Brother in law and His girlfriend proclaim DH’s family racist this on social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP meant "tiger king"

That's what I thought, too, and I don't get how that's racist. The characters in that documentary are white, and they are clearly identifiable people. It's not like dressing up like some ethnic stereotype (a geisha, a gangster, etc.). It's dressing up like a famous couple.

The only way I can see racism here (and even this is a stretch) is if GF didn't recognize the characters and thought OP was doing a "white trash" costume.

Or girlfriend read about Joe Exotic being a mad racist.

[Anonymous]

Tiger King outfit caused her a great deal of pain. So, was she from the trailer park, and you're not white?

[Anonymous]

Of course you weren't being racist by wearing a tiger outfit/costume.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP meant "tiger king"

That's what I thought, too, and I don't get how that's racist. The characters in that documentary are white, and they are clearly identifiable people. It's not like dressing up like some ethnic stereotype (a geisha, a gangster, etc.). It's dressing up like a famous couple.

I have a feeling there was a confederate flag involved. It would be in character fir a tiger king costume and yes, OP, it is in bad taste. You should have apologized instead of doubling down that you guys were just having some fun.

[Anonymous]

https://www.complex.com/pop-culture/2020/04/tiger-king-director-admits-joe-exotic-racist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are racist op, and ignorant about being racist. Just bcs you don't think you are racist, doesn't mean you are not.

Please enlighten us as to how on earth the OP is racist.

OP, this is why social media is so toxic. The good news is that she and BIL are exposing themselves for the idiots they are. You don't need to say a word. Just let it all play out. The more they post, the more people see they're ridiculous.

I'm part Japanese. I have no problem with geisha costumes or any other depiction of Asian people at Halloween. Some microaggressions can be really burdensome, but this isn't one of them.

[Anonymous]

Watch the video in the link.
https://www.popbuzz.com/tv-film/news/tiger-king-joe-exotic-n-word-racist-video/

[Anonymous]

OP has not responded what her costume was trying to reflect. What was the purpose of wearing tiger costumes? As well, if OP really intended for Tiger King, then OP should have responded to her sister-in-law that intent. It is very apparent that OP has no compassion for the sensitivity towards ethnic groups. Your sister-in-law may have misunderstood the intent of your costume. Her feelings were obviously hurt. Why do you refuse to make amends with your sister-in-law? Do you feel you are too superior to simply have responded to her "I'm sorry you may have misunderstood our costume. We were going as Tiger King." Instead of responding to correct the situation you chose to be silent so she could remain hurt. Shame on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are racist op, and ignorant about being racist. Just bcs you don't think you are racist, doesn't mean you are not.

Please enlighten us as to how on earth the OP is racist.

OP, this is why social media is so toxic. The good news is that she and BIL are exposing themselves for the idiots they are. You don't need to say a word. Just let it all play out. The more they post, the more people see they're ridiculous.

I'm part Japanese. I have no problem with geisha costumes or any other depiction of Asian people at Halloween. Some microaggressions can be really burdensome, but this isn't one of them.

They dressed as a racist who abused animals, drugged younger "husbands," and rant about not being able to use the N word. Among many racist statements by Joe Exotic cut out by the director?
He represents angry white racists.

[Anonymous]

OP’s post-and-run isn’t instilling confidence that she’s been willing to do any real reflection in her own behavior and whether there might be merit to what her SIL said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP meant "tiger king"

That's what I thought, too, and I don't get how that's racist. The characters in that documentary are white, and they are clearly identifiable people. It's not like dressing up like some ethnic stereotype (a geisha, a gangster, etc.). It's dressing up like a famous couple.

I have a feeling there was a confederate flag involved. It would be in character fir a tiger king costume and yes, OP, it is in bad taste. You should have apologized instead of doubling down that you guys were just having some fun.

I don't see where OP doubled down on anything. She and her husband left the group chat. Other family members told the brother and girlfriend that they were overreacting.

And while the use of a Confederate flag would definitely be in bad taste, bad taste isn't the same thing as racism. Unless something about the costume suggested that they were endorsing the flag or what it stood for, versus using it as part of a costume depicting a racist person. (Assuming there even was a flag involved.)

[Anonymous]

Why not trust that a woman that represents a minority knows better what is racist and what is not?

[Anonymous]

I mean if you dressed as David Duke, or Nathan Bedford Forrest, would that not be racist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has not responded what her costume was trying to reflect. What was the purpose of wearing tiger costumes? As well, if OP really intended for Tiger King, then OP should have responded to her sister-in-law that intent. It is very apparent that OP has no compassion for the sensitivity towards ethnic groups. Your sister-in-law may have misunderstood the intent of your costume. Her feelings were obviously hurt. Why do you refuse to make amends with your sister-in-law? Do you feel you are too superior to simply have responded to her "I'm sorry you may have misunderstood our costume. We were going as Tiger King." Instead of responding to correct the situation you chose to be silent so she could remain hurt. Shame on you.

I'm the poster above, not OP. I just read about Tiger King and see that Joe Exotic is actually racist. So yeah, it appears OP is racist. I feel sorry for your sister-in-law and that she married into a racist family. At least her husband supports her views.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are racist op, and ignorant about being racist. Just bcs you don't think you are racist, doesn't mean you are not.

Please enlighten us as to how on earth the OP is racist.

OP, this is why social media is so toxic. The good news is that she and BIL are exposing themselves for the idiots they are. You don't need to say a word. Just let it all play out. The more they post, the more people see they're ridiculous.

I'm part Japanese. I have no problem with geisha costumes or any other depiction of Asian people at Halloween. Some microaggressions can be really burdensome, but this isn't one of them.

They dressed as a racist who abused animals, drugged younger "husbands," and rant about not being able to use the N word. Among many racist statements by Joe Exotic cut out by the director?
He represents angry white racists.

But it was a costume, possibly a Halloween costume, since OP's post suggests that the original incident was some time ago. They presumably weren't dressed like Joe Exotic for a trip to the grocery store or a family dinner. People dress like monsters and villains for Halloween; we don't say that they are pro-monster or pro-villain.