People are really miffed that we're not finding out the sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally think it’s weird when people know the sex and have the name picked out at 10 weeks. Sort of anti climatic. I’d never say that in real life though. There’s really not that much difference between a boy and a girl.

The climactic part is...having the baby! It's a new human! Knowing one or two more pieces of information doesn't take away from that. I'm super indecisive about names and could never name a kid before birth, but even naming is theoretical until a baby is in your arms.

I agree that there's not much difference between a boy and a girl, but that makes it seem like less of a big deal to find out the sex when it's a collateral result of other testing. Trying to preserve it as a mystery makes it seem like it does matter more. I'd never say that in real life to someone who told me they weren't finding out, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I personally think it’s weird when people know the sex and have the name picked out at 10 weeks. Sort of anti climatic. I’d never say that in real life though. There’s really not that much difference between a boy and a girl.

The climactic part is...having the baby! It's a new human! Knowing one or two more pieces of information doesn't take away from that. I'm super indecisive about names and could never name a kid before birth, but even naming is theoretical until a baby is in your arms.

I agree that there's not much difference between a boy and a girl, but that makes it seem like less of a big deal to find out the sex when it's a collateral result of other testing. Trying to preserve it as a mystery makes it seem like it does matter more. I'd never say that in real life to someone who told me they weren't finding out, either.

NP - your logic here is actually why I want to wait until birth to learn the sex of my baby. I found out with my first but his birth was still a HUGE surprise -- wow, here was just this incredible new human my body created! So this time, I think it'd be fun to save knowing the sex until birth because knowing didn't really tell me anything about my first kid other than the existence of a Y chromosome and a penis.

That's not to say I think the sex is that important. On the contrary, it matters so little that I don't see how leaning the sex ahead of time changes anything.

I think it's fun whenever people find out, for what it's worth. I just think I want to try something different this time. No big deal!