Have you found your soulmate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't believe in soulmates, but I have found my sexual equal. Who is also married to someone else, living on the other side of the country.....

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yep.

I know because my soul is at ease.

That is a great way of putting how it feels.

-- Someone else who found their soulmate

I agree with this too. Going on 13 years together and there is no one else I'd rather be with.

[Anonymous]

No, but at 35 I am trying to make it work anyway. So very envious of those of you who have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. He makes my life complete. We just knew the moment we met on vacation. We both moved from different areas of the country to DC right after we met. With him, life has been very, very easy. No fights, no stress.

That is beautiful. How old were you both when you met? HOw long have you been together? Very sweet story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't believe in soulmates, but I have found my sexual equal. Who is also married to someone else, living on the other side of the country.....

Guess what... there are thousands of other "sexual equals" among the 5 million people in the DC area. Not just ONE "sexual equal" who lives 3,000 miles away with someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do realize your soulmate is just a person who had a similarly messed up child hood and helps fulfill your "rescue scenario". That's the reason you feel you click. And yes I found my soulmate but now the real work continues for the rest of my life to try to keep the relationship in good working order.

Yes, I agree. I'm 10:27, and my partner and I, in spite of being such different personalities from different corners of the world, have bizarrely overlapping childhood trauma and damage that it took us years to begin to understand. The more we work on it, the more we understand, and the more we progress. It's hard work and very healing at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Many people who answered yes actually have not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah but we'll probably get divorced this year, too bad so sad, and then the search for soulmate #2 begins.

That's not how this works

Maybe not for you.

or anyone

you don't separate from your soulmate

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure what a soulmate is! My DH and I have been married over 30 years but:
- we are different politically
- I'm detail oriented and he is big picture
- he loves sports and I could care less
- I could talk for hours, he couldn't

But,
- we are best friends
- love to spend time together
- adore our children and now grand children
- have a wonderful love life
- we are as happy and lucky as anyone I know

So, is he my soulmate? I don't know but he has my heart and soul!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dated him for a year in college and was devastated when he broke up with me. We somehow managed to remain close friends for the next 6 years or so. We were long distance for most of our friendship but stayed connected through phone calls and letters (yes I'm dating myself). He once called me while drunk (which was unusual for him) and followed up with a letter written that same night in which he asked what I would have said if he had asked me to marry him when we were on the phone. He went on to say how he had broken up with me because I was his first girlfriend and he was terrified of how strongly he felt about me. My heart wanted to jump on the next plane and marry him but I was dating a nice guy that I knew would never be able to hurt me the same way so to protect myself I just acted like the letter had never happened. Our friendship continued for a few more years then faded out when I started dating the guy who is now my ex-husband.
I found a bunch of letters from my old boyfriend when I was cleaning out my attic a few years ago. They still made my heart skip a beat and brought a tear to my eye. I'm sure I'm romanticizing the "one that got away" but can't help thinking what my life would have been like with him.

I'm in a very similar scenario. And I believe he's still single. But I can't contact him. I tried about 8 yrs ago and it didn't work, I think he was dealing with personal issues... I figure it's just not meant to be...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah but we'll probably get divorced this year, too bad so sad, and then the search for soulmate #2 begins.

That's not how this works

Maybe not for you.

or anyone

you don't separate from your soulmate

Says who, dummy!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't believe in soulmates, but I have found my sexual equal. Who is also married to someone else, living on the other side of the country.....

+1

I was going to say," hi hon, is that you?"

Then, I read the +1 and it occurred to me that maybe my soulmate has two sexual soulmates and I'm one of them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't believe in soulmates, but I have found my sexual equal. Who is also married to someone else, living on the other side of the country.....

+1

I was going to say," hi hon, is that you?"

Then, I read the +1 and it occurred to me that maybe my soulmate has two sexual soulmates and I'm one of them?

Unlikely. There can only be one sexual soulmate whom I lust after...

[Anonymous]

Absolutely.

My soulmate is ... horses.

I've been in love a few times. Madly in love, once. I'm married. I like who I'm married to. Do I feel like our souls connect and we complete one another? No. in fact, I'm currently working very hard not to fall into an emotional affair with someone I'm working with on a big project and whom I've always found attractive and compelling. I'll manage not to cross the line because I'm not an idiot. I know that gorgeous feeling of a new emotional connection isn't what lasts for 20 or 50 years. My work friend is a better match than my husband if it were day one, but it's not. We're both married. And a better match doesn't mean I'd still be breathlessly besotted in a decade. Relationships are hard and I'm not the easiest person in the world to understand (I agree with the poster who said soulmates are complementarily broken; it's certainly true with my current longing).

However, I have a soul mate. My soul is at peace around horses. Always. There's no day around even a man I love that's as good as a day at the barn. Not even our wedding. It's been like this for me since I was eight years old. I've gone through phases in my life when I'm not riding and I become dissatisfied, pessimistic, and lost. When I'm riding regularly my life just works. My soul works. I become funnier, kinder, better at my job, a better spouse and parent.

Today the weather was so mild and the footing outdoors was decent, so I got in a lovely light workout with a hawk watching us from the fenceline. I had this moment where everything fell into place so beautifully and I found myself thinking I'm so lucky. Not everyone gets to have something they'll love for a lifetime.

But I do. And any man who wants me is going to deal with saddle pads in the washer dryer.

[Anonymous]

Im sorry, that's not the answer we're looking for here.