Take them or leave them - brutally honest description of your spouse
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Anonymous
Sounds amazing! |
Anonymous
Wow, I'd take this in a heartbeat over my no.libido SAHM wife. |
Anonymous
Frankly, I’m exhausted with all of the drama and the stress work and the talking and even the constant touching and sex. I would make that trade. |
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DH is a Gemini, two personalities.
On a good day, DH is kind, helpful, supportive, a good listener, a classic Boy Scout who helps elders across the street and picks the newspaper off the sidewalk and brings it to the neighbor's door. On a bad day, he's snippy, imperious/bossy, makes mean comments to/about anyone who gets in his way, sometimes to the point of being aggressive/bullying. He's a high earner, intelligent and well read, enjoys history, classical music, nature. He's a fantastic cook, engaged father, very outgoing, good in bed. He's also 40 lbs overweight, binge eats, suffers from anxiety that he will not treat or acknowledge. He is seldom emotionally available and "argues" by being passive aggressive. I'm never sure which DH I'm going to get--some days are wonderful, and others are a total bummer. |
Anonymous
Are you a woman too? |
Anonymous
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DH is funny, tall (6’2”), “hot” former athlete, smart, good in bed, makes $600k/yr, with upside of a business he is building, likes to do home improvement projects, wash my car, clean around house and BBQ. He has mid level sex drive (once a week) but when we have it is good.
Works 7:30 am until 7 in office, oftem home late, focused 100% on work. I do 90% of parenting tasks (with help of au pair) and also work full time at $500k/yr job but with flexibility to work from home. I plan all the dates and holiday vacations. He focuses on work and his hobbies/friends/work. He is funny, but short tempered and can be a maniac. He is not in touch with himself emotionally and often gives silent treatment if something is off. We have great fun when he is in a good mood. I have learned to find emotional intimacy through friendships. Ladies in neighborhood have crushes on him, sometimes i get jealous of his social time away from me, but when he focuses on me it is the best feeling. Know he had an emotional affair once, suspect more. |
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- Good at almost everything he does
- High earner (over 500K) - funny - does lots of little things for me - has gone to therapy and learned to be a better communicator - involved dad, really cares about his kids and loves them - emotionally available - enjoys taking to me and spending time with me - smart but humble about it - for the most part our libidos match - not sexist, racist, transphobic, etc. - really proud of my accomplishments - very good-looking to me Cons: - he is nonstop and tends to judge those who aren't as ambitious/productive as he is - has some blind spots; will judge others for things that he himself struggles with - tends to micromanage because he believes he knows the best way to do everything (and tbh it often is the best way to do things) - criticizes my parenting, but gets defensive when I try to explain why I'm making the parenting choices I'm making Unsure if it's a pro or con: - really into fitness, can be a bit obsessive about it, but I guess that's better than him dying young because of health problems - concerned about money so he is in a job that I fear is bad for his mental health, but better than being a deadbeat Honestly sometimes my biggest struggle in my relationship is worrying I'm not good enough for him. |
Anonymous
I wouldn't leave them but yikes. This would not be my cup of tea. Good for you for finding emotional intimacy through friendships. |
Anonymous
I haven't read all the pages, but who won the spouse lottery out of this group? Methinks it's this poster:
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Anonymous
How do you think you know me? |
Anonymous
| The most startling thing about this thread is how much more $250K-$300k looked like 2 years ago. |
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Kind, loyal and forgiving when necessary
Good compromiser Good dad, needs course correction at times but is very receptive when that needs to happen Messy by nature but likes to please me so somewhat keeps it together-- house stuff is 50/50 Highly intelligent and well-read Does not have a real friend group, gets most social needs met through work and family Can be lazy Quiet/not super chatty by nature but is a deep thinker so good conversationalist if you can get him going Creative/crafty Low sex drive |
Anonymous
| This is such a fantastic thread! Makes you realize how everyone is flawed. Also seems like people are being pretty honest in this thread. |
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Crinkly hair
Will not share salary amount, so I don’t know Has small pores Loves animals, children, plants Trustworthy Suffers from Onychomycosis but blames others Makes own furniture Converts coins to more valuable metals as hobby Makes own clothes Handy with some repairs Good with math Enjoys mopping, polishing and other cleaning duties Expressive painter and poet Pays most taxes Respectful of other cultures within reason Opposes repression Supports empowerment Not afraid to dance, including alone Understands science Enjoys television Rides adult trike as main mode of transportation for short distances Good at organizing household items Frugal with perishables Experimental eater Likes maps Has no anger issues Wakes up early Enjoys a good tug of war Cries at a "buddy" movie Has warts on back Likes cartoons Has stolen art Earns a decent living Uses the term hobo (and hobos) a lot Spiritual medium Multiple opinions Water oriented Has unique way of solving traffic jams Gives $10 to everyone he meets, once a year. Favorite color, green Has saliva like glue Thinks slipcovers are tacky Wants to join a club Runs red lights |
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Ok here’s my DW - lets hear your thoughts.
Pro’s: She’s a certified badass: - highly driven - put herself through college (every dime working multiple jobs) - has had a highly successful/stable career - she earns around $1m per year in her career/job - outside of her career she’s built and runs a rental property business that produces and extra $200k ish per year. (She’s done everything from finding/buying properties to sub-contracting rennovations, to doing back-busting physical labor herself to keep a project on budget). - she runs our household and manages our teen son’s school activities and sports. - she’s fit and has a ridiculous body. She was an HS/College level track athlete and has always loved staying fit. She turns heads in a bikini. - she enjoys and makes time for sex. The sex is good. - she has a good sense of humor (sometimes, depending on her mood) - she loves dogs, does volunteer work at an animal rescue and fosters dogs until we get them adopted. - She has zero interest in impressing anyone -She goes out of her way to do things for my family. Con’s: - To be successful, she’s had to run over tons of obstacles in her career and life. Sometimes she runs over the people around her including myself and our son. What makes a successful business person doesn’t always make for good personal relationships. - She has to have control of everything. One of the reasons she owns so much of our worklist is that she honestly can’t hand it off and will micro-manage that person until she ultimately takes it back out of frustration. - she rewrites history to suit her narrative (so in hindsight all of her decisions are always perfectly sound) - Her decisiveness causes her to make snap decisions that aren’t always accurate. She sees you do something one time - you do that something ALL the time and its a character flaw. - Sex can’t be spontaneous, it always has to be scheduled days ahead. No oral ever, for either of us. - If you do ever win an argument, you’re an a—hole and you’ll end up having to apologize for something. |