If your child is gay or bi..how do you handle sleepovers?
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Anonymous
Very different. No one's getting pregnant in this scenario, for one. Less ambiguity about intentions, for another. |
Anonymous
+1000 Apply the same house rules. |
Anonymous
Huh? So if the boy is infertile he should be able to sleepover at any girl's house? |
Anonymous
Really now, how would you know if a boy is infertile? Please explain. |
Anonymous
NP- its a stupid strawman argument. The situation is different because if a boy sleeps at a girls house, it generally would be assumed they're dating/interested and it would be inappropriate. If a kid is gay, there is the possibility of friendship or romance. I agree with the approach of asking if it is friendship or romance and act accordingly. But to be honest, if your kid doesn't tell you they're gay, they can fool around at sleepovers without your knowledge. |
Anonymous
| All of those saying it's ok and have straight kids - do you let your kids have co-Ed slumber parties as long as they say they aren't romantically involved? At what age? I'd like to think I'm fairly progressive, but this seems a little nuts to me, whether the kids are gay or straight. |
Anonymous
Are you suggesting that it is not possible for straight kids to be friends with members of the opposite sex? Personally, I would rather ask my kid about her relationship with the person she wants to sleep over (male or female) rather than to generally assume anything, but then again, it seems like a lot of people on this board do not think very highly of their teenagers. |
Anonymous
The kids: Aren't they stupid? |
Anonymous
I was one who said that it was okay and that the OP should talk to her daughter. I would allow coed sleepovers. I don't know if the parents of teenage boys would allow them, though. It kind of breaks the social rules for kids. I would follow the same strategy of "friend or date" if my straight daughter invited a boy over or if my gay daughter invited a girl over. Frankly, I do not see what the big deal is. If people are concerned that straight girls will get pregnant, maybe they should have frank conversations about birth control with their daughters and help them get birth control. Pregnancy certainly doesn't require a sleepover. I know teenagers who got pregnant in the backs of cars, which I suppose is the direct result of their parents allowing them to drive. |
Anonymous
I guess you don't trust your kid. That doesn't mean that OP shouldn't trust OP's kid, though. |
Anonymous
OP can you have them sleep in the living room rather than the bedroom so you can keep tabs on them. I know I wouldn't let a platonic boy friend sleep over, so I am not sure about a platonic girl friend. Maybe you should also ask if DD's friend also like girls. If they are both into girls, even if they claim not to be into each other, I think the sleepover is a bad idea. |
Anonymous
| How about a gay boy sleeping over at a lesbian girl house? |
Anonymous
Your kid hasn't lied to you lately... that you know of? Lucky you. Or you're delusional. |
Anonymous
How about a coed pajama party, PP? |
Anonymous
Yes, but leave the door open just in case. |