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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him. How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?

+1. I was too lazy to address the post, because clearly she's a lost cause, but you did an admirable job!

Congrats you magically fixed a mom of a boy or at least put her in her place.

Which again is why moms of boys can't stand being around moms of girls.

#controlfreaks

Thanks for adding a hashtag to your post so that moms of boys could follow along...they need breadcrumbs from other boy moms so they know what to think.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him. How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?

This is a different discussion, but do you think you might have liked math if it had been taught a different way? If it was obvious to your mom that you would have, do you think she should have intervened with the school or just let you think that you “don’t get” math or “don’t like” it?

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

Sorry that school sucked. But that doesn't make the boys down the street pushing my 5yo and pulling my 3yo's hair OK. That is bad behavior. My girls are right there climbing trees and knocking around on the trampoline with the boys. But sometimes things get out of hand. When my 3yo grabs a toy out of a boy's hands, I am on it and I address the behavior. I don't want to hear how #ALLBOY that same kid is when he knocks a container of sidewalk chalk out of her hands.

And I let them work it out. You don't have to police every little misstep.

Right. Work on your reading comprehension. As I said, 70% of the time is fine; 10% is hiccups they work out on our own; 10% is my girls misbehaving and me needing to step in; and 10% is the other mom ignoring bad behavior BECAUSE BOYS.

I don't police "every little misstep." But when a 3yo and a 3.5yo (girl and boy, respectively) are involved, stuff happens.

See this is why moms of boys can't deal with moms of girls.

You need to seriously learn to relax.

So you don't understand basic percentages and logic. Got it.

And you still don't get your being a drama queen.

I think you mean "you're" being a drama queen.

Wow, it's either one mom who really is consistently bad of grammar, or there is something to the #boymom = bad at grammar dynamic that was pointed out early on in this thread.

Things to review:

Difference between "your" and "you're"

Difference between plural and possessive (it's "moms of boys" not "mom's of boys").

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him. How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?

+1. I was too lazy to address the post, because clearly she's a lost cause, but you did an admirable job!

Congrats you magically fixed a mom of a boy or at least put her in her place.

Which again is why moms of boys can't stand being around moms of girls.

#controlfreaks

DP here: Nothing in this thread is about the fact that her kid is a boy. Kids in 2nd grade need to do assignments at school. Parents who step in to "correct" the administration when they get called in because their kid is not participating in class are shitty parents, regardless of the gender of the monster they're raising. Coloring isn't a girl thing. Refusing to color isn't a boy thing.

Deciding to take a stand for #allboys because your kid is in trouble with the teacher over a coloring worksheet is ... well, it's something else entirely.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him. How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?

+1. I was too lazy to address the post, because clearly she's a lost cause, but you did an admirable job!

Congrats you magically fixed a mom of a boy or at least put her in her place.

Which again is why moms of boys can't stand being around moms of girls.

#controlfreaks

Yikes. Whatever you say, mother of the next Brock Turner.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

See, I have the opposite experience. I have some friends/neighbors with girls who are rough at times and behave badly (hitting etc.) and their moms make excuses because "girl power." Or they think it is cute. Do you remember the post here recently where the mom was secretly glad her toddler daughter shoved a toddler boy who was trying to engage her? Moms of both genders excuse poor behavior, but I see it much more from moms of girls.

That's all fine, and I don't try to negate your experience. But it doesn't change my experience. Far and away, the refuse-to-address-the-behavior parents are the #MOMSOFBOYS. Interestingly enough, their husbands are usually very quick to jump in and tell their kids to knock it off. I find that to be interesting.

I'm not going to argue with you about your experience, but again, it doesn't change mine.

Wow, thank you for the pointless reiteration of your experience. As you so vehemently expressed, your experience does not change mine either. So, some people have experienced more moms of boys making excuses and some people have experienced more moms of girls making excuses. Isn't that fascinating?

Here's what: I never argued with your experience. You "See" argued with mine. See?

Do you not understand what "see" means? It's a colloquial way of beginning a conversation, expressing a thought, or relating an experience that may differ from someone else's. See?

It's the "conversational" equivalent of a dude propping his leg up on top of something before launching into a monologue.

Saying "see?" What in the world? Do you always meticulously pick apart and misconstrue every word of conversation with others? Please, try to relax. This level of neuroses will drive you and your children to the edge.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

Sorry that school sucked. But that doesn't make the boys down the street pushing my 5yo and pulling my 3yo's hair OK. That is bad behavior. My girls are right there climbing trees and knocking around on the trampoline with the boys. But sometimes things get out of hand. When my 3yo grabs a toy out of a boy's hands, I am on it and I address the behavior. I don't want to hear how #ALLBOY that same kid is when he knocks a container of sidewalk chalk out of her hands.

And I let them work it out. You don't have to police every little misstep.

Right. Work on your reading comprehension. As I said, 70% of the time is fine; 10% is hiccups they work out on our own; 10% is my girls misbehaving and me needing to step in; and 10% is the other mom ignoring bad behavior BECAUSE BOYS.

I don't police "every little misstep." But when a 3yo and a 3.5yo (girl and boy, respectively) are involved, stuff happens.

See this is why moms of boys can't deal with moms of girls.

You need to seriously learn to relax.

So you don't understand basic percentages and logic. Got it.

And you still don't get your being a drama queen.

I think you mean "you're" being a drama queen.

Wow, it's either one mom who really is consistently bad of grammar, or there is something to the #boymom = bad at grammar dynamic that was pointed out early on in this thread.

Things to review:

Difference between "your" and "you're"

Difference between plural and possessive (it's "moms of boys" not "mom's of boys").

Hahaha I am wondering this too

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Anonymous wrote:My best friend uses this hashtag often. She has two daughters and her third was a boy. So I think it’s kind of silly... she has a boy and two girls. I think the hashtag applies when all you have all boys, but whatever. On a side note, when she found out she was having a boy, she was devastated and I had to get her head back on straight because, while I only have girls, my only wish was a healthy human, and boy or girl aside, it should be about their health. I gave her some tough love because I can’t deal with such ridiculousness.

PP here and this is what I was saying!!!! Only moms who DO NOT WANT BOYS or WANT A GIRL use the #boymom. That’s my point exactly.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

See, I have the opposite experience. I have some friends/neighbors with girls who are rough at times and behave badly (hitting etc.) and their moms make excuses because "girl power." Or they think it is cute. Do you remember the post here recently where the mom was secretly glad her toddler daughter shoved a toddler boy who was trying to engage her? Moms of both genders excuse poor behavior, but I see it much more from moms of girls.

That's all fine, and I don't try to negate your experience. But it doesn't change my experience. Far and away, the refuse-to-address-the-behavior parents are the #MOMSOFBOYS. Interestingly enough, their husbands are usually very quick to jump in and tell their kids to knock it off. I find that to be interesting.

I'm not going to argue with you about your experience, but again, it doesn't change mine.

Wow, thank you for the pointless reiteration of your experience. As you so vehemently expressed, your experience does not change mine either. So, some people have experienced more moms of boys making excuses and some people have experienced more moms of girls making excuses. Isn't that fascinating?

Here's what: I never argued with your experience. You "See" argued with mine. See?

Do you not understand what "see" means? It's a colloquial way of beginning a conversation, expressing a thought, or relating an experience that may differ from someone else's. See?

It's the "conversational" equivalent of a dude propping his leg up on top of something before launching into a monologue.

Saying "see?" What in the world? Do you always meticulously pick apart and misconstrue every word of conversation with others? Please, try to relax. This level of neuroses will drive you and your children to the edge.

NP. It's not neurotic to point out that someone is a know it all jerk when that someone is acting like a jerk.

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This post explains a lot.

Last year my son and his friends ditch the idea of taking dates to homecoming.

Four boys asked girls to homecoming and planned a nice night with the girls, they all planned it together after school.

Then the girls (or their moms) changed all the plans and 2 girls asked the boys to change what they were wearing to "Look nicer" with their dresses. They provided links to their new outfits.

I thought my son was exaggerating, but after reading these moms of girls post, WOW! I don't think he was exaggerating.

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Anonymous wrote:This post explains a lot.

Last year my son and his friends ditch the idea of taking dates to homecoming.

Four boys asked girls to homecoming and planned a nice night with the girls, they all planned it together after school.

Then the girls (or their moms) changed all the plans and 2 girls asked the boys to change what they were wearing to "Look nicer" with their dresses. They provided links to their new outfits.

I thought my son was exaggerating, but after reading these moms of girls post, WOW! I don't think he was exaggerating.

What on earth? This seems like a complete non sequitur.

An important note since you seem confused -- people disagreeing with the grammatically nonsensical #boymom who refuses to spend time with people who have daughters aren't all moms of girls. let alone moms of only girls. There's nothing inherently different about women who give birth to boys and women who give birth to girls. We're all contributing an X here.

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Anonymous wrote:My best friend uses this hashtag often. She has two daughters and her third was a boy. So I think it’s kind of silly... she has a boy and two girls. I think the hashtag applies when all you have all boys, but whatever. On a side note, when she found out she was having a boy, she was devastated and I had to get her head back on straight because, while I only have girls, my only wish was a healthy human, and boy or girl aside, it should be about their health. I gave her some tough love because I can’t deal with such ridiculousness.

PP here and this is what I was saying!!!! Only moms who DO NOT WANT BOYS or WANT A GIRL use the #boymom. That’s my point exactly.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him. How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?

+1. I was too lazy to address the post, because clearly she's a lost cause, but you did an admirable job!

Congrats you magically fixed a mom of a boy or at least put her in her place.

Which again is why moms of boys can't stand being around moms of girls.

#controlfreaks

DP here: Nothing in this thread is about the fact that her kid is a boy. Kids in 2nd grade need to do assignments at school. Parents who step in to "correct" the administration when they get called in because their kid is not participating in class are shitty parents, regardless of the gender of the monster they're raising. Coloring isn't a girl thing. Refusing to color isn't a boy thing.

Deciding to take a stand for #allboys because your kid is in trouble with the teacher over a coloring worksheet is ... well, it's something else entirely.

He is in fourth grade, not second. I have made him do the coloring for years and years, thinking it would eventually end. And it isn’t just math. It’s science, social studies, writing, etc. I honestly regret not talking to his teachers earlier. Now I have a child who thinks he is stupid and bad at school because he doesn’t like to color.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

Sorry that school sucked. But that doesn't make the boys down the street pushing my 5yo and pulling my 3yo's hair OK. That is bad behavior. My girls are right there climbing trees and knocking around on the trampoline with the boys. But sometimes things get out of hand. When my 3yo grabs a toy out of a boy's hands, I am on it and I address the behavior. I don't want to hear how #ALLBOY that same kid is when he knocks a container of sidewalk chalk out of her hands.

And I let them work it out. You don't have to police every little misstep.

Right. Work on your reading comprehension. As I said, 70% of the time is fine; 10% is hiccups they work out on our own; 10% is my girls misbehaving and me needing to step in; and 10% is the other mom ignoring bad behavior BECAUSE BOYS.

I don't police "every little misstep." But when a 3yo and a 3.5yo (girl and boy, respectively) are involved, stuff happens.

See this is why moms of boys can't deal with moms of girls.

You need to seriously learn to relax.

So you don't understand basic percentages and logic. Got it.

And you still don't get your being a drama queen.

I think you mean "you're" being a drama queen.

Wow, it's either one mom who really is consistently bad of grammar, or there is something to the #boymom = bad at grammar dynamic that was pointed out early on in this thread.

Things to review:

Difference between "your" and "you're"

Difference between plural and possessive (it's "moms of boys" not "mom's of boys").

OMG ... If you can't fix their parenting fix their grammar.

Is this a boy mom just trying to make girl moms look crazy or is this real.

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Anonymous wrote:This post explains a lot.

Last year my son and his friends ditch the idea of taking dates to homecoming.

Four boys asked girls to homecoming and planned a nice night with the girls, they all planned it together after school.

Then the girls (or their moms) changed all the plans and 2 girls asked the boys to change what they were wearing to "Look nicer" with their dresses. They provided links to their new outfits.

I thought my son was exaggerating, but after reading these moms of girls post, WOW! I don't think he was exaggerating.

The funny thing is, several times, someone assuming a poster was a "mom of girls" was, in fact, a mom of boys.

There's a difference between a #boymom and a mom of boys.

There's a difference between a #girlmom and a mom of girls.

If you don't see the difference, either spend some time reflecting...or carry on and take up your hashtag.