Minority women who struggle with dating...

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Anonymous wrote:^I worked on a research project on interracial dating using OK Cupid and Match data. The results, which were released to the media and highly publicized, actually revealed that Asian women are more likely than women of other races to seek out men outside their race, primarily white men. This was measured by looking at how often Asian women initiated interactions and also followed up. They showed far more preference for white men than white men showed for them, and also showed more preference for Hispanic men than Hispanic men showed for them.

All in all, Asian women's success in the dating field is a consequence of smart dating, as opposed to men finding them more attractive. White men are both the most successful men in America and the most numerous men in America. Asian women are playing the numbers very wisely, unlike African American women who continue to act as if dating a white man is a capital offense. It is staggering how many perpetually single African American women I know who are approached by white men, but would rather die single waiting for African American men. They are simply not being rational about their own interests.

Here's an interesting and true stat: If even 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women, that is enough to get every single African American woman under age 44 married. And I can say from research and personal observation that far more than 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women.

frankly, its probably they are regarded as attractive AND they are open to dating outside their race.

Okay, Asian woman, you can believe you are more attractive if you want.

not an asian women and I don't find them physically attractive (I like having them as friends though) but asian women on average don't get fat like the average white woman does. And their skin stays softer and smoother for longer (which even hot white women lose at 28).

So yes I can definitely see why my fellow guys think asian women are 'more' attractive. it's relative - for the 'league' that they can pull, it could very well be that in that tier, asian women are the prettiest. Think of all your jewish male friends who are with asian women. A lot of it is because similarly attractive jewish women wouldn't give those guys the time of day in college and in their early/mid 20's.

Asian-American female here. I am married to a handsome successful Asian-American male. Many Asian guys joke that white guys marry the busted Asian girls. The Asian guys don't necessarily find these women attractive but some nerdy white guy will. Of course there are beautiful Asian women who are with outside races. Also know Asian women who would not date an unattractive Asian man but seem ok with an unattractive white man as long as he is tall and well educated.

Considering Asian men have a hard time with women of all races in America (be it right or wrong), sounds like your husband has a case of sour grapes.

My husband doesn't comment on women's looks. My ex boyfriend and his friends did. I am sure they are still partying and dating hot Asian girls in NYC.

Then sounds like your ex boyfriend and his friends have a case of the sour grapes. Yup, if girls with heavy eyeliner are considered 'hot'. What a stupid assertion, asian girls who date asian guys are hot and everyone else is busted. you sound ridiculous.

Not the PP, but you sound like an Asian woman who's busted. Let it go.

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The "dating smart" theory ...I do know some Asian (both raised in the US and overseas) women who were "trained" from an early age on how to "marry up." Of course, the ultimate case of "marrying up" is Wendi Deng Murdoch..

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Asian Americans have the highest percentage of married spouses. Most Asian men marry Asian women. Asian women, more than any other race, marry outside their race. That translates to Asian women having the biggest pool of people to marry. Asian women also tend to be thin and age well so they can still attract mates even when they get older.

African Americans have the lowest marriage rates. More African American men are in prison than college. There is a disproportionate number of well educated African American women than African American men. Plus many African American women only want to marry African men. That translates to African American women having the smallest pool of men to marry and reason why they may struggle to find a mate.

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Anonymous wrote:Asian Americans have the highest percentage of married spouses. Most Asian men marry Asian women. Asian women, more than any other race, marry outside their race. That translates to Asian women having the biggest pool of people to marry. Asian women also tend to be thin and age well so they can still attract mates even when they get older.

African Americans have the lowest marriage rates. More African American men are in prison than college. There is a disproportionate number of well educated African American women than African American men. Plus many African American women only want to marry African men. That translates to African American women having the smallest pool of men to marry and reason why they may struggle to find a mate.

You are late to the party. This has already been discussed and in some cases debunked.

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Anonymous wrote:The "dating smart" theory ...I do know some Asian (both raised in the US and overseas) women who were "trained" from an early age on how to "marry up." Of course, the ultimate case of "marrying up" is Wendi Deng Murdoch..

Priscilla Chan didn't do too bad marrying Mark Zuckerberg either.

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Anonymous wrote:Asian Americans have the highest percentage of married spouses. Most Asian men marry Asian women. Asian women, more than any other race, marry outside their race. That translates to Asian women having the biggest pool of people to marry. Asian women also tend to be thin and age well so they can still attract mates even when they get older.

African Americans have the lowest marriage rates. More African American men are in prison than college. There is a disproportionate number of well educated African American women than African American men. Plus many African American women only want to marry African men. That translates to African American women having the smallest pool of men to marry and reason why they may struggle to find a mate.

You are late to the party. This has already been discussed and in some cases debunked.

Are you disagreeing that African American women have the smallest pool of potential mates when they prefer to marry within the same race and there are so many more well educated African American women than men?

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What is wrong with being picky? What you call picky, others may call having high standards. So it takes them longer to find someone, so what? You got married at 27 and they get married at 37. If they end up wildly happy, what's the harm? At least they probably won't be posting on here lamenting the death of sex in their marriages or counseling other women to "detach" emotionally and give their lazy man child husbands a free pass on chores to save themselves a fight

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Anonymous wrote:The "dating smart" theory ...I do know some Asian (both raised in the US and overseas) women who were "trained" from an early age on how to "marry up." Of course, the ultimate case of "marrying up" is Wendi Deng Murdoch..

Priscilla Chan didn't do too bad marrying Mark Zuckerberg either.

yep - asian women at ivies know how jewish guys are great catches whereas their jewish sisters at ivies are chasing drakes.

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Anonymous wrote:The "dating smart" theory ...I do know some Asian (both raised in the US and overseas) women who were "trained" from an early age on how to "marry up." Of course, the ultimate case of "marrying up" is Wendi Deng Murdoch..

Priscilla Chan didn't do too bad marrying Mark Zuckerberg either.

yep - asian women at ivies know how jewish guys are great catches whereas their jewish sisters at ivies are chasing drakes.

Think mark chased Priscilla, not the other way around. doubt she knew he would become a billionaire.

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Anyone who is really religious has a restricted dating pool, too, especially if your church is not the dominant one in the area (and not all Christian churches are the same when it comes to how people view them w/r/t marriage--for example, if you were raised in the Korean Baptist church, that doesn't mean you're open to marrying any Christian)...

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Anonymous wrote:Asian Americans have the highest percentage of married spouses. Most Asian men marry Asian women. Asian women, more than any other race, marry outside their race. That translates to Asian women having the biggest pool of people to marry. Asian women also tend to be thin and age well so they can still attract mates even when they get older.

African Americans have the lowest marriage rates. More African American men are in prison than college. There is a disproportionate number of well educated African American women than African American men. Plus many African American women only want to marry African men. That translates to African American women having the smallest pool of men to marry and reason why they may struggle to find a mate.

You are late to the party. This has already been discussed and in some cases debunked.

NP. I didn't see it debunked anywhere. Care to quote the post where it was debunked? What I read were posts by a couple of women who do not seem to understand statistics getting very defensive.

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Anonymous wrote:If this were a white woman who lived in an area filled with minorities and wanted to hold out for a white man, would you so strongly encourage her to marry a black man rather than suffer the "penalty" of not marrying? Even though she said she was fine with it? Doubt it. You'd be on Zillow find houses she could move in to or telling her how marriage isn't all that great anyway. Check yourselves.

Nah I'd be fine with it until they started whining about being single and endless complaining about where are the educated White men.

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Black woman who married a black man and was cheated on. Now divorced. Have had two relationships post-divorce -- black guy and white guy. White guy was European not American. Before I got married I date guys of other races as well I have friends who outright refuse to date non-black men so as a result, they don't date at all despite yearning to be loved and married. I also have a lot of black women friends and family who are married but aren't married to black men. I CAN be alone but I don't want to be, so why dismiss a whole race of people out of hand? You could be passing up real love.

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Black woman who married a black man and was cheated on. Now divorced. Have had two relationships post-divorce -- black guy and white guy. White guy was European not American. Before I got married I dated guys of other races as well. I have friends who outright refuse to date non-black men so as a result, they don't date at all despite yearning to be loved and married. I also have a lot of black women friends and family who are married but aren't married to black men. I CAN be alone but I don't want to be, so why dismiss a whole race of people out of hand? You could be passing up real love.

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Anonymous wrote:If this were a white woman who lived in an area filled with minorities and wanted to hold out for a white man, would you so strongly encourage her to marry a black man rather than suffer the "penalty" of not marrying? Even though she said she was fine with it? Doubt it. You'd be on Zillow find houses she could move in to or telling her how marriage isn't all that great anyway. Check yourselves.

Nah I'd be fine with it until they started whining about being single and endless complaining about where are the educated White men.

No black woman was on this thread whining. And the OP wasn't even about black American women.