Would you date a woman in her mid twenties with 2 toddlers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am divorced, have my own place and have 2 children under 3. I am attractive, 24 years old and in school. Just curious if most men would be turned off at the fact I have 2 kids this young.

Sorry you're getting rude comments. You will need to think "older, divorced" man who will likely have his own children too. Young guys either wouldn't be interested or wouldn't be mature enough. With children this young and vulnerable, you need to be choosey and as previously stated, don't make introductions until the relationship is very serious and you're sure you can trust the guy.

Is the dad in the picture? If he has partial custody, that makes dating easier, obviously. OP, unsolicited, but I would focus on your school/career and letting dating take care of itself. You're young and you already have kids. There is no ticking clock. Do you have family support and opportunities to pursue your own interests?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you the poster with the abusive husband

I wondered the same thing.
I’m thinking yes.

Almost has to be. She will have even more kids with whoever the new guy is

Ok seriously have no idea what you're talking about but I dont have an abusive husband. Or a husband at all, which I've already stated. Do people read?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am divorced, have my own place and have 2 children under 3. I am attractive, 24 years old and in school. Just curious if most men would be turned off at the fact I have 2 kids this young.

Sorry you're getting rude comments. You will need to think "older, divorced" man who will likely have his own children too. Young guys either wouldn't be interested or wouldn't be mature enough. With children this young and vulnerable, you need to be choosey and as previously stated, don't make introductions until the relationship is very serious and you're sure you can trust the guy.

Is the dad in the picture? If he has partial custody, that makes dating easier, obviously. OP, unsolicited, but I would focus on your school/career and letting dating take care of itself. You're young and you already have kids. There is no ticking clock. Do you have family support and opportunities to pursue your own interests?

Thanks, first time posting but definitely the last. Yah I am definitely not interested in guys my age because I just know they wont be mature enough. I'm attracted to older guys anyway so it works out. The dad is in the picture but he only comes to see the kids twice a week for a few hours. I have sole custody. I'm literally always with my kids unless I'm working at the restaurant which is 3 nights a week while my mother watches them. I have good family support though and I'm in nursing school (online). I'm content with my life right now there is for sure no ticking clock. Just nice to have some adult time at some point

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:24, two young kids, 4 months out from a divorce. Dating should not be the priority.

And if you actually read above you would have seen that it's not.

Then see how it goes. You'll meet someone or you won't. Seems like you've been living life on full speed, just relax and see if you meet someone who you want to date. Concentrate on school or whatever other "life" things you weren't as focused on when married and having kids. Would it be a turnoff for a lot of men to date a 24 year old with toddlers? I think yes. Particularly anywhere near age 24. But would it be a turnoff to date a 30 yer old with prior kids and a great life they've established themselves? Much less so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am divorced, have my own place and have 2 children under 3. I am attractive, 24 years old and in school. Just curious if most men would be turned off at the fact I have 2 kids this young.

Sorry you're getting rude comments. You will need to think "older, divorced" man who will likely have his own children too. Young guys either wouldn't be interested or wouldn't be mature enough. With children this young and vulnerable, you need to be choosey and as previously stated, don't make introductions until the relationship is very serious and you're sure you can trust the guy.

Is the dad in the picture? If he has partial custody, that makes dating easier, obviously. OP, unsolicited, but I would focus on your school/career and letting dating take care of itself. You're young and you already have kids. There is no ticking clock. Do you have family support and opportunities to pursue your own interests?

Thanks, first time posting but definitely the last. Yah I am definitely not interested in guys my age because I just know they wont be mature enough. I'm attracted to older guys anyway so it works out. The dad is in the picture but he only comes to see the kids twice a week for a few hours. I have sole custody. I'm literally always with my kids unless I'm working at the restaurant which is 3 nights a week while my mother watches them. I have good family support though and I'm in nursing school (online). I'm content with my life right now there is for sure no ticking clock. Just nice to have some adult time at some point

OP- if I were you, I would consider online dating for fun. No introductions to kids, no pressure. Don't be discouraged by DCUM- you'll get a lot of negative/jeering responses, but there are many people here who will try to give good advice. Yes, of course you will meet someone who is interested in you but it has to be the right someone. I have a much younger friend who was in a similar situation- married young, two small children, went back to school. Eventually, she remarried - a doctor, who is much older than she is- but their relationship works. They want the same things- enjoyment of life, no more kids (they each have two)-- it's not a sugar daddy relationship--I've known her for a long time, he's exactly her type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:curious if most men would be turned off at the fact I have 2 kids this young.

I

Yes.

Damaged goods, gold-digger.

[Anonymous]

Truthfully OP, most men will not. And with young kids you need to be EXTRA vigilant about the ones who will and who you let be around your children. There are a lot of predators out there who see a divorced 24 year old mom with young kids and take it as a perfect opportunity. Don't let men be around your kids until you've known them a long time and don't EVER let them be alone with your kids.

[Anonymous]

I would date you, and would definitely wear a condom if we had sex. But I would not commit to a long-term relationship. OP, you just don't seem like a good life planner. Unless you are a widower, if you are single and have two toddlers at age 24, something is a bit off.

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Anonymous]

The problem won’t be finding men, it’ll be finding GOOD men (real men) who are up to the challenge of dating a single mom. I had my son young, and dated a little bit didn’t find anyone I wanted a relationship with until recently (my son is 9). Happens that my boyfriend is my age, never married, no kids, and is perfect for me - including being OK with the responsibility that comes with me having a child already.

You’ll find someone. Maybe not right away, but you also won’t struggle with finding dates between now and finding the right man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am divorced, have my own place and have 2 children under 3. I am attractive, 24 years old and in school. Just curious if most men would be turned off at the fact I have 2 kids this young.

Sorry you're getting rude comments. You will need to think "older, divorced" man who will likely have his own children too. Young guys either wouldn't be interested or wouldn't be mature enough. With children this young and vulnerable, you need to be choosey and as previously stated, don't make introductions until the relationship is very serious and you're sure you can trust the guy.

Is the dad in the picture? If he has partial custody, that makes dating easier, obviously. OP, unsolicited, but I would focus on your school/career and letting dating take care of itself. You're young and you already have kids. There is no ticking clock. Do you have family support and opportunities to pursue your own interests?

Thanks, first time posting but definitely the last. Yah I am definitely not interested in guys my age because I just know they wont be mature enough. I'm attracted to older guys anyway so it works out. The dad is in the picture but he only comes to see the kids twice a week for a few hours. I have sole custody. I'm literally always with my kids unless I'm working at the restaurant which is 3 nights a week while my mother watches them. I have good family support though and I'm in nursing school (online). I'm content with my life right now there is for sure no ticking clock. Just nice to have some adult time at some point

NP ( guy). Of course guys will date you and you can afford to be choosy. Likely guys who would be interested in a serious relationship will also want to settle down and that probably is not your goal right now.

Wise choice doing nursing.

Good luck !

[Anonymous]

I would pass.

[Anonymous]

Do you have friendships? I think you need to focus on developing hobbies and friends that aren’t related to men or sex.

[Anonymous]

I am 37 have three kids.

I would not date you if I was 37 and single with no kids. I don't know if I'll ever be "mature enough" to raise some other guy's kids.

If I was divorced and both you and I had partial custody of our kids and you were good to them then in that situation yese. But as a normal "patsy beta swoops in to clean up the mess" -- you're dreaming. Some guys might be OK with one but two is too much. If they don't want kids, they won't be happy. And if they do want kids, they will want their own kids, so does that mean you end up with four? Oosh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 37 have three kids.

I would not date you if I was 37 and single with no kids. I don't know if I'll ever be "mature enough" to raise some other guy's kids.

If I was divorced and both you and I had partial custody of our kids and you were good to them then in that situation yese. But as a normal "patsy beta swoops in to clean up the mess" -- you're dreaming. Some guys might be OK with one but two is too much. If they don't want kids, they won't be happy. And if they do want kids, they will want their own kids, so does that mean you end up with four? Oosh.

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