How often are you having sex lately?

[Anonymous]

It’s baffling to me there are men out there just not having sex with their wives.

I’m basically giving up trying because I’m so tired of being rejected.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s baffling to me there are men out there just not having sex with their wives.

I’m basically giving up trying because I’m so tired of being rejected.

And it’s baffling to me, as a woman, that there are women out there who refuse to have sex with their husbands! Sex is so much fun! Those of us with a high libido, man or woman, just don’t get it. Maybe I will after menopause.

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Anonymous wrote:Late 40s. 2x a month. We were down to 4-6x a year, and often months with nothing when we were early 40s. Almost divorced over it. Not exactly sure why things improved but they did. I am here to offer some hope that things can improve. I was one of those people on this board who was convinced a dead bedroom was irreversible.

Did something else change? Kids get older? Less stress at work? Just more time to relax?

It became a big point of contention and is now a lot better for us, but it was a “big deal” and there was a lot of discussion/navigating the difference. I have a very high libido and want it almost every day, he thinks that’s insane.

Not the pp. We also have a libido imbalance. We’re in our 50s with grown children and jobs, both out of the house. We’re having intense sex 2 to 3 times per week. We have it a variety of ways, sometimes with role playing. She’s vocal and reaches orgasm fairly fast. She gets into it.
Despite being seemingly satisfied sexually, she has hardly any underlying sex drive. The next day she can take it or leave it, whereas I always want it. She says I have to initiate.
Is anyone else like this? Sexually responsive but not necessarily sexually driven.

If you're in your 50s and having sex like that 2-3 times per week she has an outstanding libido relative to other women her age.

It seems many women go beyond just not needing sex - they put effort into avoiding it.

Yea because have you seen the majority of 50 year old men? Would you want to have sex with them??

50yo men are way better shape than 50yo women.

Men age like wine. Women age like milk.

Hardly the case around here. 50 yo women spend a couple hours a day @ Pilates and are ripped with nice hair and skin. 50 yo men have no hair and dad bods

They are still old though. That's what is unattactive about women. Oldness.

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Anonymous wrote:Huge fights recently over everything from whether or not to give the kids candy at breakfast along with their eggs to there not being enough dates to you name it. As the husband I am just going to stop trying to imitate because she’s so angry all the time and it was me initiating all the time anyway. I know that’s an avoidance tactic, but Jesus Christ things are grim right now.

I just want household peace, to not be insulted and criticized for everything I do all the time (even though I’ve got a good job, do half the chores, and kids stuff, and handle so much else). She is take it or leave it or responsive desire.

Marriage fking sucks.

To the divorced folks out there. How is it? For men, specifically.

Divorce is awesome. Lots of time to hang with your friends, and tons of women who want sex, and with modern apps they are so easy to find. it's like being back in college, but with money, and unlike college, the women actually know what they are doing in bed. Do it. Your only regret will be that you didn't do it sooner.

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the women actually know what they are doing in bed

This. I’ll take “oldness” since it often comes with skills and enthusiasm and being up for most anything.

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I said for better or worse. I never expected seven years or nothing. Shut out 29 out of 30 anniversaries, each Valentine’s Day, and zero ever on my birthday (ok that is selfish) Excellent health, exercise 5 days a week, solid income. Quit trying got tired of the rejection.