Would you date a woman in her mid twenties with 2 toddlers?

[Anonymous]

One of my brothers dated at 26 year old woman with two kids under 3. It was a bit of a hero-damsel in distress scenario since he helped bust her STBXH. At the time he was 37. He really liked her and the kids, but ultimately, she decided to move back to Mexico City where her wealthy family lived and the kids could have a better life than in AZ. They tried to do LD for a couple of years, but it wasn’t sustainable. He was absolutely not pushed off by her age or the two young kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:24, two young kids, 4 months out from a divorce. Dating should not be the priority.

And if you actually read above you would have seen that it's not.

based on the title of the post, it does seem like OP has made dating a priority

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem won’t be finding men, it’ll be finding GOOD men (real men) who are up to the challenge of dating a single mom. I had my son young, and dated a little bit didn’t find anyone I wanted a relationship with until recently (my son is 9). Happens that my boyfriend is my age, never married, no kids, and is perfect for me - including being OK with the responsibility that comes with me having a child already.

You’ll find someone. Maybe not right away, but you also won’t struggle with finding dates between now and finding the right man.

Most men don’t want to raise other men’s children and quite honestly it’s risky for the child. This is why this family unit shouldn’t be advertised as an “ideal.”

Women who have children with losers need to focus on their kids, wait until the children are adults and then the personal Life can be a priority. This is what my mother did and I can’t tell you how much I appreciated her sacrifice now that I’m a mother. We never had to deal with introductions or being forced to live with mom’s boyfriend (gross). I would never put my children through that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 37 have three kids.

I would not date you if I was 37 and single with no kids. I don't know if I'll ever be "mature enough" to raise some other guy's kids.

If I was divorced and both you and I had partial custody of our kids and you were good to them then in that situation yese. But as a normal "patsy beta swoops in to clean up the mess" -- you're dreaming. Some guys might be OK with one but two is too much. If they don't want kids, they won't be happy. And if they do want kids, they will want their own kids, so does that mean you end up with four? Oosh.

<vomit emoji>

You don't have to like it but that answer is the dead truth

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem won’t be finding men, it’ll be finding GOOD men (real men) who are up to the challenge of dating a single mom. I had my son young, and dated a little bit didn’t find anyone I wanted a relationship with until recently (my son is 9). Happens that my boyfriend is my age, never married, no kids, and is perfect for me - including being OK with the responsibility that comes with me having a child already.

You’ll find someone. Maybe not right away, but you also won’t struggle with finding dates between now and finding the right man.

Most men don’t want to raise other men’s children and quite honestly it’s risky for the child. This is why this family unit shouldn’t be advertised as an “ideal.”

Women who have children with losers need to focus on their kids, wait until the children are adults and then the personal Life can be a priority. This is what my mother did and I can’t tell you how much I appreciated her sacrifice now that I’m a mother. We never had to deal with introductions or being forced to live with mom’s boyfriend (gross). I would never put my children through that.

No one is advertising it as ideal. But to say it never works is also false. It can be really beneficial for kids to see mom in a happy relationship and to have a positive male presence.

Sorry that you think a mom having a live in bf is gross. Sexual repression is a burden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:24, two young kids, 4 months out from a divorce. Dating should not be the priority.

And if you actually read above you would have seen that it's not.

Then why are you asking?

[Anonymous]

So you’re 24, divorced, 2 kids, work part time, and go to school "online". I’d pass on all that alone no matter what you look like.

[Anonymous]

How can you go to nursing school online? Don’t you need hands on experience?

[Anonymous]

Date yes. Marry no.

[Anonymous]

OP, you say dating is not a priority, but you're here asking about dating. That is what people are responding to. What you're saying isn't matching the other behavior, and so people are addressing the behavior (posting about behavior).

Do not date right now because you will attract low quality men. Finish your degree, start your higher paying job, get a little older, and then date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem won’t be finding men, it’ll be finding GOOD men (real men) who are up to the challenge of dating a single mom. I had my son young, and dated a little bit didn’t find anyone I wanted a relationship with until recently (my son is 9). Happens that my boyfriend is my age, never married, no kids, and is perfect for me - including being OK with the responsibility that comes with me having a child already.

You’ll find someone. Maybe not right away, but you also won’t struggle with finding dates between now and finding the right man.

Most men don’t want to raise other men’s children and quite honestly it’s risky for the child. This is why this family unit shouldn’t be advertised as an “ideal.”

Women who have children with losers need to focus on their kids, wait until the children are adults and then the personal Life can be a priority. This is what my mother did and I can’t tell you how much I appreciated her sacrifice now that I’m a mother. We never had to deal with introductions or being forced to live with mom’s boyfriend (gross). I would never put my children through that.

No one is advertising it as ideal. But to say it never works is also false. It can be really beneficial for kids to see mom in a happy relationship and to have a positive male presence.

Sorry that you think a mom having a live in bf is gross. Sexual repression is a burden.

I’m the first PP, and I’ve only introduced my son to my current boyfriend - and we’re heading toward marriage. Not right away, but that’s where we’re going. I hate the attitude that single moms should only raise children until the kid goes to college and then can have a personal life - my son needs a happy mom and one who has balance. I’m not perfect, but I’m doing my best on all fronts. It’s also been really good for my son to have a positive male influence in his life In an ongoing relationship, because my ex is a disaster (we split when my son was a baby).

I don’t know how I feel about having a live in boyfriend, but I’m fairly certain we won’t live together until we’re engaged with a date set at least. We’ll have to see how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem won’t be finding men, it’ll be finding GOOD men (real men) who are up to the challenge of dating a single mom. I had my son young, and dated a little bit didn’t find anyone I wanted a relationship with until recently (my son is 9). Happens that my boyfriend is my age, never married, no kids, and is perfect for me - including being OK with the responsibility that comes with me having a child already.

You’ll find someone. Maybe not right away, but you also won’t struggle with finding dates between now and finding the right man.

Most men don’t want to raise other men’s children and quite honestly it’s risky for the child. This is why this family unit shouldn’t be advertised as an “ideal.”

Women who have children with losers need to focus on their kids, wait until the children are adults and then the personal Life can be a priority. This is what my mother did and I can’t tell you how much I appreciated her sacrifice now that I’m a mother. We never had to deal with introductions or being forced to live with mom’s boyfriend (gross). I would never put my children through that.

No one is advertising it as ideal. But to say it never works is also false. It can be really beneficial for kids to see mom in a happy relationship and to have a positive male presence.

Sorry that you think a mom having a live in bf is gross. Sexual repression is a burden.

I’m the first PP, and I’ve only introduced my son to my current boyfriend - and we’re heading toward marriage. Not right away, but that’s where we’re going. I hate the attitude that single moms should only raise children until the kid goes to college and then can have a personal life - my son needs a happy mom and one who has balance. I’m not perfect, but I’m doing my best on all fronts. It’s also been really good for my son to have a positive male influence in his life In an ongoing relationship, because my ex is a disaster (we split when my son was a baby).

I don’t know how I feel about having a live in boyfriend, but I’m fairly certain we won’t live together until we’re engaged with a date set at least. We’ll have to see how it goes.

I wouldn't want you for a daughter in law.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem won’t be finding men, it’ll be finding GOOD men (real men) who are up to the challenge of dating a single mom. I had my son young, and dated a little bit didn’t find anyone I wanted a relationship with until recently (my son is 9). Happens that my boyfriend is my age, never married, no kids, and is perfect for me - including being OK with the responsibility that comes with me having a child already.

You’ll find someone. Maybe not right away, but you also won’t struggle with finding dates between now and finding the right man.

Most men don’t want to raise other men’s children and quite honestly it’s risky for the child. This is why this family unit shouldn’t be advertised as an “ideal.”

Women who have children with losers need to focus on their kids, wait until the children are adults and then the personal Life can be a priority. This is what my mother did and I can’t tell you how much I appreciated her sacrifice now that I’m a mother. We never had to deal with introductions or being forced to live with mom’s boyfriend (gross). I would never put my children through that.

No one is advertising it as ideal. But to say it never works is also false. It can be really beneficial for kids to see mom in a happy relationship and to have a positive male presence.

Sorry that you think a mom having a live in bf is gross. Sexual repression is a burden.

I’m the first PP, and I’ve only introduced my son to my current boyfriend - and we’re heading toward marriage. Not right away, but that’s where we’re going. I hate the attitude that single moms should only raise children until the kid goes to college and then can have a personal life - my son needs a happy mom and one who has balance. I’m not perfect, but I’m doing my best on all fronts. It’s also been really good for my son to have a positive male influence in his life In an ongoing relationship, because my ex is a disaster (we split when my son was a baby).

I don’t know how I feel about having a live in boyfriend, but I’m fairly certain we won’t live together until we’re engaged with a date set at least. We’ll have to see how it goes.

I wouldn't want you for a daughter in law.

Too bad your son gets to choose his wife himself then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem won’t be finding men, it’ll be finding GOOD men (real men) who are up to the challenge of dating a single mom. I had my son young, and dated a little bit didn’t find anyone I wanted a relationship with until recently (my son is 9). Happens that my boyfriend is my age, never married, no kids, and is perfect for me - including being OK with the responsibility that comes with me having a child already.

You’ll find someone. Maybe not right away, but you also won’t struggle with finding dates between now and finding the right man.

Most men don’t want to raise other men’s children and quite honestly it’s risky for the child. This is why this family unit shouldn’t be advertised as an “ideal.”

Women who have children with losers need to focus on their kids, wait until the children are adults and then the personal Life can be a priority. This is what my mother did and I can’t tell you how much I appreciated her sacrifice now that I’m a mother. We never had to deal with introductions or being forced to live with mom’s boyfriend (gross). I would never put my children through that.

No one is advertising it as ideal. But to say it never works is also false. It can be really beneficial for kids to see mom in a happy relationship and to have a positive male presence.

Sorry that you think a mom having a live in bf is gross. Sexual repression is a burden.

I’m the first PP, and I’ve only introduced my son to my current boyfriend - and we’re heading toward marriage. Not right away, but that’s where we’re going. I hate the attitude that single moms should only raise children until the kid goes to college and then can have a personal life - my son needs a happy mom and one who has balance. I’m not perfect, but I’m doing my best on all fronts. It’s also been really good for my son to have a positive male influence in his life In an ongoing relationship, because my ex is a disaster (we split when my son was a baby).

I don’t know how I feel about having a live in boyfriend, but I’m fairly certain we won’t live together until we’re engaged with a date set at least. We’ll have to see how it goes.

I wouldn't want you for a daughter in law.

Too bad your son gets to choose his wife himself then.

Better teach him to avoid single moms, then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:24, two young kids, 4 months out from a divorce. Dating should not be the priority.

And if you actually read above you would have seen that it's not.

Then why are you asking?

Since when are people not allowed to wonder about their future? Good grief.