MIL not coming for Thanksgiving

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s an odd stance you’ve taken - it’s ok to eat turkey so long as it wasn’t prepped “all over” the kitchen, but your MIL has blown it out of proportion. Your poor DH! Two women arguing over such silly things.

It's not as if OP banned all meat products from her house. She cant control what others want to consume but she has a right to dictate what is allowed or not in her own home. Her approach sounds reasonable IMO.

[Anonymous]

I guess it's not Thanksgiving to her without prepping the turkey. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s an odd stance you’ve taken - it’s ok to eat turkey so long as it wasn’t prepped “all over” the kitchen, but your MIL has blown it out of proportion. Your poor DH! Two women arguing over such silly things.

It's not as if OP banned all meat products from her house. She cant control what others want to consume but she has a right to dictate what is allowed or not in her own home. Her approach sounds reasonable IMO.

but it’s DH’s home also and he wants his mother there.

[Anonymous]

I can sort of understand, OP. I wouldn't want to go to Thanksgiving dinner at a vegetarian's house. That sounds just awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s an odd stance you’ve taken - it’s ok to eat turkey so long as it wasn’t prepped “all over” the kitchen, but your MIL has blown it out of proportion. Your poor DH! Two women arguing over such silly things.

It's not as if OP banned all meat products from her house. She cant control what others want to consume but she has a right to dictate what is allowed or not in her own home. Her approach sounds reasonable IMO.

Prep as a vegetarian... buy a disposable pan and put it on a cookie sheet or larger pan. Rinse turkey, shove veggies inside using gloves. Put butter or something on top. Cook turkey upside down so no turning or basting. Leave for a few hours till done. Simple. The only gross part is touching it and rinsing it in the sink. Take it from the sink, pat dry (use a cookie sheet or something to line the sink that goes in the dishwasher and pat dry).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can sort of understand, OP. I wouldn't want to go to Thanksgiving dinner at a vegetarian's house. That sounds just awful.

I wish that were the case though I'm not cooking this year. I've done it the past few years and I'm done. We're going out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can sort of understand, OP. I wouldn't want to go to Thanksgiving dinner at a vegetarian's house. That sounds just awful.

I'm a PP. Where does it say the dinner will be vegetarian?

[Anonymous]

In 20 years when MIL is dead, I hope you look back with pride at how you ruined Thanksgiving because cooking a bird is not allowed in your house, but an already dead and cooked one is.

[Anonymous]

You are ALL wrong. All three of you!

There are religious vegetarians who cannot touch have their utensils touching meat.

If you say you are a moral vegetarian and you are fine with guests eating meat in your house, people will not understand why you cannot cook a turkey in your house. My vegan aunt happily cooks meat dinners for her husband and son, as well as visiting relatives.

Your MIL is wrong for not having the courage to speak up, and not being grateful that you even allow a meat in the house.
You are wrong for having rules that confuse people and are hard to justify - either do no meat or go all the way!
Your husband is wrong for taking sides.

I hope you can resolve this one way or the other. I tend toward allowing MIL the traditional Thanksgiving she wants, because she won't be having much of these for very much longer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In 20 years when MIL is dead, I hope you look back with pride at how you ruined Thanksgiving because cooking a bird is not allowed in your house, but an already dead and cooked one is.

And mil will be in some sort of afterlife, kicking herself for refusing to see her son on Thanksgiving because the turkey was to be precooked.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like no one won. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s an odd stance you’ve taken - it’s ok to eat turkey so long as it wasn’t prepped “all over” the kitchen, but your MIL has blown it out of proportion. Your poor DH! Two women arguing over such silly things.

This. Call your MILand tell her you will have a turkey for thanksgiving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s an odd stance you’ve taken - it’s ok to eat turkey so long as it wasn’t prepped “all over” the kitchen, but your MIL has blown it out of proportion. Your poor DH! Two women arguing over such silly things.

This. Call your MILand tell her you will have a turkey for thanksgiving.

OP said (in the OP) that there would be turkey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s an odd stance you’ve taken - it’s ok to eat turkey so long as it wasn’t prepped “all over” the kitchen, but your MIL has blown it out of proportion. Your poor DH! Two women arguing over such silly things.

I agree.

The turkey thing is weird.

Get a free range organic turkey that has been humanely raised and butchered.

To be eaten is the life purpose of a turkey. That is why they exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's wrong but so are you. You should've let her cook the turkey, and she should've asked. You're both being unreasonable IMO.

I agree.

I do not usually agree with husbands taking the side of the MIL over the wife, but in this case he is 100% correct.