Husband doesn’t want me to get surgery

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Anonymous wrote:Wait another year just because you recently weaned and then go for it, assuming this was the last kid. They're only going to get worse with time and age, no reason to be unhappy with how hpi look for all that time. Ignore the people saying this is the entry into becoming Jocelyn Wildenstein, tons of women get these minor fixes post pregnancy and move on.

A post-pregnancy body doesn't need to be "fixed" unless it got broken somehow. Actual repairs are not elective procedures. Elective procedures aren't repair, they're cosmetic modifications.

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Anonymous wrote:People on DCUM are oddly emotional about other people getting plastic surgery and are not going to do a rational, thoughtful assessment with you.

There are plenty of rational, thoughtful comments on this very thread. Did you read before posting your screed?

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Anonymous wrote:People on DCUM are oddly emotional about other people getting plastic surgery and are not going to do a rational, thoughtful assessment with you.

There are plenty of rational, thoughtful comments on this very thread. Did you read before posting your screed?

I did. There were some rational, thoughtful comments and others that basically tell OP she's going to die and leave her children without a mother. Did you read those?

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Anonymous wrote:People on DCUM are oddly emotional about other people getting plastic surgery and are not going to do a rational, thoughtful assessment with you.

There are plenty of rational, thoughtful comments on this very thread. Did you read before posting your screed?

I did. There were some rational, thoughtful comments and others that basically tell OP she's going to die and leave her children without a mother. Did you read those?

That's pretty civil on an anon board. You must be new here...

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike my body after having two kids. I’m fit and workout but my once perky breasts are sagging a little, cellulite, and a lot of stretch marks. I don’t feel confident body and decided to change it. I’m going to go through laser therapy and sculpting to help lighten the stretch marks and get rid of the cellulite. I’ve been looking into a breast lift ( still my natural breasts). My husband is in support of the first two but has voiced his disproval of a breast lift. I know it’s my body but I do respect my husband’s opinion. Would you get the surgery anyway despite his objections?

Don’t do that to him. It’s not fair to demand something for your vanity that costs lots of money and puts you at risk. He is in a no-win situation — if he objects, he isn’t supportive. If he agrees, however reluctantly, you have wasted a ton of money. And this is addictive— you will want more later.

This just isn’t true based on myself and a few friends I know who’ve had one procedure to fix something cause in pregnancy and nothing else.

But people who have plastic surgery are inherently shallow and insecure and many of them will never be satisfied. They will just fixate on the next thing they think is wrong with them.

You just described my sister who has had more procedures than anyone here I guarantee and still keeps picking herself apart in pictures. However that doesn’t mean OP is like this.

It’s just YOUR sister issues. In reality many women had one surgery fixing a specific area. And then we’re done with that.
I’ve had a lipo and breast implants 5 years ago. Never went to surgeon again as I’m very happy with outcome and workout a lot to maintain the results

By your own admission you had more than one, so pp is still correct.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I had a breast reduction/lift and a tummy tuck following weight loss. The breast lift portion was easy-peasy, and they still look great almost 20 years later.

I've also had lipo and some laser thing that promised to tighten the skin on my upper arms. That was done under twilight. It didn't accomplish anything. In fact, the skin is saggier now actually. I'm strongly considering getting a brachioplasty.

DH says he'd prefer I not do it, but of course he's gonna say that. That's the only safe answer. But I will feel a giant weight lifted off my mind and I will have a higher libido if I'm not self-conscious about my saggy, stretched-out arm skin.

Some people don't care what they look like. Others, like me and you, do. (And, frankly, our spouses benefit from that.) Do what will make you feel good, and don't waste a second self-flagellating for being "vain." The breast lift is a simple, routine procedure and will give you lifelong benefits. (The other stuff you mentioned I'm not sure will do much, so maybe do a bit more research on those.)

Prime example. Start out with some surgery. Then more. Then more. Then it doesn’t work, so you need MORE surgery.

What kind of message does this send our children? You tell them to love themselves, they are perfect as is, but then see you go do a million surgeries to change very basic things about your looks. We want to tout self esteem and self love when clearly you have none. How can you raise kids being such a hypocrite?

Yep

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You also have to get breast implants redone every 10-15 years.

I’m on set two .. Will eventually have to get them removed or replaced.

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Anonymous wrote:People on DCUM are oddly emotional about other people getting plastic surgery and are not going to do a rational, thoughtful assessment with you.

There are plenty of rational, thoughtful comments on this very thread. Did you read before posting your screed?

I did. There were some rational, thoughtful comments and others that basically tell OP she's going to die and leave her children without a mother. Did you read those?

If you can only see irrational thought on one sided, you are biased.

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike my body after having two kids. I’m fit and workout but my once perky breasts are sagging a little, cellulite, and a lot of stretch marks. I don’t feel confident body and decided to change it. I’m going to go through laser therapy and sculpting to help lighten the stretch marks and get rid of the cellulite. I’ve been looking into a breast lift ( still my natural breasts). My husband is in support of the first two but has voiced his disproval of a breast lift. I know it’s my body but I do respect my husband’s opinion. Would you get the surgery anyway despite his objections?

Don’t do that to him. It’s not fair to demand something for your vanity that costs lots of money and puts you at risk. He is in a no-win situation — if he objects, he isn’t supportive. If he agrees, however reluctantly, you have wasted a ton of money. And this is addictive— you will want more later.

This just isn’t true based on myself and a few friends I know who’ve had one procedure to fix something cause in pregnancy and nothing else.

But people who have plastic surgery are inherently shallow and insecure and many of them will never be satisfied. They will just fixate on the next thing they think is wrong with them.

I will be sure to let my friend who had implants after a double mastectomy know what you think of her.

Yes, please do that because that is certainly what we are discussing here

Talk to the PP who posted "people who have plastic surgery are inherently shallow and insecure"

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike my body after having two kids. I’m fit and workout but my once perky breasts are sagging a little, cellulite, and a lot of stretch marks. I don’t feel confident body and decided to change it. I’m going to go through laser therapy and sculpting to help lighten the stretch marks and get rid of the cellulite. I’ve been looking into a breast lift ( still my natural breasts). My husband is in support of the first two but has voiced his disproval of a breast lift. I know it’s my body but I do respect my husband’s opinion. Would you get the surgery anyway despite his objections?

Don’t do that to him. It’s not fair to demand something for your vanity that costs lots of money and puts you at risk. He is in a no-win situation — if he objects, he isn’t supportive. If he agrees, however reluctantly, you have wasted a ton of money. And this is addictive— you will want more later.

This just isn’t true based on myself and a few friends I know who’ve had one procedure to fix something cause in pregnancy and nothing else.

But people who have plastic surgery are inherently shallow and insecure and many of them will never be satisfied. They will just fixate on the next thing they think is wrong with them.

I will be sure to let my friend who had implants after a double mastectomy know what you think of her.

You know your argument sucks when you need to call in unrelated strawmen.

And you know your argument sucks when you have to backpedal on it and say "no, that's not what I meant"

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike my body after having two kids. I’m fit and workout but my once perky breasts are sagging a little, cellulite, and a lot of stretch marks. I don’t feel confident body and decided to change it. I’m going to go through laser therapy and sculpting to help lighten the stretch marks and get rid of the cellulite. I’ve been looking into a breast lift ( still my natural breasts). My husband is in support of the first two but has voiced his disproval of a breast lift. I know it’s my body but I do respect my husband’s opinion. Would you get the surgery anyway despite his objections?

Don’t do that to him. It’s not fair to demand something for your vanity that costs lots of money and puts you at risk. He is in a no-win situation — if he objects, he isn’t supportive. If he agrees, however reluctantly, you have wasted a ton of money. And this is addictive— you will want more later.

This just isn’t true based on myself and a few friends I know who’ve had one procedure to fix something cause in pregnancy and nothing else.

But people who have plastic surgery are inherently shallow and insecure and many of them will never be satisfied. They will just fixate on the next thing they think is wrong with them.

You just described my sister who has had more procedures than anyone here I guarantee and still keeps picking herself apart in pictures. However that doesn’t mean OP is like this.

It’s just YOUR sister issues. In reality many women had one surgery fixing a specific area. And then we’re done with that.
I’ve had a lipo and breast implants 5 years ago. Never went to surgeon again as I’m very happy with outcome and workout a lot to maintain the results

By your own admission you had more than one, so pp is still correct.

No they are not. It’s been 5 years and I didn’t have any additional procedures . Having tummy surgery improved my posture and made it easier to workout. I’m in the best shape of my life in my 40s and my breasts look very natural - the men I dated didn’t even notice I had anything done. It was a huge confidence boost for me. I’m training 15 hrs a week alongside 20 years olds


OP - don’t listen to Carens here - do it if you want

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You also have to get breast implants redone every 10-15 years.

I’m on set two .. Will eventually have to get them removed or replaced.

You don’t have to replace them unless there is an issue. You should get regular MRIs to check.

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike my body after having two kids. I’m fit and workout but my once perky breasts are sagging a little, cellulite, and a lot of stretch marks. I don’t feel confident body and decided to change it. I’m going to go through laser therapy and sculpting to help lighten the stretch marks and get rid of the cellulite. I’ve been looking into a breast lift ( still my natural breasts). My husband is in support of the first two but has voiced his disproval of a breast lift. I know it’s my body but I do respect my husband’s opinion. Would you get the surgery anyway despite his objections?

Don’t do that to him. It’s not fair to demand something for your vanity that costs lots of money and puts you at risk. He is in a no-win situation — if he objects, he isn’t supportive. If he agrees, however reluctantly, you have wasted a ton of money. And this is addictive— you will want more later.

This just isn’t true based on myself and a few friends I know who’ve had one procedure to fix something cause in pregnancy and nothing else.

But people who have plastic surgery are inherently shallow and insecure and many of them will never be satisfied. They will just fixate on the next thing they think is wrong with them.

You just described my sister who has had more procedures than anyone here I guarantee and still keeps picking herself apart in pictures. However that doesn’t mean OP is like this.

It’s just YOUR sister issues. In reality many women had one surgery fixing a specific area. And then we’re done with that.
I’ve had a lipo and breast implants 5 years ago. Never went to surgeon again as I’m very happy with outcome and workout a lot to maintain the results

By your own admission you had more than one, so pp is still correct.

No they are not. It’s been 5 years and I didn’t have any additional procedures . Having tummy surgery improved my posture and made it easier to workout. I’m in the best shape of my life in my 40s and my breasts look very natural - the men I dated didn’t even notice I had anything done. It was a huge confidence boost for me. I’m training 15 hrs a week alongside 20 years olds


OP - don’t listen to Carens here - do it if you want

I’m 47 and have had nothing done but completely agree with PP. You live once, and risks are really low IF you go to someone reputable! Don’t skip actually checking qualifications (with the licensing boards not just the office) and talking to a few past patients.

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike my body after having two kids. I’m fit and workout but my once perky breasts are sagging a little, cellulite, and a lot of stretch marks. I don’t feel confident body and decided to change it. I’m going to go through laser therapy and sculpting to help lighten the stretch marks and get rid of the cellulite. I’ve been looking into a breast lift ( still my natural breasts). My husband is in support of the first two but has voiced his disproval of a breast lift. I know it’s my body but I do respect my husband’s opinion. Would you get the surgery anyway despite his objections?

Don’t do that to him. It’s not fair to demand something for your vanity that costs lots of money and puts you at risk. He is in a no-win situation — if he objects, he isn’t supportive. If he agrees, however reluctantly, you have wasted a ton of money. And this is addictive— you will want more later.

This just isn’t true based on myself and a few friends I know who’ve had one procedure to fix something cause in pregnancy and nothing else.

But people who have plastic surgery are inherently shallow and insecure and many of them will never be satisfied. They will just fixate on the next thing they think is wrong with them.

You just described my sister who has had more procedures than anyone here I guarantee and still keeps picking herself apart in pictures. However that doesn’t mean OP is like this.

It’s just YOUR sister issues. In reality many women had one surgery fixing a specific area. And then we’re done with that.
I’ve had a lipo and breast implants 5 years ago. Never went to surgeon again as I’m very happy with outcome and workout a lot to maintain the results

By your own admission you had more than one, so pp is still correct.

No they are not. It’s been 5 years and I didn’t have any additional procedures . Having tummy surgery improved my posture and made it easier to workout. I’m in the best shape of my life in my 40s and my breasts look very natural - the men I dated didn’t even notice I had anything done. It was a huge confidence boost for me. I’m training 15 hrs a week alongside 20 years olds


OP - don’t listen to Carens here - do it if you want

Sweetie, your brain needs carbs to work correctly. Stop obsessively working out and eat something. You'll think better.

Lipo or "tummy surgery" is one procedure. Breast implants is a second procedure, unless they implanted them into your "tummy".

That's two. So if you're going to call people "Carens", you should at least learn to count to two.

15 hours of "training" each week is neurosis, not health. What, exactly, are you training for?

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike my body after having two kids. I’m fit and workout but my once perky breasts are sagging a little, cellulite, and a lot of stretch marks. I don’t feel confident body and decided to change it. I’m going to go through laser therapy and sculpting to help lighten the stretch marks and get rid of the cellulite. I’ve been looking into a breast lift ( still my natural breasts). My husband is in support of the first two but has voiced his disproval of a breast lift. I know it’s my body but I do respect my husband’s opinion. Would you get the surgery anyway despite his objections?

Don’t do that to him. It’s not fair to demand something for your vanity that costs lots of money and puts you at risk. He is in a no-win situation — if he objects, he isn’t supportive. If he agrees, however reluctantly, you have wasted a ton of money. And this is addictive— you will want more later.

This just isn’t true based on myself and a few friends I know who’ve had one procedure to fix something cause in pregnancy and nothing else.

But people who have plastic surgery are inherently shallow and insecure and many of them will never be satisfied. They will just fixate on the next thing they think is wrong with them.

You just described my sister who has had more procedures than anyone here I guarantee and still keeps picking herself apart in pictures. However that doesn’t mean OP is like this.

It’s just YOUR sister issues. In reality many women had one surgery fixing a specific area. And then we’re done with that.
I’ve had a lipo and breast implants 5 years ago. Never went to surgeon again as I’m very happy with outcome and workout a lot to maintain the results

By your own admission you had more than one, so pp is still correct.

No they are not. It’s been 5 years and I didn’t have any additional procedures . Having tummy surgery improved my posture and made it easier to workout. I’m in the best shape of my life in my 40s and my breasts look very natural - the men I dated didn’t even notice I had anything done. It was a huge confidence boost for me. I’m training 15 hrs a week alongside 20 years olds


OP - don’t listen to Carens here - do it if you want

Sweetie, your brain needs carbs to work correctly. Stop obsessively working out and eat something. You'll think better.

Lipo or "tummy surgery" is one procedure. Breast implants is a second procedure, unless they implanted them into your "tummy".

That's two. So if you're going to call people "Carens", you should at least learn to count to two.

15 hours of "training" each week is neurosis, not health. What, exactly, are you training for?

You are an angry must be ugly person. 15hrs is nothing - a healthy person should fast walk 2 miles a day which takes 40-60 min if you count the time getting to the gym.
Yes, I had 2 procedures and very happy with my body. No regrets