Again, I am sure this is true in some low quality daycare, in the same way I am sure it is true that some Nannies steal, but there is no daycare most people in this SE bracket seriously consider that doesn’t have cameras. Why do you feel compelled to tell obvious lies about daycares? Are you a nanny yourself? It just seems like a weird hobby. |
They aren’t teachers. They wipe butts, feed bottles and wrangle crying babies. They are lowly paid and typically uneducated minorities. They aren’t teachers. Maybe they should be teachers, but they aren’t. |
Yea, which many of you can’t wait to end so you can get back to the career that you love so much and get yourself a nanny to do the hard work. |
Then you do the job. It's extremely stressful and takes a certain temperament to do well. We've had great daycare teachers (more in line with "preschool teachers") and just-okay daycare teachers, and there's a big difference. And yes, they should all be paid more. But it's possible to be a great infant/toddler caregiver without some fancy degree in Montessori education |
DP. My mother is a highly educated professional who works with children. But if she was my daily babysitter she would stick my kid in front of the TV and feed her Lunchables. And then guilt-trip me if I complained because the childcare is "free." Our daycare does a way better job. |
How much do you make? This post sounds exactly like me but I still go back and forth on my decision frequently |
I don't know why it's hard to understand that daycares vary, and somebody who can afford a nanny can also afford a good daycare. Child development is a field of study. I wanted caretakers who had studied it to know how to deal with kids appropriately, and who got regular training and support of the type an accredited center can provide. And who got breaks and sick days, so they weren't checked out. Daycare (infant-4) taught my kid table manners, potty and hygeine, her numbers and letters and how to write her name. They did theme lessons like the water cycle, caterpillars, and civil rights in the context of holidays like 4th and MLK day. So yes, they are teachers. |
I was on the board of our daycare in DC for many years, and it takes A LOT of work to make one run well. They do exist though. |
You can pay family members you know? I have a friend whose kid goes to “nanacare” with his cousins and both sets of parents pay their mom a bit below home daycare rates in our area. I really think they have the best setup but sadly my mom is too far away and has too many other commitments (my dad has health issues) for this to work in my family. To OP’s question: I find it easier to trust the bureaucracy of daycare than my own ability to sufficiently do a background check and supervise a nanny. I don’t know if I’m who your question is aimed at because I think nannies can be great and I totally understand why other people prefer them they’re just not personally right for me. |
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My mom would never accept money, it is not a norm in her culture to watch kids for pay. |
Re: family members providing childcare:
It's hard not to envy those women with mothers / MILs who are doing a lot of heavy lifting - often for free! My SIL has that - her MIL is basically Mary Poppins and takes the kids for 2 days / week. My SIL is a SAHM and talks about how it's the toughest job in the world. Ummm you have two neurotypical kids and your MIL is doing a lot of the heavy lifting, get some perspective... On the other hand, my kids have friends from a wide variety of backgrounds and I see a lot of grandparents "watching" kids and I feel bad for the kids. Plopping kids in front of the TV or dumping them on others for playdates b/c the grandparents are too old/unengaged. |
I have no dog in this fight because my children are older, but I would choose a daycare center over a nanny past infancy only because all the nannies I meet are on their phones most of the time. Daycare centers IMO are more engaged with their charges because they have other adults to chat with and aren’t bored. |
Weird then, my two year old must be an incredible savant to suddenly, without instruction, know her colors, numbers, seasons and songs in two languages I don’t speak. Who knew I was raising such a brilliant child to have managed this without the assistance of teachers! And those early childhood education degrees those “uneducated minorities” hold are obviously just decorative. |
I don’t doubt that people have horror stories about nannies, but some of the craziest stories I have heard are from nannies discussing former employers.
Just sayin’… |