How often are you having sex lately?

[Anonymous]

45, married 15 years. Like 1–2x/mo lately. It sucks. He doesn’t seem to want it much and when he initiates it’s tepid AF. And though my drive is naturally high, it’s just dead within the confines of long-term monogamy (and his extra weight tbh). I’m unhappy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:45, 22 years married, zero sex. Been over 7 years. He stopped asking about it 4 years ago.

Think you’ll stay together?

[Anonymous]

50 and 60, married 25 years, every other day. This has been consistent for years. We both have high drives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:50 and 60, married 25 years, every other day. This has been consistent for years. We both have high drives.

DH or DW is 60?

[Anonymous]

60 and 61 married 35 years. 1-2 times a week which I think is pretty good at our age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50 and 60, married 25 years, every other day. This has been consistent for years. We both have high drives.

DH or DW is 60?

DH is 60

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:60 and 61 married 35 years. 1-2 times a week which I think is pretty good at our age.

That’s great. Who initiates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:60 and 61 married 35 years. 1-2 times a week which I think is pretty good at our age.

That’s great. Who initiates?

We both do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:60 and 61 married 35 years. 1-2 times a week which I think is pretty good at our age.

That’s great. Who initiates?

We both do!

How do you maintain the passion and excitement?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot right now. This is the first year all of the kids are in school, so the house is empty during the day. I don’t know that the actual number of times is more, but we are having multi hour sexy day-dates, which is a lot of fun.
We are 42/44. Married for 17 years.

You don’t work while they’re in school?

NP who also has sex when the kids are at school. We both also work, but we make time for "dates"... honestly it's probably 30 minutes which still feels a lot more involved than a typical sleepy quickie, and it's extremely easy to find 30 minutes of free time in a WFH day.

Multiple "Multi-hour" day dates seems like a lot !

[Anonymous]

39 and 40, married with four kids 11 and under. Maybe once a week given how exhausted I am and I’m pretty sure it’s less than my parents who are in their early 70’s. Yes, TMI but it gives me hope!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:60 and 61 married 35 years. 1-2 times a week which I think is pretty good at our age.

That’s great. Who initiates?

We both do!

How do you maintain the passion and excitement?

I honestly don’t know! Physically we are both in good shape which helps and the spark between us is definitely still there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:45, married 15 years. Like 1–2x/mo lately. It sucks. He doesn’t seem to want it much and when he initiates it’s tepid AF. And though my drive is naturally high, it’s just dead within the confines of long-term monogamy (and his extra weight tbh). I’m unhappy.

This was my story, and now I’m getting divorced. It’s been a year.

It feels awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot right now. This is the first year all of the kids are in school, so the house is empty during the day. I don’t know that the actual number of times is more, but we are having multi hour sexy day-dates, which is a lot of fun.
We are 42/44. Married for 17 years.

You don’t work while they’re in school?

NP who also has sex when the kids are at school. We both also work, but we make time for "dates"... honestly it's probably 30 minutes which still feels a lot more involved than a typical sleepy quickie, and it's extremely easy to find 30 minutes of free time in a WFH day.

Multiple "Multi-hour" day dates seems like a lot !

Pp here. I work in the ER, and DH works in the ICU. We both work, but not necessarily during the school day. Sometimes it lines up that we both have the day off. It’s not every day!

[Anonymous]

We recently became empty nesters and we’ve gone from once a week to 3-4 times. My husband jokes it’s the result of pent up demand and I think he’s right. Part of the fun is that sex is no longer limited to the MBR so it’s like our pre kid days.