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Feeling sorry for my single partying friends in their 30's
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Anonymous
| I have a sneaking suspicion that SHE feels sorry for YOU, OP. |
Anonymous
| OP - I have single gf's in their mid-30s as well. They still go out dancing on U street and I scratch my head. They have never and will never meet anyone there. Howwever, I totally disagree with you about the marathon Sundays! Great plave to meet single guys is at sports bars during football seasons! |
Anonymous
| Is your friend happy? If she is, then good for her. There are a lot of people in their 30's enjoying single life, and in this area in particular I think it's quite normal for people in their 30's to be single and living it up. Heck, I felt a bit like an early onset old lady in DC getting married at 26! Try to think of it this way: would you be offended if a friend said she felt sorry for you for being married and having kids in your 30's? |
Anonymous
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Ohmigod! 33 is not ancient! Any major city there are plenty early-mid thirties hanging out at bars and clubs.
I was married at 28 and DH and I partied with all of our single and married friends in bars...HARD..until we finally decided to have a mud at 35. We even quit are jobs and partied internationally for a year at 32. Fantastic experience and maintain lots of international friends from that time. Do you know in our 40s we still do dinner and a club (albeit it an older clientele) about once a month. ? Quit being so uptight! |
Anonymous
The alcohol riddled my brain! No just damn iPhone and autocorrect. We had a 'baby' not mud. 'are' is 'our'. You get it... |
Anonymous
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OP I know exactly what you're talking about and my friends will often call or come over to talk about the disastrous hook ups.
They look like cougars on the outside and the jerks complimenting them on a Sat night boosts the ego but when Sunday morning comes and the bed is empty and they get a headache/hangover they call to cry on my shoulder (mostly ecause they know we'll be awake and sober on Sunday at 7am LOL) They often invite themselves for family meals. They feel so lonely deep inside. I tried suggesting cooking classes, speed dating, book clubs and online dating sites but they say they're not "that" desperate yet. DH picked me in a bar among 5 other girls and we were both turning 30 at the time (and already felt like part of the older crowd) I can imagine how much worse it must be now... |
Anonymous
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OP, you may one day be divorced. Are you going to stay home knittting or only visit antique shows? How would it feel to know that your "friend" was posting online about you and feigning concern that you were continuing to put yourself out there to meet people?
If you've heard men calling her names, then they're ill-mannered and undesirable. And if they were denigrating your friend to your face, I certainly hope that you either excused yourself from the conversation or said something along the lines of "you should only be so lucky." |
Anonymous
| Sounds like pretty normal behavior for a single early 30s person living in a city. I was pretty much the same, met someone at 35 and married at 36. I ended up meeting my husband on match.com, but i definitely dated a few guys i met at bars and such. I have friends that met their husbands at bars and parties. |
Anonymous
Good lord. Are you for real? |
Anonymous
| OP - you there? Maybe you're missing some details from your post. Is your friend sad and lonely? Has she expressed dissatisfaction? Because if not, I think the general consensus is that the rest of us 30-something parents are wondering if you meant to post that your problem is that you're jealous of this friend... |
Anonymous
| Live and let live, honey. We all make different choices in life, and our real friends don't go around feeling sorry for us. They accept us as we are, warts and all. |
Anonymous
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As an almost 30 year old who still "parties hard" in the city... please don't feel sorry for us.
DC is full of young fun late 20/ 30 and even 40 somethings who still go to bars. Is a quiet basement dive bar fun sometimes? Yes. Wine bars for girls night? yes please! U street/ Penn Qtr/ Georgetown where the bars are swarming with young successful men. Please don't feel bad for us. We are having fun and we are responsible --- and we all know where the young kids go and stay away ( we are well aware that we are not Gtown Undergrads anymore.) I have tried many nights to get my married w/o kids ( and even those with kids) to come out with us sometimes. I have even tried to arrange babysitting!! But without success. I miss my married friends but if they are ok with Silpada parties and PTA meetings thats fine by me. Someday I look forward to that lifestyle as well. Until then, we are headed out tonight! Come join us if you are interested 
As cliche as it sounds SATC really gave this generation a whole different persepective of what is "normal" for 30 something single women. |
Anonymous
| Sorry, OP. I have to agree with the PP's. All kinds of alarm bells go off for me when I hear someone expressing that they feel "sorry" for someone else's lifestyle. |
Anonymous
Yes I'm for real and I can only be this honest here because we're anonymous. We were a group of 5 girls drinking and dancing. We got a round of shots and sent one to him. He came over and talked to us for a while. As we all headed out he approached me and offered to get me a cab. I'm not close to any of those girls anymore so for our family and friends the story is that we met through common friends. |
Anonymous
| OP, how do you hear the guys talking behind her back? Are you at the bar with her? Isn't that a little sad and pathetic for a married woman to be at a bar like that? After all, you're in your 30's and married. Don't you know that you belong in the kitchen? Your husband's sandwich isn't going to make itself. |