Feeling sad that I don't have a daughter

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Anonymous wrote:Since this is anonymous OP, I'll admit that I'm so glad I have two daughters for exactly the reasons you outlined. DH loves his parents and is a dutiful Asian son but the level of closeness and frequency of communication is nothing like his sister has with their mom. I don't even like my own mom that much but my kids spend a ton of time at her house and we're in regular communication. It's just a different type of relationship.

Same, 3 daughters 0 sons and I couldn't be happier about it.

Same here. I have two daughters and a son.
I'm thrilled to have daughters. I honestly feel sorry for my friends who only have boys (on the rare occasions that I think about gender).

That said, I've had my own very hard things to deal with. We all do. Most of us don't get everything we want in life.

Please don’t ever feel sorry for me and my family of two boys. How can you have children and feel like another family is less than because of the gender of the children. This whole thread is so full of so many generalizations and assumptions. I’m so grateful for my boys and definitely don’t need anyones pity.

+1 This thread is annoying as s**t.

[Anonymous]

OP, I hear what you are saying. We only have one child and it is a girl. I think, it is more fun to have a girl. My sister's sister-in-law had 2 boys and wanted a girl. She got pregnant with the 3rd child, and it was a boy again. She got desperate and tried to convince husband to try for the 4th child, but he said no. She is now 50 years old, her 3 boys are in college and high school. My sister told me that she was taking antidepressants. They adopted a female puppy, I guess to compensate for the lack of the girl. Oh, well. Life is tough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hear what you are saying. We only have one child and it is a girl. I think, it is more fun to have a girl. My sister's sister-in-law had 2 boys and wanted a girl. She got pregnant with the 3rd child, and it was a boy again. She got desperate and tried to convince husband to try for the 4th child, but he said no. She is now 50 years old, her 3 boys are in college and high school. My sister told me that she was taking antidepressants. They adopted a female puppy, I guess to compensate for the lack of the girl. Oh, well. Life is tough.

She should be glad they're functional and not addicts.

[Anonymous]

I have a son and was surprisingly relieved when I found out. I have had body/eating issues and was really worried I’d pass that on to a daughter. I also think I’ll compare myself less to him if that makes sense? Anyway, I think you can have some of the things you are looking for with a daughter-in-law if you make and make the effort.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since this is anonymous OP, I'll admit that I'm so glad I have two daughters for exactly the reasons you outlined. DH loves his parents and is a dutiful Asian son but the level of closeness and frequency of communication is nothing like his sister has with their mom. I don't even like my own mom that much but my kids spend a ton of time at her house and we're in regular communication. It's just a different type of relationship.

Same, 3 daughters 0 sons and I couldn't be happier about it.

Same here. I have two daughters and a son.
I'm thrilled to have daughters. I honestly feel sorry for my friends who only have boys (on the rare occasions that I think about gender).

That said, I've had my own very hard things to deal with. We all do. Most of us don't get everything we want in life.

Please don’t ever feel sorry for me and my family of two boys. How can you have children and feel like another family is less than because of the gender of the children. This whole thread is so full of so many generalizations and assumptions. I’m so grateful for my boys and definitely don’t need anyones pity.

+1 This thread is annoying as s**t.

Agreed. Between the people who blasted OP and read all kinds of hyperbolic nonsense into her post to any PP who has children of only one sex and then proceeds to talk s**t about how having the other sex would have been a negative...WTF people?

Every relationship between a child and a parent is unique and can be wonderful regardless of the sex of the parent and child.

That said, I don't think it is unusual for a parent to wonder about how it would have been to have a daughter or a son if they did not end up with one or the other. Just natural curiosity, really.

[Anonymous]

Raise your sons better. My DH calls his mom almost daily. They are very close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Raise your sons better. My DH calls his mom almost daily. They are very close.

+1. All boy family and I love having sons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself.

This post is such bullshit. Girls bring the drama. Don't need that shit.

Only because males can get away with bad behavior. A boy who backtalks and causes issues is just being a typical boy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself.

This post is such bullshit. Girls bring the drama. Don't need that shit.

Only because males can get away with bad behavior. A boy who backtalks and causes issues is just being a typical boy.

Any kid who backtalks is being a typical kid/teen regardless of gender. That’s not the drama folks talk about.

[Anonymous]

I hear you OP! I was sure I would have a daughter, but I have two sons...I understand what you are saying and not judging you like some others here....

[Anonymous]

I haven’t read all the pages but OP, you really need to stop with your stereotypical framing of mother- daughter relationships. Many of us have bad relationships with our mothers. And my 18 year old son is wonderful and we have a great relationship so far. Much more relaxed and fun than the one I have with my daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since this is anonymous OP, I'll admit that I'm so glad I have two daughters for exactly the reasons you outlined. DH loves his parents and is a dutiful Asian son but the level of closeness and frequency of communication is nothing like his sister has with their mom. I don't even like my own mom that much but my kids spend a ton of time at her house and we're in regular communication. It's just a different type of relationship.

Same, 3 daughters 0 sons and I couldn't be happier about it.

Same here. I have two daughters and a son.
I'm thrilled to have daughters. I honestly feel sorry for my friends who only have boys (on the rare occasions that I think about gender).

That said, I've had my own very hard things to deal with. We all do. Most of us don't get everything we want in life.

Please don’t ever feel sorry for me and my family of two boys. How can you have children and feel like another family is less than because of the gender of the children. This whole thread is so full of so many generalizations and assumptions. I’m so grateful for my boys and definitely don’t need anyones pity.

+1. I know gender disappointment is a thing and I wouldn’t try to deny anyone’s right to have feelings around that but please don’t assume that families with children of the same gender are disappointed! I have 3 boys and am truly content and have never experienced feeling of sadness that one of them isn’t a girl. Girls are also great and I’m sure I would have been happy with that but too often people pity dads of all girls and moms of all boys. This is unnecessary and so common, the comments I got before I knew the gender of my third “I bet you hope it’s a boy!” and, after he was born, “I’m sorry, are you going to try for a
girl?”. I wanted 3 kids and I have them, I was never trying for a gender. It’s a bummer people reduce kids down to their gender and I hope my boys never hear those types of comments or feel like I would have preferred a daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hear what you are saying. We only have one child and it is a girl. I think, it is more fun to have a girl. My sister's sister-in-law had 2 boys and wanted a girl. She got pregnant with the 3rd child, and it was a boy again. She got desperate and tried to convince husband to try for the 4th child, but he said no. She is now 50 years old, her 3 boys are in college and high school. My sister told me that she was taking antidepressants. They adopted a female puppy, I guess to compensate for the lack of the girl. Oh, well. Life is tough.

And she thinks a daughter would have been a magical happiness pill that would have prevented depression? Oh honey...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I hear what you are saying. We only have one child and it is a girl. I think, it is more fun to have a girl. My sister's sister-in-law had 2 boys and wanted a girl. She got pregnant with the 3rd child, and it was a boy again. She got desperate and tried to convince husband to try for the 4th child, but he said no. She is now 50 years old, her 3 boys are in college and high school. My sister told me that she was taking antidepressants. They adopted a female puppy, I guess to compensate for the lack of the girl. Oh, well. Life is tough.

And she thinks a daughter would have been a magical happiness pill that would have prevented depression? Oh honey...

+1. I have two girls and sometimes wonder what it would be like to have a boy but if if the gender of your child is throwing you into a serious depression you already had major mental health issues to begin with. Those poor boys, no child of any gender would have a chance at “fixing” their mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since this is anonymous OP, I'll admit that I'm so glad I have two daughters for exactly the reasons you outlined. DH loves his parents and is a dutiful Asian son but the level of closeness and frequency of communication is nothing like his sister has with their mom. I don't even like my own mom that much but my kids spend a ton of time at her house and we're in regular communication. It's just a different type of relationship.

Same, 3 daughters 0 sons and I couldn't be happier about it.

Same here. I have two daughters and a son.
I'm thrilled to have daughters. I honestly feel sorry for my friends who only have boys (on the rare occasions that I think about gender).

That said, I've had my own very hard things to deal with. We all do. Most of us don't get everything we want in life.

I do too! And I’m secretly jealous of any family that has two girls. I have one of each.