My husband comes home at night and takes my kids out of bed

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Anonymous wrote:Do kids really go to sleep 7:30? That seems very early even for 3-year old. Our toddler sleeps only 10 hours (including nap) in 24 and goes to sleep at 11 pm.

Uh, you're the weird one.

[Anonymous]

My 5 and 7yr olds go to bed at 730pm. It's important but having said that, the difference between being able to see their dad and 8pm is negligible. Talk to your dh about splitting bedtime routines with you.

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Anonymous wrote:You're wrong. The kids need time with their father. He needs time with them. Just tell him to put them to bed. Or keep them up until he gets home and then have him bathe them and put them to bed.

This must be a troll. Dad should get time with kids at breakfast and weekends, when they're awake.

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Jesus, I can't believe so may people are jumping on OP here. It's completely unacceptable what her DH does. WTF?!

I have to wake up my 3 yo at 6:30 at the latest. He needs to be asleep at 8:30 or he is grumpy, weepy, and tantrum my. And that's with a 2 hot nap!! So if the OP's kids no longer nap, 7:30 is a perfectly reasonable bedtime.

oP's DH's behavior is immature and irresponsible.

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Anonymous wrote:I come home from work everyday at 5:30, get dinner ready, feed my kids (ages 3 and 5), bathe them, read to them, and put them to bed by around 7:30 and he saunters in every night between 7:30-8:30 and then goes upstairs and wakes them up, gets them out of bed, has play time. I am not talking about going into their rooms and quietly talking and tucking them in (which would be ok). It gets loud, they get out of bed, run around, screaming. It makes me SO ANGRY and RESENTFUL.

He claims it is so he can "spend time" with them but I find it infuriating and disrespectful to me. How to handle this? Any advice?

Is he not their father? What's with the MY KIDS bit?

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Did anyone else notice that OP twice refers to them as "my" kids?

They are your DH's kids too, OP, unless there is more that you haven't told us.

You need to lighten up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do kids really go to sleep 7:30? That seems very early even for 3-year old. Our toddler sleeps only 10 hours (including nap) in 24 and goes to sleep at 11 pm. [/quote

Our 8 year old goes to bed at 730 and gets up at 625.

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At least your DH shows up and sees the kids. My DH has a knack for showing up JUST after I have gotten DS to bed and am sitting down for a little me-time.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it extremely odd that you're referring to the kids as "my kids" and not OUR kids.

+ a billion

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Anonymous wrote:Jesus, I can't believe so may people are jumping on OP here. It's completely unacceptable what her DH does. WTF?!

I have to wake up my 3 yo at 6:30 at the latest. He needs to be asleep at 8:30 or he is grumpy, weepy, and tantrum my. And that's with a 2 hot nap!! So if the OP's kids no longer nap, 7:30 is a perfectly reasonable bedtime.

oP's DH's behavior is immature and irresponsible.

It's not unacceptable. He's not showing up at 11pm and getting them up. He's coming in an hour or so after the kids go to bed (at an abnormally early hour), and playing with them. OP needs to unclench and accept that HER me-time is going to begin an hour later now and DH is going to spend time with his kids and put them to sleep.

[Anonymous]

Work it out. They could always stay up 40 minutes longer for daddy time. But tell him the compromise is: if he gets home after 8, he missed his chance. Hopefully that will encourage him to come home earlier?

[Anonymous]

My kids needed an early bed time too, and DH knew it. He would sooner have poked his own eyes out then wake them up. They were awful when they didn't get enough sleep or missed that sweet spot for getting to sleep.

Those of you saying "just keep them up" must have easy kids. DH and I are here shaking our heads. No way. Sleep was sacred around here for our sanity. They always needed the high end of the recommended pediatric range -- 12 hours. They still need 10-11 per night (and we're talking middle school now).

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30 minutes longer. Keyboard is wacked. I would not have been that specific, ha.

But re-thinking.....if he says 8 is too early. And going to 8:30 is just too late, maybe a real specific 8:10 or 8:15 would work!

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Some of you dcum parents are just weird. You flip out over irrelevant things in life, bedtime at 7:30pm! No wonder some of you parents are so fragile and have mental breakdowns. Let the man spend fun social bonding time with his kids. Op, do you really think going to bed 1 hour later will harm them? Are you naturally a controlling person. Just tell him to put them to bed when he is done.. Geez , your children will grow up with emotional problems as adults.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do kids really go to sleep 7:30? That seems very early even for 3-year old. Our toddler sleeps only 10 hours (including nap) in 24 and goes to sleep at 11 pm.

Uh, you're the weird one.

This poster should speak ASAP with the pediatrician!!