Boy sent his nude picture to DD

[Anonymous]

Call his parents- I have an impulsive son who I hope would not do something this stupid. If you contacted me, I would be grateful and would talk with my son to be sure he understands how serious it is.

You want the kid to stop this behavior not to be labeled a sex offender in eighth grade for being dumb and impulsive, right?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I asked my DD if I should talk to his parents, and she said if I do that, she'll never tell me anything in the future. Without knowing his last name, I can't find his parents' contact info without contacting the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't know him and his parents, don't even know his last name. I think they met through Quiz bowl, she said he is really good at it.

Not much you can do then other than tell her to block him and have no further contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I asked my DD if I should talk to his parents, and she said if I do that, she'll never tell me anything in the future. Without knowing his last name, I can't find his parents' contact info without contacting the school.

I would probably let it be then if it were me. He doesn’t dangerous or worrisome- just stupid. Hopefully he won’t do it again and get in trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I asked my DD if I should talk to his parents, and she said if I do that, she'll never tell me anything in the future. Without knowing his last name, I can't find his parents' contact info without contacting the school.

She's 11? With her response her phone/access to Snapchat would be gone around here.

[Anonymous]

I would sent him a text and tell him next time he wants to send your daughter porn, make sure he works out enough to have a good body to look at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I asked my DD if I should talk to his parents, and she said if I do that, she'll never tell me anything in the future. Without knowing his last name, I can't find his parents' contact info without contacting the school.

She's 11? With her response her phone/access to Snapchat would be gone around here.

OP said her DD was in eighth grade

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I asked my DD if I should talk to his parents, and she said if I do that, she'll never tell me anything in the future. Without knowing his last name, I can't find his parents' contact info without contacting the school.

She's 11? With her response her phone/access to Snapchat would be gone around here.

And you’d ensure that your child doesn’t come to you with situations like that in the future. You don’t have to be their friend, but you don’t have to be a totalitarian either. You have to build mutual trust to keep communication open during the teen years.

[Anonymous]

Maybe I’m going to sound like an angry feminist, but seriously? Maybe he didn’t know this was wrong? That’s a parental and cultural failing. This little girl now has a #metoo story and she’s in 8th grade.

OP, I’m not saying call the cops, but I do think your daughter should see you make a big deal of standing up for her so that she knows she is never expected to tolerate inappropriate sexual behavior from men. I’d make a big deal about calling his parents and make sure she knows she never has to accept this kind of aggression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if you had taken a screenshot his parents could have made problems for you for having child p0rn.

Without proof who knows if they’ll believe you but you’ve got to try to talk to them. If they don’t believe now they will eventually.

I don't know how a parent can accuse you of having child porn that the child himself sent to your child. The child who sent the photo is distributing child porn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I asked my DD if I should talk to his parents, and she said if I do that, she'll never tell me anything in the future. Without knowing his last name, I can't find his parents' contact info without contacting the school.

I would probably let it be then if it were me. He doesn’t dangerous or worrisome- just stupid. Hopefully he won’t do it again and get in trouble.

OP here. Yes, that's what I'm going to do for now because I want my daughter to share with me going forward. She doesn't want to block him because she said he is her friend. She asked him if he's ever sent anything like that in the past, and he said it was his first time. Since she didn't want me to talk with his parents, I asked her to act as his parents and explain to him why this shouldn't have been done.

If you have a teenager, it's just a reminder to talk with them one more time about their social media activity - especially if you happen to have an 8th grader who is really good at Quiz bowl

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I asked my DD if I should talk to his parents, and she said if I do that, she'll never tell me anything in the future. Without knowing his last name, I can't find his parents' contact info without contacting the school.

She's 11? With her response her phone/access to Snapchat would be gone around here.

OP said her DD was in eighth grade

Why do 8th graders need Snapchat? I hate that kids so young have so much social media available to record all the stupid things they're doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I asked my DD if I should talk to his parents, and she said if I do that, she'll never tell me anything in the future. Without knowing his last name, I can't find his parents' contact info without contacting the school.

I would probably let it be then if it were me. He doesn’t dangerous or worrisome- just stupid. Hopefully he won’t do it again and get in trouble.

OP here. Yes, that's what I'm going to do for now because I want my daughter to share with me going forward. She doesn't want to block him because she said he is her friend. She asked him if he's ever sent anything like that in the past, and he said it was his first time. Since she didn't want me to talk with his parents, I asked her to act as his parents and explain to him why this shouldn't have been done.

If you have a teenager, it's just a reminder to talk with them one more time about their social media activity - especially if you happen to have an 8th grader who is really good at Quiz bowl

This is not just social media activity. This can cause legal issues for your daughter too, as, in eyes of the law, it's possession of an image, regardless how the nude pic got to her phone. Talk to her about that and she can tell her friend. If, by accident, they meet with the law enforcement that wants to make an example of both of them, it will be long and unpleasant process, all because of stupidity.
If they were 18, it's a different story, lots if stupid things can happen, but those, most likely, would not involve a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Prosecutor here - not every nude image of a child is child pornography.

[Anonymous]

DO NOT SCREENSHOT IT!

You are then in possession of child pornography. Even doing it as evidence.

I work in cyber forensics and unfortunately, if I processed your daughter’s phone, I could probably get that Snap. Snaps sent are not kept and found on the device but Snaps received are.

I would absolutely call the parents. I would also do a police report. You need to protect your child who was in possession of CP that was unwanted.

The contract all clients sign before I process their device says if CP or suspected CP is found, the examination will be terminated and the device will be turned over to the police. In some cases and places, the OWNER of the device is liable and the owner is the person who pays the bills.