Take them or leave them - brutally honest description of your spouse
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Anonymous
You married George Costanza! |
Anonymous
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DH:
Good looking Tall Not slim but still very attractive Funny, witty, charming Ambitious High earner ($500k +) Responsible with finances Loyal Now the bad stuff: Short tempered Explosive Mean, cut throat, goes for the jugular. Whatever weakness you have will be used against you. Uses name calling in arguments, even with DC Shoves |
Anonymous
He wasn't like this in the beginning but yeah. I'm Mrs. Costanza. 
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Anonymous
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DW:
Pros: Pretty, fit, works out Great fashion sense Happy, likes to laugh, is an optimist High drive, really enjoys sex, up for (almost) anything Hard worker, high earner (MD) Cons: Often thinks her way is the best/only way Great mom but overindulgent, gives in to DD too often Can be emotionally needy/exhausting, needs to talk everything out Anxious, can't let things go |
Anonymous
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DH:
Pros: Tall, dark and handsome Still finds DW attractive, relatively good lover Has unicorn job that earns over 1M but allows him evenings and weekends with kids Good father Funny and kind Smart has Ivy degrees Good husband, puts up with my quirks, I can do whatever I want. Cons: Chronic illnesses, DW lives in fear of him dying. Almost did once. Chronic illness leads to less adventure like trying out new foods or traveling to developing countries Chronic illness makes it more likely DW will be caretaker in old age Has developed dad bod and is starting to lose hair. Crazy family, no familial support. |
Anonymous
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DH:
Pros: Very handy/mechanical genius Loves us all fiercely Loyal and dedicated to Wife and kids cons: Extremely emotionally immature impossible to have a deep relationship with The opposite of fun Never wants to try anything new/go anywhere/do anything Refuses to deal with any problems whatsoever and how dare I bring anything up Refuses to deal with emotional issues he has and just gets angry if any are brought up Unkind to anyone not "smart" enough" or quick enough to grasp what he is saying. Rude and inconsiderate, and gets his "feelings hurt" if asked not to do something that is bothering someone else Throws what I call "adult temper tantrums" that are quiet, covert, etc, but they are there nonetheless. It can be months of a silent treatment for example Obnoxious But....he loves us and would do anything for us he could physically do. Says he has nothing if he doesn't have his family. But we are all miserable. Do I stay or leave? I just feel so conflicted.... |
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Good looking and fit, but pretty damn bald
High achieving but not especially high paid Great cook, does dishes more often than not Totally equal partner: does at least 50% of stuff around house, takes kids to dentist and doctor, never assumes his work should come first Funny and enjoys socializing but is very quiet Bad at making conversation / sharing feelings Financially responsible but not especially proactive Up for adventure but leaves all the planning to me and is otherwise very regimented day to day Devoted dad. Kids and I are everything to him Has never said an unkind word to me Only interested in vanilla sex once a week |
Anonymous
With all the negatives, wonder how he was able to cheat? |
Anonymous
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Tall, handsome, super athletic for 40s.
Bald with shaved head. Smart, but relatively low earner ($120), spotty employment history. Good in bed, libido too high for me. Good with our kids. Super messy around the house, not an equal partner with chores and logistics. Likes the attention he gets from other women. Handles my overbearing parents well. |
Anonymous
Leave him. He sounds emotionally manipulative. Anyone who can go months (MONTHS?!) giving someone the silent treatment has absolutely no right to say he has nothing without his family. Seriously, this is terrible and so not normal. |
Anonymous
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DH is 49. We've only been married for a couple of years. My second, his first.
Pros: Well-educated Tall and naturally thin Great listener who is extremely thoughtful. He gives amazing gifts and remembers little details. Big "acts of service" guy. I never carry the groceries alone. Great with kids Boundless patience Fantastic in bed Good with hands and fixes/builds when he can Cons: Low earner for DC. I came into the marriage with a lot more asset-wise. Works tons of hours Takes his work very seriously - has a "passion job" that he's very good at but it's a bit soul-sucking So introverted and socially awkward. So much Star Wars. Poor self-esteem - I wish he could see himself the way I see him for a bit Gets very quiet and shuts down. It's his defense mechanism |
Anonymous
Shoves? Explosive? Leave them. |
Anonymous
Take them. |
Anonymous
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-Well educated
-Reads widely and almost everyone in my friend circle come to him for advice on a wide range of issues -Good with money, turned his $150K salary over the years into a nice 7 digit sum -Exceptional father. So many people from different walks of life pointed this out to me and tell me how rare that is. Never ever turned down our children when they asked for his time - to go to a park, play outside, walk, help with homework, etc. In fact, left job over this. -Good husband, exceptionally caring. I have never ever used the washing machine or clean bathrooms. He would never let me and it seems to physically pain him to see me carry loads of laundry up and down the stairs. Makes me healthy breakfast from scratch 5x a week, though not exactly what I like. - Good in bed - Short tempered in the sense that he puts so much thought into things for me and kids that he finds irritating when I am not as thoughtful. - He took a low paying job and always on the ready to quit if it interfered with family. We do not need the money as my job is quite well paying and more than enough. His salary entirely is saving. |
Anonymous
Physical violence is never good… please stay safe |