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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous? [/quote]

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.[/quote]

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.”  Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”  [/quote]

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.[/quote]

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting  and name calling is not always bad behavior.[/quote]

I feel you.  [b]I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project.  He doesn’t like to color.  It wasn’t art class.  Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math?  I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore.  It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.  [/b] [/quote]

Are you not going to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that there was a reason for the math project to be colored? Even if he doesn't like to color, he still needs to do the work he's assigned. I didn't like math but my mom never  "stood up for my right to not do math". In fact, I also didn't like art, but the expectation was that I followed directions and completed assigned assignments at school whether I liked it or not. You're setting a bad precedent here, and your kid is going to suffer for it. Plus you completely undermined the authority of the teacher in the first week or so of school. Be prepared for your little prince to now feel empowered to do absolutely nothing he doesn't like or want to do since he knows you'll go in and "fix it" for him.  How is this going to work when he gets older and has to do something he doesn't like to do, like take certain classes or, you know, get a job?  [/quote]

+1. I was too lazy to address the post, because clearly she's a lost cause, but you did an admirable job![/quote]

Congrats you magically fixed a mom of a boy or at least put her in her place.

Which again is why moms of boys can't stand being around moms of girls.

#controlfreaks[/quote]

DP here: Nothing in this thread is about the fact that her kid is a boy.  Kids in 2nd grade need to do assignments at school.  Parents who step in to "correct" the administration when they get called in because their kid is not participating in class are shitty parents, regardless of the gender of the monster they're raising.  Coloring isn't a girl thing.  Refusing to color isn't a boy thing.

Deciding to take a stand for #allboys because your kid is in trouble with the teacher over a coloring worksheet is ... well, it's something else entirely.   :lol: [/quote]

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