How often are you having sex lately?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife left me late last year, we haven't seen each other since, and we're now divorced.

So, y'know. I haven't had sex in at least a year—which is statistically indistinguishable from the amount of sex I had in the year prior to that.

Get out there! If you're reasonably fit, know how to dress, and know how to genuinely ask people questions about themselves you can have so much sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hours of foreplay? uggggggg.

+1 15-20 minutes is best for me then on to the main event. That too needs to be short due to “age” related issues. We are in our 60’s so 1-2 times a week is fine by me.

Wow. We go for 3-4 hours at a time.

I would die. Why????

DP. Have you really never done this before? It’s been a while, but I remember spending so much time in bed that we had to take breaks to eat when we were first married.

[Anonymous]

2x year maybe, 50s, married 25 years. DH whines about it but does nothing to change his behavior that has ultimately killed any interest in intimacy. He’d rather blame me for withholding than do anything to change his behavior and I am too tired to fake it anymore. Although he thinks I’m low drive, it’s really more about the fact that he makes me sad and has very rarely in our 25 years of marriage made an effort to pique my interest (and I’m not talking about elaborate plans here). Just shows up and says “let’s do it” when he’s in the mood—regardless of whatever else is happening around us—and then is surprised I’m not interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2x year maybe, 50s, married 25 years. DH whines about it but does nothing to change his behavior that has ultimately killed any interest in intimacy. He’d rather blame me for withholding than do anything to change his behavior and I am too tired to fake it anymore. Although he thinks I’m low drive, it’s really more about the fact that he makes me sad and has very rarely in our 25 years of marriage made an effort to pique my interest (and I’m not talking about elaborate plans here). Just shows up and says “let’s do it” when he’s in the mood—regardless of whatever else is happening around us—and then is surprised I’m not interested.

You should tell him exactly what to do. It sounds like he would do it.

This seems like a sad way for both of you to live your lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2x year maybe, 50s, married 25 years. DH whines about it but does nothing to change his behavior that has ultimately killed any interest in intimacy. He’d rather blame me for withholding than do anything to change his behavior and I am too tired to fake it anymore. Although he thinks I’m low drive, it’s really more about the fact that he makes me sad and has very rarely in our 25 years of marriage made an effort to pique my interest (and I’m not talking about elaborate plans here). Just shows up and says “let’s do it” when he’s in the mood—regardless of whatever else is happening around us—and then is surprised I’m not interested.

Not saying PP's husband is like this, but this made me think of my own situation as a DH. I don't put much effort into initiation any more because of years of rejection despite various efforts. I'm happy to try to be creative if my efforts have a reasonable chance of success. My "let's do it" doesn't have a great success rate; but it's not all that much worse than my success rate with more interesting attempts at initiation.

[Anonymous]

I feel like people are having less sex. Sex is out of fashion right now.

[Anonymous]

Once every few years. Together 20 years. Sleep in different rooms because his snoring is awful and he won’t address it and we have a young child who wakes us up really early.
On my nights to sleep in the guest room, I actually sleep.
He’s also not a nice person and refuses to go on date nights, out with other couples or even watch a movie at home.
I feel kind of sad hearing other people’s stories but it just is what it is so I’ll have to accept it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife left me late last year, we haven't seen each other since, and we're now divorced.

So, y'know. I haven't had sex in at least a year—which is statistically indistinguishable from the amount of sex I had in the year prior to that.

#funnyandsad

[Anonymous]

90% of these responses are written by a fat pedophile named Larry

[Anonymous]

Divorced, 53, dating but only recently after ending a long-term relationship. No sex at the moment.

[Anonymous]

40F, married 14 years, we have sex about 3-4 times a week.

[Anonymous]

Do people really count the number of times they have sex every week? And is it really that stable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do people really count the number of times they have sex every week? And is it really that stable?

I don’t know, I don’t know how people can even come up with an average. Some weeks are too busy and we don’t do it at all, some weeks we are both in the mood and do it every day. There’s absolutely no consistency. I guess some people have dates scheduled on the calendar so that’s how they know but we are not at that point.

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Anonymous wrote:Hours of foreplay? uggggggg.

+1 15-20 minutes is best for me then on to the main event. That too needs to be short due to “age” related issues. We are in our 60’s so 1-2 times a week is fine by me.

Wow. We go for 3-4 hours at a time.

I would die. Why????

DP. Have you really never done this before? It’s been a while, but I remember spending so much time in bed that we had to take breaks to eat when we were first married.

Another DP. I have never done 3-4 hours no jeez that would not even be enjoyable. I have done a 2 rounder with DH before, and even once or twice did 3 in one day, but that type of a session/day hurts my v! And definitely without being broken up 3-4 hours I would not be comfortable anymore after that, like the friction would be physically painful at that point.

Different people have different bodies!

We are in our 30s with young kids and are probably twice a week but good/passionate twice a week!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do people really count the number of times they have sex every week? And is it really that stable?

My answer was 1-2x per week. I did try keeping track in an app at the beginning of the year but I stopped after a few weeks. But it's not hard to figure out because we always have a lunch date at home during the week and/or when the kids are at their activities on the weekend. You can remember if you've had a lunch date that week or not.