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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL, my best friend, my cousin and even a few friends and coworkers are acting downright miffed that we are not finding out the sex of the baby before birth. I don't think of this as a big deal at all, but some are complaining that "we can't buy you anything," etc. First off, we'd love gender neutral clothes and nursery items, and our registry has lots of those types of items at every price point. Secondly, we don't expect any gifts, and if people want to wait after the birth to bring a gift, that would be totally fine.

I just find it odd that people are having such a strong reaction to something I don't think is that big of a deal, or all that uncommon. My cousin especially is, "Oh I could NEVER, I'm such a PLANNER, how can you leave it this late?" But there's nothing on our list that we can't or haven't done or planned. The nursery is set up, we've got clothing and blankets and books and toys ready to go...why do people seem to think you can't "plan" with yellow ducks vs. pink bears? I honestly don't get it.

And no, I'm not one of those smug "we're waiting to be surprisssssed and this is one of the last surpriiiiiseeesss in life and aren't we special" moms. I've seen those in action, I think they're obnoxious, and I'm not coming from that place.

Did anyone else face a strong reaction? How did you manage it? Just ignore? [/quote]

OP here. Maybe miffed is too strong, but it's more frustration about "not being able" to buy stuff. As I mentioned, there are plenty of gender-neutral baby gifts on our registry, and if people want to buy us something after the baby is born (or not at all!), that's totally fine. My MIL is mad that we won't discuss names with her, but we honestly wouldn't discuss names with anyone even if we were finding out the sex. (My MIL taught us that, actually--she told my SIL she hated the name Christopher and that she was so disappointed and don't use that name, etc.)

If 5+ people are “miffed” at you, it is probably not about the gender?  Or you hang out with really testy people?[/quote][/quote]

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