Minority women who struggle with dating...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with being picky? What you call picky, others may call having high standards. So it takes them longer to find someone, so what? You got married at 27 and they get married at 37. If they end up wildly happy, what's the harm? At least they probably won't be posting on here lamenting the death of sex in their marriages or counseling other women to "detach" emotionally and give their lazy man child husbands a free pass on chores to save themselves a fight

I love you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If this were a white woman who lived in an area filled with minorities and wanted to hold out for a white man, would you so strongly encourage her to marry a black man rather than suffer the "penalty" of not marrying? Even though she said she was fine with it? Doubt it. You'd be on Zillow find houses she could move in to or telling her how marriage isn't all that great anyway. Check yourselves.

Nah I'd be fine with it until they started whining about being single and endless complaining about where are the educated White men.

No black woman was on this thread whining. And the OP wasn't even about black American women.

Actually , I believe OP mentioned one of her friends is Nigerian which is Black not all Black people are American.

But I agree with you no one was whining some people got offended when a poster said she wasn't in dating white men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Black woman who married a black man and was cheated on. Now divorced. Have had two relationships post-divorce -- black guy and white guy. White guy was European not American. Before I got married I dated guys of other races as well. I have friends who outright refuse to date non-black men so as a result, they don't date at all despite yearning to be loved and married. I also have a lot of black women friends and family who are married but aren't married to black men. I CAN be alone but I don't want to be, so why dismiss a whole race of people out of hand? You could be passing up real love.

Because I don't want to be married to a non Black man. Period. I'm also not interested in dating/marrying a soldier or doctor.

I'm not shaming you for dating the men you want, so why are you critical of me for making a different choice for myself?

The reason your friends are not dating is not because they refuse to date non black men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with being picky? What you call picky, others may call having high standards. So it takes them longer to find someone, so what? You got married at 27 and they get married at 37. If they end up wildly happy, what's the harm? At least they probably won't be posting on here lamenting the death of sex in their marriages or counseling other women to "detach" emotionally and give their lazy man child husbands a free pass on chores to save themselves a fight

I love you!

+ 10000. I'd rather take my time and marry good one instead of rush into marriage with anyone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If this were a white woman who lived in an area filled with minorities and wanted to hold out for a white man, would you so strongly encourage her to marry a black man rather than suffer the "penalty" of not marrying? Even though she said she was fine with it? Doubt it. You'd be on Zillow find houses she could move in to or telling her how marriage isn't all that great anyway. Check yourselves.

Nah I'd be fine with it until they started whining about being single and endless complaining about where are the educated White men.

No black woman was on this thread whining. And the OP wasn't even about black American women.

Actually , I believe OP mentioned one of her friends is Nigerian which is Black not all Black people are American.

But I agree with you no one was whining some people got offended when a poster said she wasn't in dating white men.

See bolded.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with being picky? What you call picky, others may call having high standards. So it takes them longer to find someone, so what? You got married at 27 and they get married at 37. If they end up wildly happy, what's the harm? At least they probably won't be posting on here lamenting the death of sex in their marriages or counseling other women to "detach" emotionally and give their lazy man child husbands a free pass on chores to save themselves a fight

I love you!

+ 1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Asian Americans have the highest percentage of married spouses. Most Asian men marry Asian women. Asian women, more than any other race, marry outside their race. That translates to Asian women having the biggest pool of people to marry. Asian women also tend to be thin and age well so they can still attract mates even when they get older.

African Americans have the lowest marriage rates. More African American men are in prison than college. There is a disproportionate number of well educated African American women than African American men. Plus many African American women only want to marry African men. That translates to African American women having the smallest pool of men to marry and reason why they may struggle to find a mate.

You are late to the party. This has already been discussed and in some cases debunked.

NP. I didn't see it debunked anywhere. Care to quote the post where it was debunked? What I read were posts by a couple of women who do not seem to understand statistics getting very defensive.

Ha! DP who read the entire thread. Adding this post to all the rest complaining about black women being more selective than Asian women, I'd have to agree that the pool for educated AA women is smaller but reach a very different conclusion about who's being defensive about it. Somehow it translates into failure though DCUM is chock full of women who followed the successful white guy standard and got burned. Lives ruined, even.

Black women aren't choosing white men even when it means they marry later or stay single. Boo fucking hoo.

Reading this thread only confirms my own choice. Married an AA man at 36, ten years in, satisfied as all get out. Naysayers can keep perusing the Match ads claiming they're open to whatever comes along.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Asian Americans have the highest percentage of married spouses. Most Asian men marry Asian women. Asian women, more than any other race, marry outside their race. That translates to Asian women having the biggest pool of people to marry. Asian women also tend to be thin and age well so they can still attract mates even when they get older.

African Americans have the lowest marriage rates. More African American men are in prison than college. There is a disproportionate number of well educated African American women than African American men. Plus many African American women only want to marry African men. That translates to African American women having the smallest pool of men to marry and reason why they may struggle to find a mate.

You are late to the party. This has already been discussed and in some cases debunked.

Are you disagreeing that African American women have the smallest pool of potential mates when they prefer to marry within the same race and there are so many more well educated African American women than men?

AA men are more likely to be enrolled in college than in prison. That is fact. Last year, a higher percentage of AAs enrolled in undergraduate studies than any other race. Not the PP, but damn, stop quoting that's debunked theory.

AA women who do not date interracially and will only date educated AA men do have the smallest pool to choose from.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Asian Americans have the highest percentage of married spouses. Most Asian men marry Asian women. Asian women, more than any other race, marry outside their race. That translates to Asian women having the biggest pool of people to marry. Asian women also tend to be thin and age well so they can still attract mates even when they get older.

African Americans have the lowest marriage rates. More African American men are in prison than college. There is a disproportionate number of well educated African American women than African American men. Plus many African American women only want to marry African men. That translates to African American women having the smallest pool of men to marry and reason why they may struggle to find a mate.

You are late to the party. This has already been discussed and in some cases debunked.

Are you disagreeing that African American women have the smallest pool of potential mates when they prefer to marry within the same race and there are so many more well educated African American women than men?

AA men are more likely to be enrolled in college than in prison. That is fact. Last year, a higher percentage of AAs enrolled in undergraduate studies than any other race. Not the PP, but damn, stop quoting that's debunked theory.


This is simply not true.

AA women who do not date interracially and will only date educated AA men do have the smallest pool to choose from.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Asian Americans have the highest percentage of married spouses. Most Asian men marry Asian women. Asian women, more than any other race, marry outside their race. That translates to Asian women having the biggest pool of people to marry. Asian women also tend to be thin and age well so they can still attract mates even when they get older.

African Americans have the lowest marriage rates. More African American men are in prison than college. There is a disproportionate number of well educated African American women than African American men. Plus many African American women only want to marry African men. That translates to African American women having the smallest pool of men to marry and reason why they may struggle to find a mate.

You are late to the party. This has already been discussed and in some cases debunked.

Are you disagreeing that African American women have the smallest pool of potential mates when they prefer to marry within the same race and there are so many more well educated African American women than men?

AA men are more likely to be enrolled in college than in prison. That is fact. Last year, a higher percentage of AAs enrolled in undergraduate studies than any other race. Not the PP, but damn, stop quoting that's debunked theory.

AA women who do not date interracially and will only date educated AA men do have the smallest pool to choose from.

You are debunking the idea that AA men are more likely to be in prison than in college. How does that mean that the numbers of educated black men are equal to those of educated black women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Asian Americans have the highest percentage of married spouses. Most Asian men marry Asian women. Asian women, more than any other race, marry outside their race. That translates to Asian women having the biggest pool of people to marry. Asian women also tend to be thin and age well so they can still attract mates even when they get older.

African Americans have the lowest marriage rates. More African American men are in prison than college. There is a disproportionate number of well educated African American women than African American men. Plus many African American women only want to marry African men. That translates to African American women having the smallest pool of men to marry and reason why they may struggle to find a mate.

You are late to the party. This has already been discussed and in some cases debunked.

NP. I didn't see it debunked anywhere. Care to quote the post where it was debunked? What I read were posts by a couple of women who do not seem to understand statistics getting very defensive.

Ha! DP who read the entire thread. Adding this post to all the rest complaining about black women being more selective than Asian women, I'd have to agree that the pool for educated AA women is smaller but reach a very different conclusion about who's being defensive about it. Somehow it translates into failure though DCUM is chock full of women who followed the successful white guy standard and got burned. Lives ruined, even.

Black women aren't choosing white men even when it means they marry later or stay single. Boo fucking hoo.

Reading this thread only confirms my own choice. Married an AA man at 36, ten years in, satisfied as all get out. Naysayers can keep perusing the Match ads claiming they're open to whatever comes along.

I don't think anyone cares if you die single and childless. It is just a baffling choice for those of us who value family, which many AAs don't. It's like watching someone choose to starve to death in a restaurant because they only eat a certain vegetable that the restaurant has ran out of. It's your life and no one else is affected, but everyone thinks you're crazy.

[Anonymous]

My guess is high-maintenance too. I walk in front of the World Bank on Pennsylvania Ave. at lunch time some days and a not unusual sight is two workers (apparently in a relationship of some sorts) taking a break, one a striking, beautiful minority woman as described, the other a shorter, balding white man, with the woman just giving him hell about one aspect or another of their relationship. (Loud enought to turn heads.) Poor guys just have their head hung a bit taking it.

[Anonymous]

I don't think anyone cares if you die single and childless. It is just a baffling choice for those of us who value family, which many AAs don't. It's like watching someone choose to starve to death in a restaurant because they only eat a certain vegetable that the restaurant has ran out of. It's your life and no one else is affected, but everyone thinks you're crazy.

This sounds a lot like the "parents who value education" clause that gets typed out right before someone's about to explain how and why they're a bigot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Asian Americans have the highest percentage of married spouses. Most Asian men marry Asian women. Asian women, more than any other race, marry outside their race. That translates to Asian women having the biggest pool of people to marry. Asian women also tend to be thin and age well so they can still attract mates even when they get older.

African Americans have the lowest marriage rates. More African American men are in prison than college. There is a disproportionate number of well educated African American women than African American men. Plus many African American women only want to marry African men. That translates to African American women having the smallest pool of men to marry and reason why they may struggle to find a mate.

You are late to the party. This has already been discussed and in some cases debunked.

NP. I didn't see it debunked anywhere. Care to quote the post where it was debunked? What I read were posts by a couple of women who do not seem to understand statistics getting very defensive.

Ha! DP who read the entire thread. Adding this post to all the rest complaining about black women being more selective than Asian women, I'd have to agree that the pool for educated AA women is smaller but reach a very different conclusion about who's being defensive about it. Somehow it translates into failure though DCUM is chock full of women who followed the successful white guy standard and got burned. Lives ruined, even.

Black women aren't choosing white men even when it means they marry later or stay single. Boo fucking hoo.

Reading this thread only confirms my own choice. Married an AA man at 36, ten years in, satisfied as all get out. Naysayers can keep perusing the Match ads claiming they're open to whatever comes along.

I don't think anyone cares if you die single and childless. It is just a baffling choice for those of us who value family, which many AAs don't. It's like watching someone choose to starve to death in a restaurant because they only eat a certain vegetable that the restaurant has ran out of. It's your life and no one else is affected, but everyone thinks you're crazy.

Guess you missed the bit about pp being married to an AA man for 10 years.

Anyway, what is so baffling about someone not wanting to marry someone they are not attracted to?

I find it baffling that your family ignores single people and treats them as lepers. That is really odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is high-maintenance too. I walk in front of the World Bank on Pennsylvania Ave. at lunch time some days and a not unusual sight is two workers (apparently in a relationship of some sorts) taking a break, one a striking, beautiful minority woman as described, the other a shorter, balding white man, with the woman just giving him hell about one aspect or another of their relationship. (Loud enought to turn heads.) Poor guys just have their head hung a bit taking it.

Ah yes! High maintenance, A woman has to be that or crazy if she isn't flirting with any guy paying attention to her especially if he's white. I love the faint scent if racism in 2016.