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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.
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Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this?  I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls.  I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead.  The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl."  I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer.  The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field.  The one ran into her and knocked her down.  She got up and pushed him.  He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong.  Why don't you go check it out for yourself.  Get involved.  [/quote]

I have also been on the recess and the worst thing you can do to a girl is not notice her. It is true the boys play ball and it can get rough. The girls want to play (just because boys are on the radar not because they like basketball) but they cry to the moderator when they fall down or get hit with the ball, which makes the boys not want to play with the girls. boys at this age are generally oblivious about the boys dating girls thing.

There is always a group of boys that are not playing sports, but guess what, girls like the other boys, no surprise there.

Boys are not purposely pushing girls down because they don't want to play with girls, there are plenty of girls that can play with the boys with out crying wolf.

To the dad that ask if the boys provoke the girls... yes, they ignore them... it is literally the worst thing you can do to a girl. Then they act out to get attention. It is sad that some teachers/moderators are always blaming the boys. If you can handle kids you should not be a moderator. [b]If the girl is crying every time she plays ball with the boys, you can't just blame the boys.[/b] [/quote]

Lady, you are delusional.  The girls wanting to to actually play the sports are tomboys, not little tarts trying to flirt with your son while kicking a soccer ball.  :roll:  Give me a break!!

And everyday there is an issue because they only have one field for the soccer and the boys don't want the girls to play.  Hate to break it to you.  Girls can actually play sports (gasp) and deserve to do so.  When the PA has to jump in and make the game co-ed while the boys moan, there is an issue on the boys side, not the girls.  To purposely go after the 1-3 girls that are playing in the hopes they give up and go away is NOT the way to play.  And if you would have read the post correctly, it was a girl who pushed back and then the BOY went crying off to the PA.  Not because he was hurt but he wanted her out of the game. Hate to break it to you.  Boys and girls can manipulate, bully, and be mean.  There isn't one sex against the other here.  I asked the OP to see first hand what the situation is because I see many different things in the last 9 years I have helped out at recess.   And her son should ignore and talk calmly to another teacher later.

People like you make me sick with your generalizations:

Girls only play sports to flirt with boys
Girls don't want to flirt with non-sport boys
Girls cry only to get attention
Boys only want to play nicely and girls don't.  
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I did not say girls only play sports to flirt with boys. I said many girls can play sports with boys. The ones that are crying/hitting/etc all the time are not there to play sports. they are there to flirt. YOU are the delusional one if you don't know basic science. Girls are VERY interested in boys WAY before boys are.

Girls are constantly getting in the way of sports game for attention. If you don't know that you are clueless and one reason inexperienced parents should not be "volunteering" with children... stuff some envelops but if you are unaware of the dynamic between boys and girls you should not be volunteering with children.

Girls cry to get attention. Girls cry when they lose. Girls cry when their best friend gets a new friend. Girls cry they get shoved during a sports game. Girls cray A LOT. Many girls don't ... they can play with the boys, the others need to go find a way to play without disrupting a normal sport game. Same with boys that cry if somebody throws the ball to them too hard.

Boys don't play nicely, gently or quietly, nor should they be asked to do so... if you can't deal with that find kids that play nicely, gently or quietly. There are plenty of kids on the playground, what is wrong with those kids? Stop asking boys to be quiet and gently on the playground because of 1 crybaby. Teach the crybaby to NOT be a crybaby.

The boys moan because you are asking them to play nicely, gently and quietly. They do that the other 6 hours they are in school. Give them 20 minutes to play hard. Some girls (and boys) can hang, others can't. Don't ask kids to play down, expect the others to play harder/deal/be less sensitive.[/quote]

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