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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As an alternative perspective- my husband is the father of 4 girls and he often uses the hashtag #girldad when captioning pictures of things he never imagined he would be doing like posing for a picture with Elsa because our daughter was too shy or letting our youngest put nail polish on him. He is relishing the experience and loves it. I don’t think anyone views him as being defensive or jealous? [/quote]

That’s because he’s not using it to excuse bad behavior.[/quote]

I think attitudes like this are the reason for the need for “boy moms.”  Some people just seem to interpret everything boys do as “bad.”  [/quote]

Not at all. My girls play with the boys down the street all. the. time. Seventy percent of the time, things are great; 10 percent are hiccups they figure out on their own; 10% is me refereeing if my girls are out of line; and 10% is the boys hitting or name-calling, and the other mom excusing her ALL BOYS.

Bad behavior is bad behavior and needs to be addressed, full stop. If you excuse it because #BOYS, you suck.

And I have friends whose kids are boys who don't excuse or #ALLBOY it, and I appreciate that they address their kids' behavior.[/quote]

See, I have the opposite experience. I have some friends/neighbors with girls who are rough at times and behave badly (hitting etc.) and their moms make excuses because "girl power." Or they think it is cute. Do you remember the post here recently where the mom was secretly glad her toddler daughter shoved a toddler boy who was trying to engage her? Moms of both genders excuse poor behavior, but I see it much more from moms of girls. [/quote]

That's all fine, and I don't try to negate your experience. But it doesn't change my experience. Far and away, the refuse-to-address-the-behavior parents are the #MOMSOFBOYS. Interestingly enough, their husbands are usually very quick to jump in and tell their kids to knock it off. I find that to be interesting.

I'm not going to argue with you about your experience, but again, it doesn't change mine.[/quote]

Wow, thank you for the pointless reiteration of your experience. As you so vehemently expressed, your experience does not change mine either. So, some people have experienced more moms of boys making excuses and some people have experienced more moms of girls making excuses. Isn't that fascinating?[/quote]

Here's what: I never argued with your experience. You "See" argued with mine. See?[/quote]

Do you not understand what "see" means? It's a colloquial way of beginning a conversation, expressing a thought, or relating an experience that may differ from someone else's. See?[/quote]

It's the "conversational" equivalent of a dude propping his leg up on top of something before launching into a monologue. [/quote]

Saying "see?" What in the world? Do you always meticulously pick apart and misconstrue every word of conversation with others? Please, try to relax. This level of neuroses will drive you and your children to the edge. [/quote]

NP. It's not neurotic to point out that someone is a know it all jerk when that someone is acting like a jerk.[/quote]

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