#boymom?

[Anonymous]

I have many friends with all boys- and they all seem to have this solidarity with one another. They post pictures with #boymom and are always joking with each other as if they are part of a secret club. I just have one girl but don’t feel any kind of solidarity with other parents of girls. It’s very fascinating to me! Do moms of multiple boys feel that it is a unique experience?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you sound so fascinated and not at all judgemental!

[Anonymous]

It is a defensive move to try and assure everyone that don't worry it's okay, they are just fine not having a daughter (because people tend to assume you want a daughter.) Agree it's off-putting and makes those of us with both genders roll our eyes hard.

You will never see a mother with both sons and daughters trying to invent a ridiculous identity around this, and that tells you everything you need to know.

[Anonymous]

Moms of boys only get it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have many friends with all boys- and they all seem to have this solidarity with one another. They post pictures with #boymom and are always joking with each other as if they are part of a secret club. I just have one girl but don’t feel any kind of solidarity with other parents of girls. It’s very fascinating to me! Do moms of multiple boys feel that it is a unique experience?

I have 2 of each and no, it's no more unique than some other combination would be. +1 to it being a complex where they want to make sure everyone knows it's okay they dont have a daughter (because most people assume everyone wants a daughter). Agree that you never see people with both genders calling themselves that, and it's pretty darn telling.

[Anonymous]

As a mom of 3 boys #boymom is something silly and insecure women do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Moms of boys only get it

Hilarious!

[Anonymous]

As someone who used to technically be one (although I would NEVER refer to myself as that...Ew.), they are envious and trying to roll with it

[Anonymous]

My sister does this, and she desperately wanted a girl and is very sad that she's done with kids and won't get one. I'm pregnant now and she keeps insisting it's a girl because in her mind, I always get what she wanted. But on Facebook/Insta/etc, it's #boymom and #boytribe and #allmyboys.

It's just the same thing as any time someone protests too much on social media. #soinlove tags on every picture? They fight all the time. Such soul mates that they share a profile? One of them cheated. And so forth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a mom of 3 boys #boymom is something silly and insecure women do.

Huge +1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is a defensive move to try and assure everyone that don't worry it's okay, they are just fine not having a daughter (because people tend to assume you want a daughter.) Agree it's off-putting and makes those of us with both genders roll our eyes hard.

You will never see a mother with both sons and daughters trying to invent a ridiculous identity around this, and that tells you everything you need to know.

I never refer to myself as a #boymom but I do have three boys and it really grates on me how people always seem to assume that I wish I had at least one girl, especially moms of all girls (#girlmom?). I had zero preference, but the pitying looks get old. I can see why some embrace being a parent of all boys since we get so much shit for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister does this, and she desperately wanted a girl and is very sad that she's done with kids and won't get one. I'm pregnant now and she keeps insisting it's a girl because in her mind, I always get what she wanted. But on Facebook/Insta/etc, it's #boymom and #boytribe and #allmyboys.

It's just the same thing as any time someone protests too much on social media. #soinlove tags on every picture? They fight all the time. Such soul mates that they share a profile? One of them cheated. And so forth.

Exactly exactly exactly. Particularly your second paragraph, spot on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is a defensive move to try and assure everyone that don't worry it's okay, they are just fine not having a daughter (because people tend to assume you want a daughter.) Agree it's off-putting and makes those of us with both genders roll our eyes hard.

You will never see a mother with both sons and daughters trying to invent a ridiculous identity around this, and that tells you everything you need to know.

I never refer to myself as a #boymom but I do have three boys and it really grates on me how people always seem to assume that I wish I had at least one girl, especially moms of all girls (#girlmom?). I had zero preference, but the pitying looks get old. I can see why some embrace being a parent of all boys since we get so much shit for it.

Yup. It's totally a defensive / insecurity thing

[Anonymous]

Yes it is different and no we can't explain it to you.

It not something all mom's of boys understand just very active boys.

[Anonymous]

Have boys. Don’t want girls.