s/o straight men sleeping with men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm still trying to figure out why a gay guy would be trying to marry women and sleep with them. It would just complicate his gay life. Will someone please explain to me why a truly gay man would seek out women to marry and have sex with. Nobody has yet to explain that to me.

At the risk of sounding redundant, just because a man has had an isolated involvement or two with another guy does not make him gay. He may have done so out of a myriad of reasons: being intoxicated, wanting to experiment, being genuinely attracted to a guy, going through a dry period with women, etc. If you are of the mindset that any same sex involvement is indicative of being permanently gay, then you will not neither understand or accept what I am saying.

It is rare for a guy who is gay to get married especially in today's environment where the stigma to being gay is less of a factor. It happens but it is a rarity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm still trying to figure out why a gay guy would be trying to marry women and sleep with them. It would just complicate his gay life. Will someone please explain to me why a truly gay man would seek out women to marry and have sex with. Nobody has yet to explain that to me.

At the risk of sounding redundant, just because a man has had an isolated involvement or two with another guy does not make him gay. He may have done so out of a myriad of reasons: being intoxicated, wanting to experiment, being genuinely attracted to a guy, going through a dry period with women, etc. If you are of the mindset that any same sex involvement is indicative of being permanently gay, then you will not neither understand or accept what I am saying.



It is rare for a guy who is gay to get married especially in today's environment where the stigma to being gay is less of a factor. It happens but it is a rarity.

Wrong. There are MANY reasons a gay man would marry a woman. And yes involvement with a guy makes a man gay. Please stop this useless jibber jabber.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is funny. Women who sleep with men would be upset if men shared their same taste!

Do you know how stupid you sound when you say "sleeping with men is icky gross, but not when I do it."

Listen idiots - your husband likely had a gay experience he's not going to tell you about. You are all married to men who are gay by your definition. Get over it.

Just because you're a secret gay and you want to normalize yourself so you feel better about the stain you've put on your own life does not mean every man has likely had a gay experience. Just own up to your own identity and life. Problem solved! Trying to escape the appropriate label for your same sex romping (i.e. gay and/or homosexual and/or bisexual) just makes it clear you're not only an idiot, but a pathetic one at that. The sad part is while you're trying to run away from who you truly are others are okay with themselves to the extent of not caring in the least bit that you're labeling straight men as gay to make yourself feel normal. I, for one, have never ever had a gay experience. EVER. I know gay men and not threatened by them. If I was into men and had the experience I would be true enough to myself to own up to, share it with my partner and move on. You need to grow up and man up. It's on thing to be gay. It's another to be a bitch on top of that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't until a PP laid out the whole "why would a gay guy be trying to sleep with a woman" point that I realized he was saying what is pertinent here. If you're "in the closet" and gay, you don't tell people you had experiences with men in the past. You sure as hell don't admit to gay sex and then force yourself to marry a woman. Once you've told someone that you've had sex with a man, you're okay to go pursue men. It makes no sense that a truly gay man would be in this situation.

I a personal case in point.

My stupid sister dumped a guy because he admitted (after a few drinks) that when he was in college he had a roommate that was gay and he would let him give him head when he was in a dry spell with girls. Needless to say, my sister flipped out and called him gay and broke off the year long relationship. She could not be with a man who was secretly gay she said. Our entire family (so embarrassing to him, right?) tried to tell her that he wasn't "secretly gay" and that he had admitted to what he did. Part of the reason we were fighting for him was because he had already told us he was planning to ask her to marry him that spring. My dad and mom were a little weirded out about the admission of her boyfriend, but were wililng to forgive him. After all, he was in love with a girl that was their daughter. The past didn't matter said my parents (my mom was married before may parents got together and she has always felt shameful about it, but my dad never really cared). My sister wouldn't budge - like the rest of you, she swore she wouldn't waste her time with some closeted fag.

Fast forward two month from the big gay breakup. My sister gets in an altercation with one of her close friends at bar in Arlington because said friend was escorted to the bar by the "closeted gay" exboyfriend. Turns out that his gayness of his one college semester hadn't reemerged from hiding and he pursued yet another female. My sister for some reason really thought he was gay because of that one semester. He's not gay. He's now married to that friend with child #2 expected any day now.

a lot of you are dumb like my sister.

I broke up with and did not accept the invite to marry an ex BF who had affairs with men. He married and I heard still has had homosexual relationships. Maybe the wife doesn't care. PP's sister did care and now is available to meet hetero as I did. Everyone is different and some prefer hetero only. That doesn't make her stupid. She has every right to choose her partners. The sisters ex also had the option of meeting a woman or man who didn't care about past homosexual relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm still trying to figure out why a gay guy would be trying to marry women and sleep with them. It would just complicate his gay life. Will someone please explain to me why a truly gay man would seek out women to marry and have sex with. Nobody has yet to explain that to me.

At the risk of sounding redundant, just because a man has had an isolated involvement or two with another guy does not make him gay. He may have done so out of a myriad of reasons: being intoxicated, wanting to experiment, being genuinely attracted to a guy, going through a dry period with women, etc. If you are of the mindset that any same sex involvement is indicative of being permanently gay, then you will not neither understand or accept what I am saying.

It is rare for a guy who is gay to get married especially in today's environment where the stigma to being gay is less of a factor. It happens but it is a rarity.

This thread alone is a testimony that many gay men get married to women. They just hide the behavior and from these thread some actually believe they are straight. This is why there is the label of "men sleeping with men" or MSM. These men are homosexual, but don't want the stigma of the lifestyle. They also have some attraction for women. This population of men is largely responsible for the spike in HIV in married woman. These leeches are actually everyone's problem because they create an environment of shame and secrecy for their gay lovers all the while leading a double life that deceives their female partners. Newsflash MSMers- your contact with males is homosexual so you are not straight. The question is why it so important to maintain the straight label. At least have the dignity to share your identity with your spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't until a PP laid out the whole "why would a gay guy be trying to sleep with a woman" point that I realized he was saying what is pertinent here. If you're "in the closet" and gay, you don't tell people you had experiences with men in the past. You sure as hell don't admit to gay sex and then force yourself to marry a woman. Once you've told someone that you've had sex with a man, you're okay to go pursue men. It makes no sense that a truly gay man would be in this situation.

I a personal case in point.

My stupid sister dumped a guy because he admitted (after a few drinks) that when he was in college he had a roommate that was gay and he would let him give him head when he was in a dry spell with girls. Needless to say, my sister flipped out and called him gay and broke off the year long relationship. She could not be with a man who was secretly gay she said. Our entire family (so embarrassing to him, right?) tried to tell her that he wasn't "secretly gay" and that he had admitted to what he did. Part of the reason we were fighting for him was because he had already told us he was planning to ask her to marry him that spring. My dad and mom were a little weirded out about the admission of her boyfriend, but were wililng to forgive him. After all, he was in love with a girl that was their daughter. The past didn't matter said my parents (my mom was married before may parents got together and she has always felt shameful about it, but my dad never really cared). My sister wouldn't budge - like the rest of you, she swore she wouldn't waste her time with some closeted fag.

Fast forward two month from the big gay breakup. My sister gets in an altercation with one of her close friends at bar in Arlington because said friend was escorted to the bar by the "closeted gay" exboyfriend. Turns out that his gayness of his one college semester hadn't reemerged from hiding and he pursued yet another female. My sister for some reason really thought he was gay because of that one semester. He's not gay. He's now married to that friend with child #2 expected any day now.

a lot of you are dumb like my sister.

I broke up with and did not accept the invite to marry an ex BF who had affairs with men. He married and I heard still has had homosexual relationships. Maybe the wife doesn't care. PP's sister did care and now is available to meet hetero as I did. Everyone is different and some prefer hetero only. That doesn't make her stupid. She has every right to choose her partners. The sisters ex also had the option of meeting a woman or man who didn't care about past homosexual relationships.

+1. We're talking about people's rights to chose their partners. If you're okay with someone who's had same sex partners, go for it. Some people are not. I would also not be okay with someone who has had excessive partners in the past or was a serial cheater or was a drug addict or did other deviant things. Some people don't care. Get with those people all day every day. But leave me alone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is funny. Women who sleep with men would be upset if men shared their same taste!

Do you know how stupid you sound when you say "sleeping with men is icky gross, but not when I do it."

Listen idiots - your husband likely had a gay experience he's not going to tell you about. You are all married to men who are gay by your definition. Get over it.

What's funny and stupid is how retarded you are. Men can share my taste in men. No biggie. I don't want to married to someone who has a taste for men. Period. You get over it! Also, there's so many great manly respectful gay men out there, why do secret gays feel the need to deceive women? I'm attracted to big blonde men with blue eyes. Plenty of those men are gay and available to other gay men. Secret gays, just go after them. Leave us women alone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is funny. Women who sleep with men would be upset if men shared their same taste!

Do you know how stupid you sound when you say "sleeping with men is icky gross, but not when I do it."

Listen idiots - your husband likely had a gay experience he's not going to tell you about. You are all married to men who are gay by your definition. Get over it.

NOPE. PP, have you posted like a hundreds times here or what? All of these: all dudes are gay, just get over it posts are from 3 guys, tops. That constitutes reality?

[Anonymous]

Female sexuality is pretty nuanced. I do not want a super manly man, yet I do not want a man that has been with men. I also have a thing for repressed men--so I realize I run a huge risk of encountering a guy that has done this.

[Anonymous]

Nope, nope, nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Female sexuality is pretty nuanced. I do not want a super manly man, yet I do not want a man that has been with men. I also have a thing for repressed men--so I realize I run a huge risk of encountering a guy that has done this.

So, make sure you put that out there. The threads on this make clear that many men are doing this and even more are not telling their wives. Many also seem to think that there is nothing wrong with the behavior. They consider themselves straight. The definition of straight is exclusive sexual activity with the opposite sex, but this definition seems to escape them. Not sure why. So, they don't feel like it is an issue and are "shocked" that people would expect them to tell their wives. That being the case, single ladies, make sure you glean from your date whether or not he's had sex with another male if that would be a problem for you. You cannot assume that his dating you and even him telling you that he's straight means that he has not had sexual contact with another male. You just need to flat out ask, hey have you ever had sex with another male. Don't even bother asking him if he's straight. Word meanings don't phase these guys. I like all different types of men- manly guys, softer big teddy bear types, etc... I just do not want anyone who has ever had a same sex experience. I'd be okay with a male who also could not date me for whatever reasons. There is someone for everyone is the good news.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm still trying to figure out why a gay guy would be trying to marry women and sleep with them. It would just complicate his gay life. Will someone please explain to me why a truly gay man would seek out women to marry and have sex with. Nobody has yet to explain that to me.

At the risk of sounding redundant, just because a man has had an isolated involvement or two with another guy does not make him gay. He may have done so out of a myriad of reasons: being intoxicated, wanting to experiment, being genuinely attracted to a guy, going through a dry period with women, etc. If you are of the mindset that any same sex involvement is indicative of being permanently gay, then you will not neither understand or accept what I am saying.



It is rare for a guy who is gay to get married especially in today's environment where the stigma to being gay is less of a factor. It happens but it is a rarity.

Wrong. There are MANY reasons a gay man would marry a woman.

Yes, and one of the reasons is the wish to maintain a semblance of normality and be accepted by society ........ which explains why there are married men who get involved in gay relationships while staying married. It also explains why they would not tell their wives especially if they know it would result in the end of the marriage and being exposed with regard to their secret lives.

[Anonymous]

The gay bashers still can't explain exactly why a guy would want to hide sexuality by taking the financial step of being married to a woman. he gains nothing.

someone please explain exactly why a guy who once had his pee pee touched by another male would want to sleep with women - which seems to be the case here and quite commonly other places as well.

You can't because you are WRONG. And the harder you scream "once gay ALWAYS GAY!" the more I know that you watch gay porn to get off. You are like those evangalists who preach against it, but love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The gay bashers still can't explain exactly why a guy would want to hide sexuality by taking the financial step of being married to a woman. he gains nothing.

someone please explain exactly why a guy who once had his pee pee touched by another male would want to sleep with women - which seems to be the case here and quite commonly other places as well.

You can't because you are WRONG. And the harder you scream "once gay ALWAYS GAY!" the more I know that you watch gay porn to get off. You are like those evangalists who preach against it, but love it.

There's no hope for you. Yawn.... You're the one gay bashing on here. We're actually saying own your gayness and don't be a liar about it, especially if you have a female spouse or partner. There are many layers of gay. Men exclusively with men, gay men who fantasize about women, polyamourous gays with both at the same time, and men who've had sex with women and perhaps may have an exclusive sexual relationship with a woman. OP, your "guy who once had his pee pee touched by another male" scenario fits right in here (unless the touching was unwanted). Just own it. Our culture understands that gays are entitled to the same right and responsibilities as straight people. Now more than ever gays can embrace who they are. It's a pretty good time to be gay. Marriage and military is just the beginning. Stop being stupid and trying to hide yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The gay bashers still can't explain exactly why a guy would want to hide sexuality by taking the financial step of being married to a woman. he gains nothing.

someone please explain exactly why a guy who once had his pee pee touched by another male would want to sleep with women - which seems to be the case here and quite commonly other places as well.

You can't because you are WRONG. And the harder you scream "once gay ALWAYS GAY!" the more I know that you watch gay porn to get off. You are like those evangalists who preach against it, but love it.

You're so weird. I could barely understand your post. Your also not straight. Just deal with it. BTW- there's lots of hypocrites who are gay and pretend to be straight. Your homeboys, no doubt.