Take them or leave them - brutally honest description of your spouse
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Tallish Will not share salary amount, so don’t know Insists I pay for most things but brings home many interesting finds Responsible citizen Sings to others Loves animals, children, plants Trustworthy but suspicious Suffers from Onychomycosis but blames others Makes own furniture Makes own clothes Handy with some repairs Good with math Enjoys mopping, polishing and other cleaning duties Expressive painter and poet Pays most taxes Respectful of other cultures within reason Opposes repression Supports empowerment Not afraid to dance including alone Understands science Enjoys television Rides adult trike as main mode of transportation for short distances Good at organizing household items Frugal with perishables Experimental eater Moderate drinker in week Loves maps |
Anonymous
DP. It's interesting, though I don't know what to make of it, that the PP listed "bi" and just dropped it in the middle of the list. Big deal? Not a big deal? Posted like that to get us intrigued? No way to tell. If the work is valuable to society and helps others, getting public scrutiny and even threats is not necessarily bad unless the threats create real stress for the whole family and target the kids. To me, the constant working is a red flag, and the expectation of deference in "major life decisions" is a big old stop sign. That's domineering, and potentially negates the positives to a pretty big degree. As kids get older and couples get older, the life decisions get bigger, and there is more pushback from kids (college choice, career choice, where to live, whom to date or marry). A "my way or the highway" expectation of deference does not wear well over time and can alienate kids as well as spouses. Of course we dont know if the spouse who posted that list actually does defer, or pushes back, and we dont know how this guy reacts to that. Kind of crucial. If the spouse's job, which the guy supports so much, meant moving to another state etc. -- which wins, the "I make all major decisions" guy or the "I support your career" guy? Lots to unpack. |
Anonymous
Yeah, I'm not sure why bi is relevant unless he wants a hall pass to sleep with men. If they're in a monogamous marriage and she trusts him, this shouldn't matter |
Anonymous
another man here - yes, all important things being equal (shared values, morals), I'll take a high libido unorganized messy woman over a neat freak, in control zero libido woman any day of the week and twice on Sundays. |
Anonymous
I could handle the negatives if she's self-aware. Financially, this would be fine for me. |
Anonymous
Bi? Sorry, total deal breaker |
Anonymous
... but maybe the poster is a man? |
Anonymous
What would that have to do with me? I said for me it would be a deal breaker. Also how do you know I’m not a man? A lot of gay people don’t want to be with bi people. |
Anonymous
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My DH:
- He’s advanced degreed from a 2nd tier state university - He put himself through school and was the first generation of his family to go to college - He grew up on a farm and can fix a lot of things - He’s well traveled - He’s had a pretty successful career and also built a side business - He earns about 300k per year from his main job, makes about 180k annually in rent from his properties and has accumulated about $10M in net worth between stocks, homes (he owns 8 outright) and retirement money. - People that work for him often claim that he’s the best person they’ve ever worked for and remain friends with him long after they’ve moved on to other roles or jobs. - Overall he’s a good parent and very human but can be too easy at times - He’s also very forgetful and has ADHD, our son has it too. He doesn’t take any meds but is still successful despite. - He’s handsome 6’2” and still has all of his dark but gray on the sides hair at 50, he’s also reasonably fit, is objectively well endowed but sexually needy. - He helps around the house and tries to address concerns I have. - I don’t think that he does a good job of listening to me. - He wants sex more than I do and gets frustrated if we go too long without. - He forgets to do things. - When we argue he tells me what the intent of my comments were and often doesn’t believe me when I tell him differently. - He cooks maybe once every two weeks but is happy to help with cleanup. - I feel like if I didn’t organize everything and keep him on track then nothing would get done and I have a job too which pays more than his. |
Anonymous
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Very good looking, pretty fit and a great athlete
Very successful but it’s not about the money he just likes to win He’s great with our kids and loves being a kid Does his almost fair share around the house and doesn’t complain about it. Really respects my career choices and values my opinion Very generous Doesn’t care about clothes and it shows Always very sweet to me and rarely gets angry Great in bed and always wants to meet my needs A bit of a homebody which I am not. |
Anonymous
So weird. |
Anonymous
This is so sad given that there were so many other attributes listed. |
Anonymous
I'm sure the tall, good looking, successful, extremely wealthy bi guy is worried that some middle manager fed lump doesn't want to marry him. Lol |
Anonymous
ADHD? That’s a nope for me. |
Anonymous
So I bring up that the poster could be a guy and your first question is what that has to do with you? Message received. |