People are really miffed that we're not finding out the sex

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Anonymous wrote:It’s really hard to find gender neutral gifts and buying baby clothes is usually fun. Buying gender neutral baby clothes is not really fun. And, people who keep from learning the gender or keep their preferred names secret are usually pretty obnoxious. Sorry op

Hi, welcome to 2019. Have you met the Internet? It's pretty great. If you use this search engine called "Google" and type in gender-neutral baby clothes, a huge array of options at nearly all price points will be presented to you. Wowie, zowie! Did I just blow your mind?

I don’t find buying baby clothes on the internet fun. It’s the one thing that I still enjoy buying in the store. This is just my opinion, other people can think whatever. I’m just giving op another perspective. Maybe her MIL is not super savvy about shopping on the internet. Maybe someone has some special gendered baby item they want to give to her. Who knows?

In my experience, the people who don’t find out or keep baby names secret etc. tend to be people who want to draw attention to themselves and their “special” choices.

I'm sorry, but the existence of gender reveal parties, cakes, photo shoots and more just blows that little theory right out of the water.

My "gender reveal party" was in the delivery room, a near-private moment with my daughter, my husband, and the doctor and nurses. We didn't have a photo shoot, there was no Insta story, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s really hard to find gender neutral gifts and buying baby clothes is usually fun. Buying gender neutral baby clothes is not really fun. And, people who keep from learning the gender or keep their preferred names secret are usually pretty obnoxious. Sorry op

False. People who have elaborate gender reveal parties are usually pretty obnoxious. If you're going to make a cake, I'll eat cake, but let's not pretend that I care about your unborn baby's genitalia.

Are gender reveal parties actually a thing? I have never been to one. I have seen gender reveal Facebook posts that are elaborate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s really hard to find gender neutral gifts and buying baby clothes is usually fun. Buying gender neutral baby clothes is not really fun. And, people who keep from learning the gender or keep their preferred names secret are usually pretty obnoxious. Sorry op

Honey, you are not considering millions of people who did it with ease.

Or buy the gift after the baby is born..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s really hard to find gender neutral gifts and buying baby clothes is usually fun. Buying gender neutral baby clothes is not really fun. And, people who keep from learning the gender or keep their preferred names secret are usually pretty obnoxious. Sorry op

False. People who have elaborate gender reveal parties are usually pretty obnoxious. If you're going to make a cake, I'll eat cake, but let's not pretend that I care about your unborn baby's genitalia.

Are gender reveal parties actually a thing? I have never been to one. I have seen gender reveal Facebook posts that are elaborate.

Oh yes. I have been to a few. Like I said, I like cake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL, my best friend, my cousin and even a few friends and coworkers are acting downright miffed that we are not finding out the sex of the baby before birth. I don't think of this as a big deal at all, but some are complaining that "we can't buy you anything," etc. First off, we'd love gender neutral clothes and nursery items, and our registry has lots of those types of items at every price point. Secondly, we don't expect any gifts, and if people want to wait after the birth to bring a gift, that would be totally fine.

I just find it odd that people are having such a strong reaction to something I don't think is that big of a deal, or all that uncommon. My cousin especially is, "Oh I could NEVER, I'm such a PLANNER, how can you leave it this late?" But there's nothing on our list that we can't or haven't done or planned. The nursery is set up, we've got clothing and blankets and books and toys ready to go...why do people seem to think you can't "plan" with yellow ducks vs. pink bears? I honestly don't get it.

And no, I'm not one of those smug "we're waiting to be surprisssssed and this is one of the last surpriiiiiseeesss in life and aren't we special" moms. I've seen those in action, I think they're obnoxious, and I'm not coming from that place.

Did anyone else face a strong reaction? How did you manage it? Just ignore?

If 5+ people are “miffed” at you, it is probably not about the gender? Or you hang out with really testy people?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s really hard to find gender neutral gifts and buying baby clothes is usually fun. Buying gender neutral baby clothes is not really fun. And, people who keep from learning the gender or keep their preferred names secret are usually pretty obnoxious. Sorry op

False. People who have elaborate gender reveal parties are usually pretty obnoxious. If you're going to make a cake, I'll eat cake, but let's not pretend that I care about your unborn baby's genitalia.

Are gender reveal parties actually a thing? I have never been to one. I have seen gender reveal Facebook posts that are elaborate.

Again, people. It's called Google. You might want to try it sometime.

[Anonymous]

I find you annoying too OP. People have a right to give you their opinion. See how it works?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL, my best friend, my cousin and even a few friends and coworkers are acting downright miffed that we are not finding out the sex of the baby before birth. I don't think of this as a big deal at all, but some are complaining that "we can't buy you anything," etc. First off, we'd love gender neutral clothes and nursery items, and our registry has lots of those types of items at every price point. Secondly, we don't expect any gifts, and if people want to wait after the birth to bring a gift, that would be totally fine.

I just find it odd that people are having such a strong reaction to something I don't think is that big of a deal, or all that uncommon. My cousin especially is, "Oh I could NEVER, I'm such a PLANNER, how can you leave it this late?" But there's nothing on our list that we can't or haven't done or planned. The nursery is set up, we've got clothing and blankets and books and toys ready to go...why do people seem to think you can't "plan" with yellow ducks vs. pink bears? I honestly don't get it.

And no, I'm not one of those smug "we're waiting to be surprisssssed and this is one of the last surpriiiiiseeesss in life and aren't we special" moms. I've seen those in action, I think they're obnoxious, and I'm not coming from that place.

Did anyone else face a strong reaction? How did you manage it? Just ignore?

OP here. Maybe miffed is too strong, but it's more frustration about "not being able" to buy stuff. As I mentioned, there are plenty of gender-neutral baby gifts on our registry, and if people want to buy us something after the baby is born (or not at all!), that's totally fine. My MIL is mad that we won't discuss names with her, but we honestly wouldn't discuss names with anyone even if we were finding out the sex. (My MIL taught us that, actually--she told my SIL she hated the name Christopher and that she was so disappointed and don't use that name, etc.)

If 5+ people are “miffed” at you, it is probably not about the gender? Or you hang out with really testy people?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s really hard to find gender neutral gifts and buying baby clothes is usually fun. Buying gender neutral baby clothes is not really fun. And, people who keep from learning the gender or keep their preferred names secret are usually pretty obnoxious. Sorry op

False. People who have elaborate gender reveal parties are usually pretty obnoxious. If you're going to make a cake, I'll eat cake, but let's not pretend that I care about your unborn baby's genitalia.

Are gender reveal parties actually a thing? I have never been to one. I have seen gender reveal Facebook posts that are elaborate.

Again, people. It's called Google. You might want to try it sometime.

I still haven't been to a gender reveal party. My point still stands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find you annoying too OP. People have a right to give you their opinion. See how it works?

LOL...OK! Hope you have a better day!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s really hard to find gender neutral gifts and buying baby clothes is usually fun. Buying gender neutral baby clothes is not really fun. And, people who keep from learning the gender or keep their preferred names secret are usually pretty obnoxious. Sorry op

False. People who have elaborate gender reveal parties are usually pretty obnoxious. If you're going to make a cake, I'll eat cake, but let's not pretend that I care about your unborn baby's genitalia.

Are gender reveal parties actually a thing? I have never been to one. I have seen gender reveal Facebook posts that are elaborate.

Again, people. It's called Google. You might want to try it sometime.

I still haven't been to a gender reveal party. My point still stands.

I still haven't been to Spain. But I don't question whether it is "actually a thing."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s really hard to find gender neutral gifts and buying baby clothes is usually fun. Buying gender neutral baby clothes is not really fun. And, people who keep from learning the gender or keep their preferred names secret are usually pretty obnoxious. Sorry op

False. People who have elaborate gender reveal parties are usually pretty obnoxious. If you're going to make a cake, I'll eat cake, but let's not pretend that I care about your unborn baby's genitalia.

Are gender reveal parties actually a thing? I have never been to one. I have seen gender reveal Facebook posts that are elaborate.

Again, people. It's called Google. You might want to try it sometime.

I still haven't been to a gender reveal party. My point still stands.

I am a DP and I have never even heard of anyone in my circle of friends family and acquaintances having a gender reveal party. And I know a lot of people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL, my best friend, my cousin and even a few friends and coworkers are acting downright miffed that we are not finding out the sex of the baby before birth. I don't think of this as a big deal at all, but some are complaining that "we can't buy you anything," etc. First off, we'd love gender neutral clothes and nursery items, and our registry has lots of those types of items at every price point. Secondly, we don't expect any gifts, and if people want to wait after the birth to bring a gift, that would be totally fine.

I just find it odd that people are having such a strong reaction to something I don't think is that big of a deal, or all that uncommon. My cousin especially is, "Oh I could NEVER, I'm such a PLANNER, how can you leave it this late?" But there's nothing on our list that we can't or haven't done or planned. The nursery is set up, we've got clothing and blankets and books and toys ready to go...why do people seem to think you can't "plan" with yellow ducks vs. pink bears? I honestly don't get it.

And no, I'm not one of those smug "we're waiting to be surprisssssed and this is one of the last surpriiiiiseeesss in life and aren't we special" moms. I've seen those in action, I think they're obnoxious, and I'm not coming from that place.

Did anyone else face a strong reaction? How did you manage it? Just ignore?

OP here. Maybe miffed is too strong, but it's more frustration about "not being able" to buy stuff. As I mentioned, there are plenty of gender-neutral baby gifts on our registry, and if people want to buy us something after the baby is born (or not at all!), that's totally fine. My MIL is mad that we won't discuss names with her, but we honestly wouldn't discuss names with anyone even if we were finding out the sex. (My MIL taught us that, actually--she told my SIL she hated the name Christopher and that she was so disappointed and don't use that name, etc.)

If 5+ people are “miffed” at you, it is probably not about the gender? Or you hang out with really testy people?

So, in an effort to avoid other people’s opinions, you are getting a double dose of everyone’s opinion.

Isn’t life funny sometimes.

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I don't know how you don't know what gender your baby is. Didn't you watch the anatomy scan? I knew the sex of our kids before the techs said a word. Boys are pretty obvious...

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I think that they are aggravated that you are making something needlessly difficult - in their minds.

Obviously, it's your baby and this is totally 100% your call. They are going to need to accept your decision to wait to announce when the baby is born.