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Anonymous wrote:I don’t # anything on social media - I don’t get the love affair with it.
That said, I do enjoy the funny YouTube videos of boymom and girlmom differences.
Everyone has their story. I only wanted boys and that is exactly what I got. I was a tomboy and couldn’t imagine having a girl that would want to do girly stuff - I can barely get my hair to look halfway decent, let alone have a girl where I would have to braid or something. Don’t paint my nails, don’t wear nail polish, don’t wear jewelry... And I know those are societal standards that I would have to help a daughter conform too or be ostracized like me. So glad I had boys and can keep being the tomboy I am.

Believe me, if your daughter is into it, you don't need to do a thing to help her conform. There are plenty of girly daughters of tomboys!

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Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling “boymoms” turn in to monster MILs as well.

I can see this. If hashtags were a thing then my MIL would have been all over the #boymom thing. At least now there will be a record of it so unwary future DIL’s can see the extent of the crazy they might encounter if they marry into the family.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t # anything on social media - I don’t get the love affair with it.
That said, I do enjoy the funny YouTube videos of boymom and girlmom differences.
Everyone has their story. I only wanted boys and that is exactly what I got. I was a tomboy and couldn’t imagine having a girl that would want to do girly stuff - I can barely get my hair to look halfway decent, let alone have a girl where I would have to braid or something. Don’t paint my nails, don’t wear nail polish, don’t wear jewelry... And I know those are societal standards that I would have to help a daughter conform too or be ostracized like me. So glad I had boys and can keep being the tomboy I am.

Believe me, if your daughter is into it, you don't need to do a thing to help her conform. There are plenty of girly daughters of tomboys!

Or the opposite..."Tomboy" girls of "girly moms" PP what if you got a son who was more into "girl" things. Then what would you do?

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, you sound so fascinated and not at all judgemental!

NP and I’ll judge you as an insecure asshole. Lordt.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes it is different and no we can't explain it to you.

It not something all mom's of boys understand just very active boys.

Lolol. #specialactiveboymom

Oh please #boymom, come spend a day with my DD.

At 20mo, she jumped off the third step, off the couch, and did a whole bunch of other acrobatic feats before 8am. I don’t stop her unless I know it’s unsafe or she can’t do it. All activities were with me two steps behind because I know she’s “busy”.

She then went and killed her “gymnastics” class, including jumping off a r gulag height beam.

I guess she didn’t play with a penis she doesn’t have, so there’s that.

She is one of the rare girls that could hang with our play group.

Christ, you’re a nightmare.

We don't need tattle tales because a boy knocked you down. It happens, get up and tackle him.

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There are tons of dads out there who want to be #girldad too.

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In today’s political climate, I can see why some moms think that having a girl would be easier than having a boy. Trust me, it’s not.

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I only have boys. Its unique experience for me because I grew up with only woman/girls in the house and many of my close family members/friends only have girls. I don't hang with only moms of boys though.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

See, I have the opposite experience. I have some friends/neighbors with girls who are rough at times and behave badly (hitting etc.) and their moms make excuses because "girl power." Or they think it is cute. Do you remember the post here recently where the mom was secretly glad her toddler daughter shoved a toddler boy who was trying to engage her? Moms of both genders excuse poor behavior, but I see it much more from moms of girls.

That's all fine, and I don't try to negate your experience. But it doesn't change my experience. Far and away, the refuse-to-address-the-behavior parents are the #MOMSOFBOYS. Interestingly enough, their husbands are usually very quick to jump in and tell their kids to knock it off. I find that to be interesting.

I'm not going to argue with you about your experience, but again, it doesn't change mine.

Wow, thank you for the pointless reiteration of your experience. As you so vehemently expressed, your experience does not change mine either. So, some people have experienced more moms of boys making excuses and some people have experienced more moms of girls making excuses. Isn't that fascinating?

Here's what: I never argued with your experience. You "See" argued with mine. See?

NP. This.

The hostility here is crazy, even for this board.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes it is different and no we can't explain it to you.

It not something all mom's of boys understand just very active boys.

Lolol. #specialactiveboymom

LOL we don't want to be your friend, sorry that bothers you.

Haha oh trust me, it moooost definitely does not

Good because your drama is exhausting. Stay away from us mom's of boys.

The good news is we know which posts are yours because you don't understand how apostrophes work.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

Oh for crying out loud - where do you draw the line? Murder? Or is that ok sometimes? I can't believe you think hitting or name calling is ever ok.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

Sorry that school sucked. But that doesn't make the boys down the street pushing my 5yo and pulling my 3yo's hair OK. That is bad behavior. My girls are right there climbing trees and knocking around on the trampoline with the boys. But sometimes things get out of hand. When my 3yo grabs a toy out of a boy's hands, I am on it and I address the behavior. I don't want to hear how #ALLBOY that same kid is when he knocks a container of sidewalk chalk out of her hands.

And I let them work it out. You don't have to police every little misstep.

Right. Work on your reading comprehension. As I said, 70% of the time is fine; 10% is hiccups they work out on our own; 10% is my girls misbehaving and me needing to step in; and 10% is the other mom ignoring bad behavior BECAUSE BOYS.

I don't police "every little misstep." But when a 3yo and a 3.5yo (girl and boy, respectively) are involved, stuff happens.

See this is why moms of boys can't deal with moms of girls.

You need to seriously learn to relax.

So you don't understand basic percentages and logic. Got it.

And you still don't get your being a drama queen.

And you still don't understand grammar.

[Anonymous]

Curious about how the #boymoms feel about gender dysphoria (of either gender)

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I generally unfollow the people I know who use hashtags because I find them annoying so I just googled #boymom and #girlmom and the image results about made me want to vomit. Apparently wearing tiaras and having dolls makes you a girl and liking trucks and mud makes you a boy. Is it seriously 2018? What are you teaching your children that girls do one thing and boys do another? My kids have asked me if boys can wear dresses and girls can play football. I say sure, why not? Because I want my kids to grow up thinking anyone can do anything. So hashtagging your kids into some kind of gender stereotype is gross. And for what it's worth, I don't force my kids to wear gender-neutral clothes or play equally with all kinds of toys - I let them do what they want to do, whether that be something that their gender is #supposed to do.

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Anonymous wrote:As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous?

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.” Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.

I disagree that bad behavior is bad behavior.

At my son's 1st school bad behavior was climbing trees, wrestling on the playground, hitting each other with sticks, getting in the pond, trash talk, throwing snowballs.

We moved him to an all boys school and none of those behaviors were bad behaviors. Hitting and name calling is not always bad behavior.

I feel you. I was down at the school the other day because my fourth grader got into trouble for not coloring his math project. He doesn’t like to color. It wasn’t art class. Isn’t there any other way to teach fourth grade math? I am going to stand up for his right to not have to color everything with crayons anymore. It was one thing in kindergarten, but he is 9 years old now.

We got "concern" from school when DS went through a phase of drawing WWII fighters and tanks.