks)
-take care of all Dr. appts in a timely fashion
-work out during the day
-meet friends for lunch/coffee during the day
-work on job certifications for my career

On weekends, since all the boring stuff is out of the day, we often do day trips or weekend trips. We also spend most of the weekends on our child's sports/activities, going out for lunch, meeting up with friends, and just relaxing

Are you saying all this to say your are busy? So confused. I'm a working mom and I have to do all of that sort of stuff, too, I mean besides meeting friends for lunch and working out during the day. What is your point?

So tired of hearing this same line from WOHM. We get it, you do so much more than SAHM so they have no right to complain. Anyway the pp is just trying to demonstrate what she does during a school day since people “can’t imagine” what SAHMs do all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We single mom so it all the time. Every day. It's busy, but it's not hard.

Choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We single mom so it all the time. Every day. It's busy, but it's not hard.

Awesome! You should volunteer for OPs projects.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We single mom so it all the time. Every day. It's busy, but it's not hard.

Choices.

Like choosing to say something c unty to another mom?