Girlfriend Says My Kids Are Mean

[Anonymous]

Gross. You're 47 and your gfs are ages 27-32. And your kids are 17 and 18. So 10-15 years age difference between your GF and your kids. And 15-20 years age difference between you and your GF.

I think we just figured out why your kids hate your GF. And they hate you too, spoiler. As they should.

[Anonymous]

Your children are your first priority. They probably are mean to your girlfriend. Do you blame them? Who wants their dad dating someone other than their mom? Divorce is very hard on children. Perhaps wait to date until they are out of the house and not as impacted by your relationships with people other than their mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just see your girlfriend when you don't have your daughters? If you only see them 50% of the time this should be easy to do. Any mature woman would know this a difficult age for teen girls. Your daughters should be number one until they're in college.

Exactly plus I bet these teens are out of the house plenty with their own stuff going on. OP and the gf shouldn't force this together time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gross. You're 47 and your gfs are ages 27-32. And your kids are 17 and 18. So 10-15 years age difference between your GF and your kids. And 15-20 years age difference between you and your GF.

I think we just figured out why your kids hate your GF. And they hate you too, spoiler. As they should.

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OP needs to be a parent first, not chasing college girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this girlfriend your AP?

He said he has been divorced for 8 years and this is his GF of 1.5 years, so no.

[Anonymous]

I dealt with a similar situation. It took time (years) and patience. Kids/young adults eventually came around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dealt with a similar situation. It took time (years) and patience. Kids/young adults eventually came around.

I am the young adult in this situation and while I have pretended to come around, I have not actually come around. I think it's in my best interest to fake it, so I do.

I will say that it's nice to have a younger woman spending her 60s and 70s being my dad's live-in caregiver though!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dealt with a similar situation. It took time (years) and patience. Kids/young adults eventually came around.

I am the young adult in this situation and while I have pretended to come around, I have not actually come around. I think it's in my best interest to fake it, so I do.

I will say that it's nice to have a younger woman spending her 60s and 70s being my dad's live-in caregiver though!

You’re probably not as good an actor as you think.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dealt with a similar situation. It took time (years) and patience. Kids/young adults eventually came around.

I am the young adult in this situation and while I have pretended to come around, I have not actually come around. I think it's in my best interest to fake it, so I do.

I will say that it's nice to have a younger woman spending her 60s and 70s being my dad's live-in caregiver though!

You’re probably not as good an actor as you think.

Probably not, but I don't care!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Say you were an adult with an adult roommate, and your roommate really disliked your girlfriend. But your girlfriend really really wanted to come into your home and spend time with your roommate. Not just you, your roommate. Would you continue to facilitate this despite your roommate's obvious resistance? Think about it before you play the adult age card.

A roommate would be paying rent.

If you really want to play it that way, there goes the relationship with your kids. Enjoy your girlfriend!

I’m not the OP you overreactive weirdo.

OP is an adult along with one of his kids. It’s fine that he’s dating 8 years post divorce. His daughters and you need to learn some manners.

+1

They shouldn’t be rude but he should also respect their desire not to spend time with his girlfriends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dealt with a similar situation. It took time (years) and patience. Kids/young adults eventually came around.

OP has had 4 girlfriends in 2 years. Doubt this current one will be around long enough for the kids to care to get to know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your children are your first priority. They probably are mean to your girlfriend. Do you blame them? Who wants their dad dating someone other than their mom? Divorce is very hard on children. Perhaps wait to date until they are out of the house and not as impacted by your relationships with people other than their mother.

I blame my kids for being mean, period. I agree with the reset, though. The kids are both almost out of the house - just wait 2 more years and then start a serious, drama-free relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it's natural for teenagers to use their leverage when they have it. It's part of them differentiating from their parents and expressing their autonomy. If your girlfriend can't handle it, why does she need to spend time with them at all?

I was this kid, and my mother was dating someone who was still married. When he was over, I would ask him in a fake conversational tone "How's your wife?" As if it was a totally normal question and I didn't know he was having an affair with my mom. My mom haaaaated this! But it isn't rude to ask after someone's spouse, it's actually good manners! LOL.

This is definitely something I would’ve done at that age!

[Anonymous]

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She’s in her early 30s, last one was late 20s, others ranged around there.

You’re gross, op. That’s way too big of an age gap. Especially with teen daughters. They are closer in age with your girlfriend than you. Grow up. You’re teens are disgusted you seeking out much younger women and disgusted by the women that would want to be with an old man.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it's natural for teenagers to use their leverage when they have it. It's part of them differentiating from their parents and expressing their autonomy. If your girlfriend can't handle it, why does she need to spend time with them at all?

I was this kid, and my mother was dating someone who was still married. When he was over, I would ask him in a fake conversational tone "How's your wife?" As if it was a totally normal question and I didn't know he was having an affair with my mom. My mom haaaaated this! But it isn't rude to ask after someone's spouse, it's actually good manners! LOL.

This is definitely something I would’ve done at that age!

I would have called the wife and asked her to pick up her stray husband.