Wife Is Mad At Me

[Anonymous]

Why would a new sink mean you need a new island? I don’t understand.

[Anonymous]

Pick your battles

Do you guys have the money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We spent 200K gut-renovating. You're getting off easy, OP!
Seriously, if you can afford it, make her happy.

OP here. We specifically chose houses that were move in-ready. We will only be here for 3, maybe 5 years tops. I don’t want to spend money that will not increase resale value.

I'm a DW, and when we were remodeling the kitchen, I had the same argument with my DH, except he's the one who wanted to spend a lot more to make unnecessary changes. I put my foot down. I told him he can work more and earn more if he wanted to spend more.

He also wanted to retire early, take nice vacations, etc... I had to constantly remind him that he can't retire early and travel if he keep spending money like this.

It's been 20 years now since that argument, and DH can retire at 59 in a couple of years.

To be fair, I have, over the years, been willing to spend more as we have seen our nest egg get to a certain point.


But maybe your situation is different.

[Anonymous]

How are things in the bedroom? If she isn't putting out, then don't agree to what she wants. It won't make you happy just to make her happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would a new sink mean you need a new island? I don’t understand.

OP here. She kitchen has a farmhouse sinks and she wants a stainless steel sink. The island is cut out to frame the farmhouse sink and we will need a new slab to frame the new sink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pick the item that bothers her most and start there. Agree to live in the house 3-6 months before deciding on further changes.

Save in the meantime

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We spent 200K gut-renovating. You're getting off easy, OP!
Seriously, if you can afford it, make her happy.

OP here. We specifically chose houses that were move in-ready. We will only be here for 3, maybe 5 years tops. I don’t want to spend money that will not increase resale value.

I'm a DW, and when we were remodeling the kitchen, I had the same argument with my DH, except he's the one who wanted to spend a lot more to make unnecessary changes. I put my foot down. I told him he can work more and earn more if he wanted to spend more.

He also wanted to retire early, take nice vacations, etc... I had to constantly remind him that he can't retire early and travel if he keep spending money like this.

It's been 20 years now since that argument, and DH can retire at 59 in a couple of years.

To be fair, I have, over the years, been willing to spend more as we have seen our nest egg get to a certain point.


But maybe your situation is different.

Too much austerity early on. It isn’t a virtue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are things in the bedroom? If she isn't putting out, then don't agree to what she wants. It won't make you happy just to make her happy.

OP here. It’s fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pick your battles

Do you guys have the money?

OP here. We have the money but that’s not the point. It will not any value to the house.

[Anonymous]

Make her happy because that’s not much money.

[Anonymous]

It’s crazy that some of you think $5-8k is “ not that much money”.

[Anonymous]

What did you agree to do that you’re doing? Start there and then talk about how to tackle additional stuff over time.

[Anonymous]

The problem with “give in and make her happy” is that she will not be happy if she married a contemptible pushover who gives in whenever she makes demands.

Have some backbone FFS.

[Anonymous]

Have you posted about this before. It sounds extremely familiar

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make her happy because that’s not much money.

+1 Since you can afford it, why not?