Husband doesn’t want me to get surgery

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I didn’t realize the hate and arguments this would stir up. I will put off the breast for now since some say your boobs go back to normal.

For the posters calling me vain, I don’t care! I don’t want attention from other men. I love that my husband loves my body, but I still need to love my body.

I would definitely wait a little longer to see what your breasts do in another year. Having said that, the whole "what does your husband think about your boobs" questions make me sick. The amount of policing of women's bodies in this thread is gross. Do what you need to do.... for you. The odds of you dying from something like that is infinitesimally low, especially if you are otherwise in good health.

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Who are these two or three people who are so obsessively pedantic on this topic? "GOTCHA!!!! YOU HAD TWO PROCEDURES AT THE SAME TIME, SO NOW YOU'RE AN ADDICT." Lord almighty, shut up.

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Anonymous wrote:Who are these two or three people who are so obsessively pedantic on this topic? "GOTCHA!!!! YOU HAD TWO PROCEDURES AT THE SAME TIME, SO NOW YOU'RE AN ADDICT." Lord almighty, shut up.

Nobody "gotcha'd" in allcaps, hunty. We just understand the difference between one and two, necessary and cosmetic, risk-free and worth deeper consideration. Sorry you're so bent about it. Maybe touch grass...

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Anonymous wrote:Who are these two or three people who are so obsessively pedantic on this topic? "GOTCHA!!!! YOU HAD TWO PROCEDURES AT THE SAME TIME, SO NOW YOU'RE AN ADDICT." Lord almighty, shut up.

Nobody "gotcha'd" in allcaps, hunty. We just understand the difference between one and two, necessary and cosmetic, risk-free and worth deeper consideration. Sorry you're so bent about it. Maybe touch grass...

You seem oddly angry about what other people do to their own bodies.

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I like big, hanging Mom b00bs. Wide hips and a little pooch. Sexy…

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Anonymous wrote:Who are these two or three people who are so obsessively pedantic on this topic? "GOTCHA!!!! YOU HAD TWO PROCEDURES AT THE SAME TIME, SO NOW YOU'RE AN ADDICT." Lord almighty, shut up.

Nobody "gotcha'd" in allcaps, hunty. We just understand the difference between one and two, necessary and cosmetic, risk-free and worth deeper consideration. Sorry you're so bent about it. Maybe touch grass...

Imagine shaming people because they know how to count properly 😂

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Anonymous wrote:Who are these two or three people who are so obsessively pedantic on this topic? "GOTCHA!!!! YOU HAD TWO PROCEDURES AT THE SAME TIME, SO NOW YOU'RE AN ADDICT." Lord almighty, shut up.

Nobody "gotcha'd" in allcaps, hunty. We just understand the difference between one and two, necessary and cosmetic, risk-free and worth deeper consideration. Sorry you're so bent about it. Maybe touch grass...

You seem oddly angry about what other people do to their own bodies.

This is such a nonsense "comeback", pp. Nothing about that comment seems "angry". The comment they're responding to, maybe, but not the response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like big, hanging Mom b00bs. Wide hips and a little pooch. Sexy…

Soft is sexy. Squish is sexy. "mom bod" is sexy.

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Anonymous wrote:Who are these two or three people who are so obsessively pedantic on this topic? "GOTCHA!!!! YOU HAD TWO PROCEDURES AT THE SAME TIME, SO NOW YOU'RE AN ADDICT." Lord almighty, shut up.

Nobody "gotcha'd" in allcaps, hunty. We just understand the difference between one and two, necessary and cosmetic, risk-free and worth deeper consideration. Sorry you're so bent about it. Maybe touch grass...

You seem oddly angry about what other people do to their own bodies.

This is such a nonsense "comeback", pp. Nothing about that comment seems "angry". The comment they're responding to, maybe, but not the response.

Wow. You just don’t stop. Like a dog with a bone.
-dp, who is in agreement the counting poster is overly pedantic

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike my body after having two kids. I’m fit and workout but my once perky breasts are sagging a little, cellulite, and a lot of stretch marks. I don’t feel confident body and decided to change it. I’m going to go through laser therapy and sculpting to help lighten the stretch marks and get rid of the cellulite. I’ve been looking into a breast lift ( still my natural breasts). My husband is in support of the first two but has voiced his disproval of a breast lift. I know it’s my body but I do respect my husband’s opinion. Would you get the surgery anyway despite his objections?

Don’t do that to him. It’s not fair to demand something for your vanity that costs lots of money and puts you at risk. He is in a no-win situation — if he objects, he isn’t supportive. If he agrees, however reluctantly, you have wasted a ton of money. And this is addictive— you will want more later.

This just isn’t true based on myself and a few friends I know who’ve had one procedure to fix something cause in pregnancy and nothing else.

But people who have plastic surgery are inherently shallow and insecure and many of them will never be satisfied. They will just fixate on the next thing they think is wrong with them.

You just described my sister who has had more procedures than anyone here I guarantee and still keeps picking herself apart in pictures. However that doesn’t mean OP is like this.

It’s just YOUR sister issues. In reality many women had one surgery fixing a specific area. And then we’re done with that.
I’ve had a lipo and breast implants 5 years ago. Never went to surgeon again as I’m very happy with outcome and workout a lot to maintain the results

By your own admission you had more than one, so pp is still correct.

No they are not. It’s been 5 years and I didn’t have any additional procedures . Having tummy surgery improved my posture and made it easier to workout. I’m in the best shape of my life in my 40s and my breasts look very natural - the men I dated didn’t even notice I had anything done. It was a huge confidence boost for me. I’m training 15 hrs a week alongside 20 years olds


OP - don’t listen to Carens here - do it if you want

Lipo- one procedure
Breast implants - second procedure
Now apparently tummy tuck too? Third procedure?

The point stands.

It sounds like a mommy makeover which is kind of counted as one thing.

Right right, if I get 20 procedures all for a “makeover” it only counts as 1?! Does the billing work the same way?!
Good lord go back to elementary and learn basic math.

This is actually a stupid comeback. The billing for anesthesiology does bill as one procedure, for example.

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Anonymous wrote:Who are these two or three people who are so obsessively pedantic on this topic? "GOTCHA!!!! YOU HAD TWO PROCEDURES AT THE SAME TIME, SO NOW YOU'RE AN ADDICT." Lord almighty, shut up.

Nobody "gotcha'd" in allcaps, hunty. We just understand the difference between one and two, necessary and cosmetic, risk-free and worth deeper consideration. Sorry you're so bent about it. Maybe touch grass...

You seem oddly angry about what other people do to their own bodies.

This is such a nonsense "comeback", pp. Nothing about that comment seems "angry". The comment they're responding to, maybe, but not the response.

Eh, it’s obvious this is very triggering to you. Might be worthwhile to examine why.

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This thread is way off the rails so I don’t know if Op is reading.
I would just counsel OP to really think about why she’s getting it. I’m in my 50s with 3 kids and thought about it in my 40s and then didn’t do it. I don’t know whether it was the right or wrong decision but I do know that once you are past a certain age, basically every year there is a new thing that is going to drag down your self esteem if you left it. Nasolabial folds, turkey necks, spider veins, 11s, whatever. So it’s fine to do this procedure if you really want. But don’t fall into a trap of thinking that you need to fix everything that sags. Because over the next few decades, it’s all going to fall apart — the trick is making sure your sense of self doesn’t fall apart with it.

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If you can afford to do so then you should have complete say in what you do to your body.

Sure your husband can give you his personal opinions on what his preferences are - however ultimately the choice is all yours since it is your own body.

No one should have control over your body except for you!

[Anonymous]

My wife wanted a breast aug. I wasn’t thrilled with the idea of her going under the knife. I tried to talk her out of it but its something that was really important to her. She ended up getting the surgery and honestly she looks great. She wasn’t doing it for attention either, she’s very confident and accomplished as a person. She was trying to even out the way her body looks.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife wanted a breast aug. I wasn’t thrilled with the idea of her going under the knife. I tried to talk her out of it but its something that was really important to her. She ended up getting the surgery and honestly she looks great. She wasn’t doing it for attention either, she’s very confident and accomplished as a person. She was trying to even out the way her body looks.

Eh, I think the money would be better spent on therapy.