Girlfriend Says My Kids Are Mean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your girlfriend is not asking to be crowned queen of the castle. She’s just asking not to feel like the villain every time she walks in the room. That’s reasonable. Nobody signs up to feel unwelcome in the home of the person they love.

At the same time, teens will be teens so they may not even realize what they're doing (except I'm sure they do, at least on some level). So here's the move...

You don’t punish.
You don’t lecture.
You don’t make it a courtroom.
You just get real clear.

Something like:
“Hey, I get that this situation’s weird and you don’t have to love it. You don’t have to love her. But you do have to be respectful. That’s the price of entry in this house.”

Your daughters love you and they want you to be happy and they'll understand why this is important to you.

This basically tells the kids that dad's desire to get laid is more important than their feelings. These kids had to suffer through their parents getting a divorce, which they didn't ask for. They ought to be prioritized to the extend that dad can wait two years until they're both away at college to focus on his love life. He made them, he got divorced (I don't care whose "fault" it was), now he gets to put his kids first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't assume these girls "love their father and will understand." I know 2 adult women who are over the age of 50 who still can't be polite to their stepmoms of 20+ years.

Well, maybe their stepmoms are awful. I think if you get divorced and you don't put your children's needs ahead of your own after that, you suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't assume these girls "love their father and will understand." I know 2 adult women who are over the age of 50 who still can't be polite to their stepmoms of 20+ years.

They were poorly raised adults and still very immature.

Well, they're the victims of divorce. DCUM loves to pretend that the kids are JUST FINE after divorce but here are two examples where that isn't true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you inflicting a girlfriend on your children? Date once they have moved out of the house. They don't have to be nice to some random woman.

+1
Why can’t you focus on your children rather than your f*** buddy du jour? Getting your dick wet isn’t more important than launching successful adults.

You sound like a Bitter Betty!

You mean a parent who puts their child ahead of getting some p*ssy? I know which I'd rather be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't assume these girls "love their father and will understand." I know 2 adult women who are over the age of 50 who still can't be polite to their stepmoms of 20+ years.

They were poorly raised adults and still very immature.

Well, they're the victims of divorce. DCUM loves to pretend that the kids are JUST FINE after divorce but here are two examples where that isn't true.

Children who have parents that put them first after a divorce turn out fine.

Children who have parents that put chasing co-eds first are not going to.

This is a parenting issue, and it lays squarely on OPs shoulders to BE A PARENT to the children he brought into the world.

[Anonymous]

Let’s be honest here - he’s doing his early thirties GF a favor by letting her go. No one that age should hitch their wagon to a late forties man with two disrespectful daughters. Literally, the worst imaginable relationship for his GF, hopefully ex-GF. Set her free to find someone without kids, ideally also in his thirties.

[Anonymous]

What’s with all these young women willing to date a divorced daddy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s with all these young women willing to date a divorced daddy?

Bad assumptions and naivety. They think an already more established man will provide them with a softer life, when those of us who have lived long enough to see this playout know that nothing is farther from the truth. Old divorced men with kids are the worst possible partners. They will suck the life out of you and leave you bitter and resentful. Women are better off single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s with all these young women willing to date a divorced daddy?

Loser divorced dad fanfic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s with all these young women willing to date a divorced daddy?

Uh, do you not read the internet?

They want money and babies.

[Anonymous]

OP - do you live with the GF or just dating? If it's only dating, why does she always need to be in the same space as your daughters? Can't you have her over when girls are with their mom? Or you can't keep it in your pants for a few days and girls are exposed to sounds of sex behind their bedrooms walls? They may find it very gross. My son prohibited me to invite partners to my house when he was in HS.

Teenagers are very shy deep inside (they wouldn't even discuss sex or watch a romantic movie with parents), and the girls do feel this whole exposure to your intimate life is gross. And yes, my son and his age peers girls think that dating older men is really gross for 20s women. So they also think your GF is a gold digger and treat to their financial wellbeing.