#boymom?

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

See, I have the opposite experience. I have some friends/neighbors with girls who are rough at times and behave badly (hitting etc.) and their moms make excuses because "girl power." Or they think it is cute. Do you remember the post here recently where the mom was secretly glad her toddler daughter shoved a toddler boy who was trying to engage her? Moms of both genders excuse poor behavior, but I see it much more from moms of girls.

That's all fine, and I don't try to negate your experience. But it doesn't change my experience. Far and away, the refuse-to-address-the-behavior parents are the #MOMSOFBOYS. Interestingly enough, their husbands are usually very quick to jump in and tell their kids to knock it off. I find that to be interesting.

I'm not going to argue with you about your experience, but again, it doesn't change mine.

Wow, thank you for the pointless reiteration of your experience. As you so vehemently expressed, your experience does not change mine either. So, some people have experienced more moms of boys making excuses and some people have experienced more moms of girls making excuses. Isn't that fascinating?

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Reading DCUM has made me want all boys. #goodness

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

See, I have the opposite experience. I have some friends/neighbors with girls who are rough at times and behave badly (hitting etc.) and their moms make excuses because "girl power." Or they think it is cute. Do you remember the post here recently where the mom was secretly glad her toddler daughter shoved a toddler boy who was trying to engage her? Moms of both genders excuse poor behavior, but I see it much more from moms of girls.

That's all fine, and I don't try to negate your experience. But it doesn't change my experience. Far and away, the refuse-to-address-the-behavior parents are the #MOMSOFBOYS. Interestingly enough, their husbands are usually very quick to jump in and tell their kids to knock it off. I find that to be interesting.

I'm not going to argue with you about your experience, but again, it doesn't change mine.

Wow, thank you for the pointless reiteration of your experience. As you so vehemently expressed, your experience does not change mine either. So, some people have experienced more moms of boys making excuses and some people have experienced more moms of girls making excuses. Isn't that fascinating?

Here's what: I never argued with your experience. You "See" argued with mine. See?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him. How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him. How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?

THANK YOU. I could not believe this post - talk about horrible parenting. You are not doing your little snowflake ANY favors here, helicopter mom.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

Sorry that school sucked. But that doesn't make the boys down the street pushing my 5yo and pulling my 3yo's hair OK. That is bad behavior. My girls are right there climbing trees and knocking around on the trampoline with the boys. But sometimes things get out of hand. When my 3yo grabs a toy out of a boy's hands, I am on it and I address the behavior. I don't want to hear how #ALLBOY that same kid is when he knocks a container of sidewalk chalk out of her hands.

And I let them work it out. You don't have to police every little misstep.

Right. Work on your reading comprehension. As I said, 70% of the time is fine; 10% is hiccups they work out on our own; 10% is my girls misbehaving and me needing to step in; and 10% is the other mom ignoring bad behavior BECAUSE BOYS.

I don't police "every little misstep." But when a 3yo and a 3.5yo (girl and boy, respectively) are involved, stuff happens.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

See, I have the opposite experience. I have some friends/neighbors with girls who are rough at times and behave badly (hitting etc.) and their moms make excuses because "girl power." Or they think it is cute. Do you remember the post here recently where the mom was secretly glad her toddler daughter shoved a toddler boy who was trying to engage her? Moms of both genders excuse poor behavior, but I see it much more from moms of girls.

That's all fine, and I don't try to negate your experience. But it doesn't change my experience. Far and away, the refuse-to-address-the-behavior parents are the #MOMSOFBOYS. Interestingly enough, their husbands are usually very quick to jump in and tell their kids to knock it off. I find that to be interesting.

I'm not going to argue with you about your experience, but again, it doesn't change mine.

Wow, thank you for the pointless reiteration of your experience. As you so vehemently expressed, your experience does not change mine either. So, some people have experienced more moms of boys making excuses and some people have experienced more moms of girls making excuses. Isn't that fascinating?

Here's what: I never argued with your experience. You "See" argued with mine. See?

Do you not understand what "see" means? It's a colloquial way of beginning a conversation, expressing a thought, or relating an experience that may differ from someone else's. See?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him. How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?

+1. I was too lazy to address the post, because clearly she's a lost cause, but you did an admirable job!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

Sorry that school sucked. But that doesn't make the boys down the street pushing my 5yo and pulling my 3yo's hair OK. That is bad behavior. My girls are right there climbing trees and knocking around on the trampoline with the boys. But sometimes things get out of hand. When my 3yo grabs a toy out of a boy's hands, I am on it and I address the behavior. I don't want to hear how #ALLBOY that same kid is when he knocks a container of sidewalk chalk out of her hands.

And I let them work it out. You don't have to police every little misstep.

Right. Work on your reading comprehension. As I said, 70% of the time is fine; 10% is hiccups they work out on our own; 10% is my girls misbehaving and me needing to step in; and 10% is the other mom ignoring bad behavior BECAUSE BOYS.

I don't police "every little misstep." But when a 3yo and a 3.5yo (girl and boy, respectively) are involved, stuff happens.

See this is why moms of boys can't deal with moms of girls.

You need to seriously learn to relax.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him. How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?

+1. I was too lazy to address the post, because clearly she's a lost cause, but you did an admirable job!

+ a million. I hope that mom has a roomy basement, because she should be prepared for her kid who is too special to color at 9 years old to live in it when he's an entitled adult who hasn't had to do anything he doesn't like or want to do for his whole life. This mom should bookmark this post, because it will help her to identify exactly when her parenting went off the rails (although I suspect it's been going on for much longer than this). Have fun, mom of kid who shouldn't have to color!!

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

See, I have the opposite experience. I have some friends/neighbors with girls who are rough at times and behave badly (hitting etc.) and their moms make excuses because "girl power." Or they think it is cute. Do you remember the post here recently where the mom was secretly glad her toddler daughter shoved a toddler boy who was trying to engage her? Moms of both genders excuse poor behavior, but I see it much more from moms of girls.

That's all fine, and I don't try to negate your experience. But it doesn't change my experience. Far and away, the refuse-to-address-the-behavior parents are the #MOMSOFBOYS. Interestingly enough, their husbands are usually very quick to jump in and tell their kids to knock it off. I find that to be interesting.

I'm not going to argue with you about your experience, but again, it doesn't change mine.

Wow, thank you for the pointless reiteration of your experience. As you so vehemently expressed, your experience does not change mine either. So, some people have experienced more moms of boys making excuses and some people have experienced more moms of girls making excuses. Isn't that fascinating?

Here's what: I never argued with your experience. You "See" argued with mine. See?

Do you not understand what "see" means? It's a colloquial way of beginning a conversation, expressing a thought, or relating an experience that may differ from someone else's. See?

It's the "conversational" equivalent of a dude propping his leg up on top of something before launching into a monologue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

Sorry that school sucked. But that doesn't make the boys down the street pushing my 5yo and pulling my 3yo's hair OK. That is bad behavior. My girls are right there climbing trees and knocking around on the trampoline with the boys. But sometimes things get out of hand. When my 3yo grabs a toy out of a boy's hands, I am on it and I address the behavior. I don't want to hear how #ALLBOY that same kid is when he knocks a container of sidewalk chalk out of her hands.

And I let them work it out. You don't have to police every little misstep.

Right. Work on your reading comprehension. As I said, 70% of the time is fine; 10% is hiccups they work out on our own; 10% is my girls misbehaving and me needing to step in; and 10% is the other mom ignoring bad behavior BECAUSE BOYS.

I don't police "every little misstep." But when a 3yo and a 3.5yo (girl and boy, respectively) are involved, stuff happens.

See this is why moms of boys can't deal with moms of girls.

You need to seriously learn to relax.

So you don't understand basic percentages and logic. Got it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him. How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?

+1. I was too lazy to address the post, because clearly she's a lost cause, but you did an admirable job!

Congrats you magically fixed a mom of a boy or at least put her in her place.

Which again is why moms of boys can't stand being around moms of girls.

#controlfreaks

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

Sorry that school sucked. But that doesn't make the boys down the street pushing my 5yo and pulling my 3yo's hair OK. That is bad behavior. My girls are right there climbing trees and knocking around on the trampoline with the boys. But sometimes things get out of hand. When my 3yo grabs a toy out of a boy's hands, I am on it and I address the behavior. I don't want to hear how #ALLBOY that same kid is when he knocks a container of sidewalk chalk out of her hands.

And I let them work it out. You don't have to police every little misstep.

Right. Work on your reading comprehension. As I said, 70% of the time is fine; 10% is hiccups they work out on our own; 10% is my girls misbehaving and me needing to step in; and 10% is the other mom ignoring bad behavior BECAUSE BOYS.

I don't police "every little misstep." But when a 3yo and a 3.5yo (girl and boy, respectively) are involved, stuff happens.

See this is why moms of boys can't deal with moms of girls.

You need to seriously learn to relax.

So you don't understand basic percentages and logic. Got it.

And you still don't get your being a drama queen.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him. How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?

+1. I was too lazy to address the post, because clearly she's a lost cause, but you did an admirable job!

Congrats you magically fixed a mom of a boy or at least put her in her place.

Which again is why moms of boys can't stand being around moms of girls.

#controlfreaks

Huh? I'm the PP who first responded to the post about the boy whose mom thinks he shouldn't have to color. I have 3 boys. Thanks for playing.