Feeling sorry for my single partying friends in their 30's

[Anonymous]

So OP who is bitter about her partying friend and the WHOO-HOO pick-me nutjob from Sweden are the same?

Figures.

(But Sweden, really?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who makes statements like Op did at her first one is just deflecting- she is not that happy and her friend goes out and and do whatever.. yes- the dating scene can suck- but at 33 she's in no way a cougar! OP has issues with her marriage and situation- i mean, who that is stable would post a post like that?? OP is the issue- not her friend- some people don't get married after high school or after undergrad.. deal with it.

Did you mean me about being bitter (PP being bitter)? huh?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I meant you. You're just as bad as OP for reading things into a situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I meant you. You're just as bad as OP for reading things into a situation.

You get OPINIONS here on this anonymous form- get a grip- if everyone thought like Op or you - but really- OP asked this - i've seen really caddy remarks but not here- get a grip and get a life unless you're being passive aggressive as OP- this is my opinion. Unless OP has explicitly said I don;t want to hear something that disagrees with me - then she should post somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did picked poster become OP? I mean, I see that she says is on page 7, but before she seemed to be pretending to be a new poster. I think this is just a posting put up to stir the pot, especially considering that Europeans aren't uptight, stay-at-home bodies like this person claims to be.

"Picked" poster here and I meant to say PP back there and I just noticed I types OP instead. Sorry for the confusion.

[Anonymous]

Now I'm curios... I mentioned I was almost 30 when I met DH at the bar, so I don't think your comment makes sense... I just agreed with the OP because I have 30something friends who are partying and miserable but I also have plenty of friends who are single and having fun. I don't see anything wrong with 30, 40, 50 whatever people partying. If they're happy good for them!

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Anonymous wrote:Sweden. Why does it matter?

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Anonymous wrote:Can you all stop beating up on the poster whose husband "picked" her out of the bar? It was probably a poor word choice. She said she was an exchange student. She sounds nice and happy with her husband and DD's. Leave her alone already.

"Picked" poster here.

Thanks for your words. I don't know what word I should use... When you go online don't you pick the profiles that interest you the most? When you go to a bar don't you pick which people you want to talk to? How many of you here had an arranged marriage where you don't get to pick who you want to marry? Don't you all picked your partners?

There were 5 girls and the guy picked me to talk further. What would be a better word choice?

It was a bunch of single girls having fun, nobody was looking for a long term relationship that day and we were all just partying. We talked to a lot of people and turns out that this worked out for us. What's wrong with you people?

"Picked" poster, what country are you from? Just curious.

Because in certain cultures, early marriages are encouraged and unmarried women in their 30s are looked down at. Funny, I would never have guessed you were from Sweden, that's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I meant you. You're just as bad as OP for reading things into a situation.

You get OPINIONS here on this anonymous form- get a grip- if everyone thought like Op or you - but really- OP asked this - i've seen really caddy remarks but not here- get a grip and get a life unless you're being passive aggressive as OP- this is my opinion. Unless OP has explicitly said I don;t want to hear something that disagrees with me - then she should post somewhere else.

Sorry but really? Caddy? As in golf?

[Anonymous]

I highly doubt that the OP/PP Ms-I'm-so-lucky-because-I-was-picked is from Sweden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now I'm curios... I mentioned I was almost 30 when I met DH at the bar, so I don't think your comment makes sense... I just agreed with the OP because I have 30something friends who are partying and miserable but I also have plenty of friends who are single and having fun. I don't see anything wrong with 30, 40, 50 whatever people partying. If they're happy good for them!

This is an important point. OP's friend is miserable and partying isn't helping her while other people are plenty happy living a wild single life at that age. I think maybe that's where OP should focus her concern rather than phrasing it to suggest that at a certain age one should stop partying like a 20-year-old. OP's concern is merited here but personally I would shift it from focusing on so-called age-appropriate behavior to the fact that her friend is repeatedly doing stuff that isn't making her happy - sounds like self-sabotaging behavior to me which is not good at any age!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I highly doubt that the OP/PP Ms-I'm-so-lucky-because-I-was-picked is from Sweden.

My guess is Brazil.

Hi FBFNFTM! Missed you.

[Anonymous]

OP - you act like being a "cougar" is a bad thing?? I am a cougar, 44 & single and every now and then go out to the bars with my single friends (one is 46 - we aren't old looking 40's) and have met and kissed some very cute, fun younger guys (27 the youngest) and am having the time of my life. Trust me as a single 44 y.o. you would much rather go out and have fun with single people than sit at home watching reruns. Let her have fun and enjoy herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I highly doubt that the OP/PP Ms-I'm-so-lucky-because-I-was-picked is from Sweden.

My guess is Brazil.

Hi FBFNFTM! Missed you.

I'm sorry but I don't know what you mean. I already explained that I misspelled the other post. Where I said I'm the OP I meant to say I was PP.

I have nothing to do with the OP and I just agreed with the fact that there are people who are not happy being alone at age 30 but there are also lots of people who are so no big deal. Get over it already!

If you're happy the way you are try to spread it instead of criticizing those who are not. Jeez!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Now I'm curios... I mentioned I was almost 30 when I met DH at the bar, so I don't think your comment makes sense... I just agreed with the OP because I have 30something friends who are partying and miserable but I also have plenty of friends who are single and having fun. I don't see anything wrong with 30, 40, 50 whatever people partying. If they're happy good for them!

This is an important point. OP's friend is miserable and partying isn't helping her while other people are plenty happy living a wild single life at that age. I think maybe that's where OP should focus her concern rather than phrasing it to suggest that at a certain age one should stop partying like a 20-year-old. OP's concern is merited here but personally I would shift it from focusing on so-called age-appropriate behavior to the fact that her friend is repeatedly doing stuff that isn't making her happy - sounds like self-sabotaging behavior to me which is not good at any age!

But that's the thing: OP is just SAYING that her friend is miserable. Her friend doesn't even live in this area! How does OP know these men are talking about her friend? How does OP know these men are "so much younger" than her friend? She isn't there!!