Have you found your soulmate?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Met my DH after a lifetime of difficulty and spiritual seeking, and it was only after I had attained a level of ego-death and deep inner healing that I found him in my mid 20s. He is everything to me. He is the only person who knows every single thing about me, who has looked into the worst and most broken parts of me and found something to love.

And I pretty much never thought I'd fall in love as hard as I did. This is totally different from infatuation; it's a kind of love you find when you've learned to deeply love yourself.

[Anonymous]

Yes, 19 years ago. I knew because we were just "together" from the moment we met. There was no dating period, It was almost as if I knew him my whole life. He has stood by me through many hard times. Of course just because he is my soulmate it doesn't mean its perfect. He knows he can drive me nuts and be a little turd and I will forgive him, and vise versa.

[Anonymous]

Yes, like 5 times over! I am married to one of them. And when he pisses me off I fantasize about one of the other 4. It's a pretty good setup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, like 5 times over! I am married to one of them. And when he pisses me off I fantasize about one of the other 4. It's a pretty good setup.

DH/53 here. I've found 4 in my life. Luckily, I'm married to one of them. I work with another, which can be frustrating. I agree with PP that they are easier to identify when you are already comfortable with your own soul. By easier, I mean you can find them with more confidence, not more frequency. Interesting differences in definitions, as I've always defined soulmate as someone with whom you could spend your life, not someone you know you couldn't.

[Anonymous]

What is your definition of a soulmate?

[Anonymous]

I've had multiple soul mates over time. I change. Doesn't everyone. Luckily my husband and I are compatible and we understand each other and each make life happy for the other. I can also talk to other people. I don't feel the need to have sex with my soulmates on a regular basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, like 5 times over! I am married to one of them. And when he pisses me off I fantasize about one of the other 4. It's a pretty good setup.

DH/53 here. I've found 4 in my life. Luckily, I'm married to one of them. I work with another, which can be frustrating. I agree with PP that they are easier to identify when you are already comfortable with your own soul. By easier, I mean you can find them with more confidence, not more frequency. Interesting differences in definitions, as I've always defined soulmate as someone with whom you could spend your life, not someone you know you couldn't.

One, during and just after college, but we were better soulmates as friends, not lovers. Probably because I wasn't comfortable in my skin, my body. I could have spent my life with him, but time and space and a whole lot of distance got in the way.
Another, my best friend. She and I are soulmates. I could spend my life with her -- except for the sex.
A third potential ... but he is married, and I am married. I will never know, but he had bushels of potential. Partly because we both are comfortable with ourselves.

I don't classify my husband as my soulmate. We get along very well. I mean, we have our problems, too. But we work well together, good parents, good couple. But that extra something special is missing. So, maybe he is a soulmate. I would miss having him around if he were gone, but it wouldn't be devastating.

[Anonymous]

Well I thought I found my soulmate but then it didn't work out.

But then I met DH... we had a nice courtship and married and have 3 kids now. It's not the chemical high I got with my "soulmate", but for the long term objectively I think we are more suited to each other. DH is challenging me in ways my "soulmate" never would have. It makes me wonder exactly what a soulmate is...

[Anonymous]

I thought I found my soulmate -- but it was a lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep.

I know because my soul is at ease.

Ah, I like that. Me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your definition of a soulmate?

It's a neighbor you haven't slept with yet.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and we didn't meet until I was 31. It made all the losers I dated in my 20s totally worth it. And honestly, I am glad I met him when I did because I think I appreciate him even more than I could have at 25. As for how I know....man, that's a really hard question to answer without sounding totally cliche, but he and fit together perfectly, I trust him 100% (not 99% - 100%), and I know that no matter where life takes us, as long as we are together it will be OK. We could live in a cardboard box together.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Met in college as teenagers. Married 25 years now. Best thing to ever happen to me(us)..right up there with blessing of children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your definition of a soulmate?

It's a neighbor you haven't slept with yet.

Damn you. I was going to put in a neighborly kind of answer, but you beat me to it.

[Anonymous]

Yes. He makes my life complete. We just knew the moment we met on vacation. We both moved from different areas of the country to DC right after we met. With him, life has been very, very easy. No fights, no stress.