Husbands family entitlement

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much money was this? Was this money for parents to attend the funeral of their child, or money for grandma’s sister to attend the funeral if a nephew’s wife?

OP here. I’m not sure hit at least a couple thousand dollars. It’s for her mom, father, two brothers, and like 5 cousins to go.

OP here. It’s her my husbands wife’s grandmother.

? Aren’t YOU your husband’s wife?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is there a history of them using you for money? Do they want nothing to do with you unless they need something?

OP here. No. We are cordial but we only see them 1-2 times a year. It’s not just for her and my husbands brother. We would do it for them but we will not do it for people we barely know. We are talking about paying for a air fare, hotel, and expenses for like 10 people for a week. No.

You’re being kind of ridiculous. If they treated you poorly, I could understand getting irritated. But a beloved family member died and you’re pissed at them because they want to attend the funeral? Where’s your compassion?

If you can’t afford it, that’s fine. But getting angry and calling them entitled is way over the top.

OP here. So you would find a weeks worth of air fare, hotels, and food expenses for 10 people that you barley know or have never met?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much money was this? Was this money for parents to attend the funeral of their child, or money for grandma’s sister to attend the funeral if a nephew’s wife?

OP here. I’m not sure hit at least a couple thousand dollars. It’s for her mom, father, two brothers, and like 5 cousins to go.

OP here. It’s her my husbands wife’s grandmother.

? Aren’t YOU your husband’s wife?

OP. Typo. It’s my husbands brothers wife’s grandmother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a history of them using you for money? Do they want nothing to do with you unless they need something?

OP here. No. We are cordial but we only see them 1-2 times a year. It’s not just for her and my husbands brother. We would do it for them but we will not do it for people we barely know. We are talking about paying for a air fare, hotel, and expenses for like 10 people for a week. No.

You’re being kind of ridiculous. If they treated you poorly, I could understand getting irritated. But a beloved family member died and you’re pissed at them because they want to attend the funeral? Where’s your compassion?

If you can’t afford it, that’s fine. But getting angry and calling them entitled is way over the top.

OP here. So you would find a weeks worth of air fare, hotels, and food expenses for 10 people that you barley know or have never met?

Wow your husband barely knows these people? Agree that that changes everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a history of them using you for money? Do they want nothing to do with you unless they need something?

OP here. No. We are cordial but we only see them 1-2 times a year. It’s not just for her and my husbands brother. We would do it for them but we will not do it for people we barely know. We are talking about paying for a air fare, hotel, and expenses for like 10 people for a week. No.

You’re being kind of ridiculous. If they treated you poorly, I could understand getting irritated. But a beloved family member died and you’re pissed at them because they want to attend the funeral? Where’s your compassion?

If you can’t afford it, that’s fine. But getting angry and calling them entitled is way over the top.

OP here. So you would find a weeks worth of air fare, hotels, and food expenses for 10 people that you barley know or have never met?

And I would say them insinuating we pay because we are white and have privilege is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is an "event death"? How is that different from a regular death?

Op, your story is boring and convoluted. Go to bed and forgive those who you feel wronged you by asking for money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a history of them using you for money? Do they want nothing to do with you unless they need something?

OP here. No. We are cordial but we only see them 1-2 times a year. It’s not just for her and my husbands brother. We would do it for them but we will not do it for people we barely know. We are talking about paying for a air fare, hotel, and expenses for like 10 people for a week. No.

You’re being kind of ridiculous. If they treated you poorly, I could understand getting irritated. But a beloved family member died and you’re pissed at them because they want to attend the funeral? Where’s your compassion?

If you can’t afford it, that’s fine. But getting angry and calling them entitled is way over the top.

OP here. So you would find a weeks worth of air fare, hotels, and food expenses for 10 people that you barley know or have never met?

Wow your husband barely knows these people? Agree that that changes everything.

OP here. We have met her family maybe 8 times over the years. We see them 1-2 times a year for maybe 1-2 hours at a family function. We are not close. The other people they want to go we have never even met.

They are not our family. They are my husbands brothers wife’s family. I’m also not close at all with his wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is an "event death"? How is that different from a regular death?

Op, your story is boring and convoluted. Go to bed and forgive those who you feel wronged you by asking for money.

I’m on her side. Who asks your daughters husbands family that you barely know for money? That’s is strange.

[Anonymous]

Ignore. Not your problem.

[Anonymous]

Your writing is very poor. I cant understand it

[Anonymous]

OP here. We were considering helping them out at first but I don’t like the entitlement. They feel like we owe them something just because we are white.

[Anonymous]

Ignore these freeloaders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your writing is very poor. I cant understand it

Then don’t respond.

[Anonymous]

I would be like "we can afford four one-way tickets or two round trip tickets."

I think it's weird that people don't plan for deaths. Last weekend I was talking to my dad about how his sister and her husband (my aunt and uncle) are almost 80 and I've set aside $2k for flight and hotel for when they die. He was like "maybe they'll die during quarantine and then you'll just have to do a zoom funeral and it'll save you money."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is an "event death"? How is that different from a regular death?

Op, your story is boring and convoluted. Go to bed and forgive those who you feel wronged you by asking for money.

I’m on her side. Who asks your daughters husbands family that you barely know for money? That’s is strange.

+1. Do not listen to the people who are acting like you’re in the wrong.