Boy sent his nude picture to DD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DO NOT SCREENSHOT IT!

You are then in possession of child pornography. Even doing it as evidence.

I work in cyber forensics and unfortunately, if I processed your daughter’s phone, I could probably get that Snap. Snaps sent are not kept and found on the device but Snaps received are.

I would absolutely call the parents. I would also do a police report. You need to protect your child who was in possession of CP that was unwanted.

The contract all clients sign before I process their device says if CP or suspected CP is found, the examination will be terminated and the device will be turned over to the police. In some cases and places, the OWNER of the device is liable and the owner is the person who pays the bills.

Just another reason to wipe your devices clean on a regular basis.
No way I would ever consent to any device being searched.

These call the cops idiots fail to understand op's daughter may have a lot more in her phone that they may not want the cops looking at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't have time to read all the comments but I am a lawyer and I hope numerous people, including the prosecutor above, have pointed out that any distribution of nude photos by children, even if of themselves, is the distribution of child pornography. If you've learned anything from Law & Order, you should know that. This tripped up a mother at our school who reported pix being sent to her DD. What she didn't know what that her daughter was distribution photos of herself. The FBI was brought in, computers confiscated and DD wasn't allowed to graduate with middle school class. Be very very careful if you catch your children doing this and shut it down immediately.

OP here. What would you recommend me to do in our case? Thank you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:JFC. All the cops? Risk this bot being
Labeled a sexual predator. Your fucking nuts.

Teach your daughter that boys do stupid things and to erase and block. Then contact the parents privately and let them know they need to teach their son proper internet behavior.

This country is going down the crapper with stupidity.

Also teach your daughter to not say "sure" regarding receiving pictures of minors genitals. She is not innocent.

PLEASE STOP REPEATING THE NONSENSE.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to immediately call the police. A detective in Special Victims will come to your home (or ask you to come to the precinct) to meet with you and your daughter. The detective will get a warrant to retrieve the photo from SnapChat. Do not wait. Call the police right now.

This is utter madness. The boys life will be ruined for one silly mistake.

+1
I’m wondering how this poster and others who agree with him/her would feel about parents reporting girls who send nudes to the police. My son has received several unsolicited nudes from girls who have crushes on him. He simply deletes them and moves on with his life. But perhaps we should have reported these girls to the police so their lives could be ruined over their own stupid mistakes.

Somehow, it’s only when boys pull this crap that parents threaten contacting the police. Ridiculous.

Hysterical DCUM types always think their little girls are victims. Apparently they think thier girls are weak helpess idiots. They are every bit as bad as boys.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe I’m going to sound like an angry feminist, but seriously? Maybe he didn’t know this was wrong? That’s a parental and cultural failing. This little girl now has a #metoo story and she’s in 8th grade.

OP, I’m not saying call the cops, but I do think your daughter should see you make a big deal of standing up for her so that she knows she is never expected to tolerate inappropriate sexual behavior from men. I’d make a big deal about calling his parents and make sure she knows she never has to accept this kind of aggression.

Are you f%$cking crazy? The girl said "sure" send me a nude photo. What are you missing? A #metoo story? He ask she said sure send it, that's called CONSENT. You don't sound like an angry feminist, you sound delusional. "she is never expected to tolerate inappropriate sexual behavior from men." No if you had it your way she would learn that saying yes means she is a victim. Nice message, "well Suzy, you are just too stupid and weak to be held accountable for your decisions or action." Aggression? He ask, she is just as culpable as he is.
Equal until its inconvient then perpetual victim.

I think you both sound a bit crazy but I agree with the second PP. Both kids are too young to u derstand the co sequences of their actions. But her #metoo story is of her own making. She doesn’t deserve blame. But she certainly can’t attribute the same level of blame to this kid as victims of Harvey Weinstein can attribute to him.

And for the PP who insists the police should be called, that is the cruelest thing I’ve read in a long time. This is a stupid immature teenage boy, not a pedophile or sexual pervert. It’s hard to believe that you raised boys.

The response wasn't crazy, the post suggesting this was some feminist issue or aggressive inappropriate act on the boys part is crazy. Both dingdong kids did something dumb. It is in no way even remotely close to an assault or unwelcomed act. The kid ask op's kids said sure send it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She never said sure to a nude photo!!! He asked her if he can send her a picture - she didn't expect it to be that kind of a picture!

Sure she did. Thats why she was doesn't want this going any where.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is sexual harassment. They are not dating and he sent her an unsolicited and unwanted nude photo. To those of you dismissing it, this is a huge problem. Teen girls get sent unsolicited and unwanted dick pics a lot, it is straight up harassment. If you look at what #metoo stands for, it includes harassment.

To the person who asked why do 8th graders need Snapchat and said they thought that was so young for it, I agree that I wish MS students didn’t have social media, but 5th graders have Snapchat, so by 8th they are not new to that.

To OP and your DD who believe this kid when he says he’s never done this before, $1,000 says he’s lying.

So what do you want to do? Label this 13/14 year old boy a sexual predator?

It sounds like OPs daughter didn't feel victimized and she firmly told him that that was not ok

THIS. Sounds like the girl is more mature and has more common sense than many of the posters here on DCUM. Not everything is a trendy #Metoo moment.

#metoo is not a “trendy moment”. It is trending because so many women have been harassed or sexually assaulted. Does it scare some of you that lots of encounters deserve the #metoo label? Well then, you’ve almost gotten the point.

[Anonymous]

How did this turn into OP’s daughter essentially asking for it? OP says she said “sure” not knowing it’d be a nude photo, but you know how girls are, so you know she wanted it or lied about wanting it to her mom? That’s gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did this turn into OP’s daughter essentially asking for it? OP says she said “sure” not knowing it’d be a nude photo, but you know how girls are, so you know she wanted it or lied about wanting it to her mom? That’s gross.

+1. If she "wanted it" (gross), she wouldn't have brought it up with her mother!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How did this turn into OP’s daughter essentially asking for it? OP says she said “sure” not knowing it’d be a nude photo, but you know how girls are, so you know she wanted it or lied about wanting it to her mom? That’s gross.

+1. If she "wanted it" (gross), she wouldn't have brought it up with her mother!

Yeah I thought the “metoo” poster was over the top. But look at this response that OP’s DD was somehow to blame. Sounds classic, doesn’t it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to immediately call the police. A detective in Special Victims will come to your home (or ask you to come to the precinct) to meet with you and your daughter. The detective will get a warrant to retrieve the photo from SnapChat. Do not wait. Call the police right now.

This is utter madness. The boys life will be ruined for one silly mistake.

No, while I appreciate your hyperbole, his life won't be "ruined". We can all hope, though, that he will learn the importance of boundaries and obeying the lay. Additionally, his actions also will earn him an apparently much needed consequence. In the meantime, instead of posting here perhaps you should hit the books, particularly focusing on your ELA.

-Signed, a Mom of 3 Boys and 2 Girls

Not the PP, but you sound incredibly officious and condescending. The PP is right. Reporting something like this to the police actually could ruin his life; it will be on his record throughout school, at the very least. I'm also the mother of boys and girls, and while I would be disgusted and irate if someone sent any of my kids pictures like this, I wouldn't report it to the police. There are other options, laid out by more reasonable posters (contact parents, possibly the school, etc.). You sound unhinged.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to immediately call the police. A detective in Special Victims will come to your home (or ask you to come to the precinct) to meet with you and your daughter. The detective will get a warrant to retrieve the photo from SnapChat. Do not wait. Call the police right now.

OMG. Please take a Valium and let the adults talk.

And judging from the 3 last posts you just made here it looks like you're a child who is worried about getting "caught" because you've done something wrong. A consequence or two would probably do you some good.

Sorry, no. I’m a 49 year old mother of teens and none of this is new or shocking to me as it seems to be to you. There is a reasonable, measured reaction to teenaged stupidity (of BOTH genders), and then there is the manic, over-the-top, call the police reaction of people like you. I know which one I’d choose.

Smile. It is a pleasure and an honor to be called a manic, over-the-top, call the police person by a parent like you.

Wow. The PP is absolutely right. You're a different breed altogether. And no, that's not a compliment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going to the police as your first move is way over the top. Stop the hysterics. Start by blocking and going to parents. If it persists, then the police are warranted.

THIS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NO!!!!

Do not take screenshots of under age minors and distribute. That's child pornography! You have her block him on all social media and alert the school or police who can then alert his parents. Evidence or no evidence he needs to face consequences.

Why the police? I do agree with the idea of approaching the school and asking them to handle it. It may just be a stupid thing he already regrets, but better to nip the behavior in the bud.

I'm not sure the school will take it seriously enough. Police aren't going to charge him without evidence but it certainly will make it clear how serious the situation is.

There was a case similar to the OP's that resulted in the kid getting a criminal record for distribution of child porn. I do think he needs to be taught a lesson.

[Anonymous]

I have an 8th grade boy who is good at quiz bowl. He doesn’t have Snapchat or social media. That I know of. Now I’m scared it’s my kid.