Am I wrong to be mad at DH?

[Anonymous]

You’re being an idiot. And I’m a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be annoyed. People who cheat have character deficiencies. Not sure what I’d do - maybe nothing in consideration of the 14 years since, but I’d never be able to get it out of my mind. If he rationalized it once, I would always be thinking he could rationalize it again.

Wait, so after 14 years of being married to someone, you wouldn’t be able to let go the fact that your spouse went on one date with you while he was about to end a relationship with someone else? You’re just as cracked in the head as OP. Do the two of you go to the same middle school?

[Anonymous]

You’re all wrong and likely looking to start something- you can put your parts in, on or around anyone else’s until you’re married without fear or reprisal or judgement.

Let it go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re all wrong and likely looking to start something- you can put your parts in, on or around anyone else’s until you’re married without fear or reprisal or judgement.

Let it go

I feel like you’re my grandmother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Broke up with her after one date with you? I wouldn’t think of that as cheating. Maybe not ideal, but not the same as cheating.

I was dating someone way older when I met DW. It was a relationship but mostly FWB. She knew that I would meet someone I would want to date seriously and when I did and wanted to be exclusive with my DW I committed to her. Yes, overlap for like a week but who cares. Sometimes it takes a few days to pull the plug on someone you’re plugging...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re all wrong and likely looking to start something- you can put your parts in, on or around anyone else’s until you’re married without fear or reprisal or judgement.

Let it go

I feel like you’re my grandmother.

Is that good or bad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re all wrong and likely looking to start something- you can put your parts in, on or around anyone else’s until you’re married without fear or reprisal or judgement.

Let it go

I feel like you’re my grandmother.

Is that good or bad?

Good. She’s a hoot and tells it like it is.

[Anonymous]

I would be upset. Not contemplating divorce, but upset. Even if he immediately broke up with her after the date, the date itself was still an infidelity, and I would never want to be a part of someone’s infidelity. By withholding that piece of information, especially for so long, he would have been taking away my agency to make a decision about the relationship with a full understanding of who he was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be annoyed. People who cheat have character deficiencies. Not sure what I’d do - maybe nothing in consideration of the 14 years since, but I’d never be able to get it out of my mind. If he rationalized it once, I would always be thinking he could rationalize it again.

Wait, so after 14 years of being married to someone, you wouldn’t be able to let go the fact that your spouse went on one date with you while he was about to end a relationship with someone else? You’re just as cracked in the head as OP. Do the two of you go to the same middle school?

Correct. No, I would not be able to forget that he had a girlfriend of a year. A year! Hello!! That isn’t a casual relationship, and he admitted he wasn’t looking to dump her. It’s gross behavior contrary to the person she thought she knew, and it’s why she can’t shake it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be upset. Not contemplating divorce, but upset. Even if he immediately broke up with her after the date, the date itself was still an infidelity, and I would never want to be a part of someone’s infidelity. By withholding that piece of information, especially for so long, he would have been taking away my agency to make a decision about the relationship with a full understanding of who he was.

Do you really take yourself that seriously? You’re literally using the word “infidelity” and ascribing it to one date by a person who was neither married or engaged.
Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Broke up with her after one date with you? I wouldn’t think of that as cheating. Maybe not ideal, but not the same as cheating.

I was dating someone way older when I met DW. It was a relationship but mostly FWB. She knew that I would meet someone I would want to date seriously and when I did and wanted to be exclusive with my DW I committed to her. Yes, overlap for like a week but who cares. Sometimes it takes a few days to pull the plug on someone you’re plugging...

Does your wife know this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be upset. Not contemplating divorce, but upset. Even if he immediately broke up with her after the date, the date itself was still an infidelity, and I would never want to be a part of someone’s infidelity. By withholding that piece of information, especially for so long, he would have been taking away my agency to make a decision about the relationship with a full understanding of who he was.

Do you really take yourself that seriously? You’re literally using the word “infidelity” and ascribing it to one date by a person who was neither married or engaged.
Wow.

Troll. Just stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be annoyed. People who cheat have character deficiencies. Not sure what I’d do - maybe nothing in consideration of the 14 years since, but I’d never be able to get it out of my mind. If he rationalized it once, I would always be thinking he could rationalize it again.

Wait, so after 14 years of being married to someone, you wouldn’t be able to let go the fact that your spouse went on one date with you while he was about to end a relationship with someone else? You’re just as cracked in the head as OP. Do the two of you go to the same middle school?

Correct. No, I would not be able to forget that he had a girlfriend of a year. A year! Hello!! That isn’t a casual relationship, and he admitted he wasn’t looking to dump her. It’s gross behavior contrary to the person she thought she knew, and it’s why she can’t shake it.

But just a year . 1 year is not like the 14 years OP has been with her husband. Sometimes you don’t know until you know. It’s not like he dated both of them for months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be upset. Not contemplating divorce, but upset. Even if he immediately broke up with her after the date, the date itself was still an infidelity, and I would never want to be a part of someone’s infidelity. By withholding that piece of information, especially for so long, he would have been taking away my agency to make a decision about the relationship with a full understanding of who he was.

He’s also withholding his opinion of how Goddam fat you’ve gotten. Do you really want him to overshare?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re all wrong and likely looking to start something- you can put your parts in, on or around anyone else’s until you’re married without fear or reprisal or judgement.

Let it go

I feel like you’re my grandmother.

Is that good or bad?

Good. She’s a hoot and tells it like it is.

Thanks!
45 M and new fan of your Grandma!