Feeling sorry for my single partying friends in their 30's

[Anonymous]

I've never been into going to bars, and never will, but if other people go and have (legal) fun, that's their choice, since it's their lives they're living, not mine.

[Anonymous]

When I was in my 30s, I was finishing up my PhD in NYC, and let me tell you that I had a blast. I met a ton of intelligent, successful single guys in their 30s at various bars and restaurants. As a demographic rule, the more well-educated the city, the older the group of singletons.

OP must be from somewhere where the number of highly educated people is quite small.

[Anonymous]

I feel so sorry for people who get to sleep 8 hours a night, because they don't have children to wake them up at odd hours of the night. What a waste of time!

Or ladies who can still wear bikinis because they don't have stretch marks after having birthed multiple children, or have c-section scars. Those women are such sluts!

Or those who can spend their money however they want because they have no one to question their purchases, or don't have to pay for ridiculously expensive childcare. So self-involved! They should give them money to charity!

Or women who actually have a sense of fashion because they have time to shop on their own without toddlers or infants in tow. Just go to Kohls or Target, ladies!

[Anonymous]

I too had a great time in my 30's. I'm now in my mid 40's with kids and I secretly long to be back in my mid 30's and having a great social life. And I'd hardly call a 33 year old a cougar.

[Anonymous]

geez that was me..and I had a ton of fun and now that I am married..not jealous or smug about married life..got it all out of my system and have zero regrets signed married at 37..babies at 38 and 40.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I was your friend. We're not all ready to settle down before we turn 30. She's having fun! Leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she likes drinking and younger men. What do you care?

I do, too.

Unfortunately, I'm married to an older guy, and drinking now makes me tired.

Give your friend a break.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I know exactly what you're talking about and my friends will often call or come over to talk about the disastrous hook ups.

They look like cougars on the outside and the jerks complimenting them on a Sat night boosts the ego but when Sunday morning comes and the bed is empty and they get a headache/hangover they call to cry on my shoulder (mostly ecause they know we'll be awake and sober on Sunday at 7am LOL)

They often invite themselves for family meals. They feel so lonely deep inside. I tried suggesting cooking classes, speed dating, book clubs and online dating sites but they say they're not "that" desperate yet.

DH picked me in a bar among 5 other girls and we were both turning 30 at the time (and already felt like part of the older crowd) I can imagine how much worse it must be now...

Good lord. Are you for real?

Yes I'm for real and I can only be this honest here because we're anonymous. We were a group of 5 girls drinking and dancing. We got a round of shots and sent one to him. He came over and talked to us for a while. As we all headed out he approached me and offered to get me a cab. I'm not close to any of those girls anymore so for our family and friends the story is that we met through common friends.

I do not understand why you can only admit that because we are anonymouse.Also, why do you have to make up a story for friends and family?!?!?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't feel "embarrassed" for her - save your energy (I won't say empathy because I don't really think you have much for her). She has nothing to be embarrasses about. Nothing.

Exactly. The OP's post is really patronizing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hah, I read the OP's post and thought DAMN, that sounds awesome! seriously. I am 42 (male) and married with 2 kids. Would LOVE to be able to pound beers all day watching college football with my buddies while I hit on girls. (and trust me, you can meet people that way. I often did).

Me too! Don't get me wrong, I love my family, but I miss my single days. Not sure, OP, why you feel sorry for her - maybe you are more of an introvert and like family life while she is more of an extrovert and loves socializing. As the saying goes, "whatever floats your boat"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I know exactly what you're talking about and my friends will often call or come over to talk about the disastrous hook ups.

They look like cougars on the outside and the jerks complimenting them on a Sat night boosts the ego but when Sunday morning comes and the bed is empty and they get a headache/hangover they call to cry on my shoulder (mostly ecause they know we'll be awake and sober on Sunday at 7am LOL)

They often invite themselves for family meals. They feel so lonely deep inside. I tried suggesting cooking classes, speed dating, book clubs and online dating sites but they say they're not "that" desperate yet.

DH picked me in a bar among 5 other girls and we were both turning 30 at the time (and already felt like part of the older crowd) I can imagine how much worse it must be now...

Good lord. Are you for real?

Yes I'm for real and I can only be this honest here because we're anonymous. We were a group of 5 girls drinking and dancing. We got a round of shots and sent one to him. He came over and talked to us for a while. As we all headed out he approached me and offered to get me a cab. I'm not close to any of those girls anymore so for our family and friends the story is that we met through common friends.

I do not understand why you can only admit that because we are anonymouse.Also, why do you have to make up a story for friends and family?!?!?!

Probably because it was a one-night stand. LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:hah, I read the OP's post and thought DAMN, that sounds awesome! seriously. I am 42 (male) and married with 2 kids. Would LOVE to be able to pound beers all day watching college football with my buddies while I hit on girls. (and trust me, you can meet people that way. I often did).

Me too! Don't get me wrong, I love my family, but I miss my single days. Not sure, OP, why you feel sorry for her - maybe you are more of an introvert and like family life while she is more of an extrovert and loves socializing. As the saying goes, "whatever floats your boat"

I should also say, though, that I partied in Atlantic City for my friend's birthday once...dang...there were Snookies and Paulies all over the clubs except about 10-15 years older!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I know exactly what you're talking about and my friends will often call or come over to talk about the disastrous hook ups.

They look like cougars on the outside and the jerks complimenting them on a Sat night boosts the ego but when Sunday morning comes and the bed is empty and they get a headache/hangover they call to cry on my shoulder (mostly ecause they know we'll be awake and sober on Sunday at 7am LOL)

They often invite themselves for family meals. They feel so lonely deep inside. I tried suggesting cooking classes, speed dating, book clubs and online dating sites but they say they're not "that" desperate yet.

DH picked me in a bar among 5 other girls and we were both turning 30 at the time (and already felt like part of the older crowd) I can imagine how much worse it must be now...

Do you realize how awful and desperate this sounds? It sounds like you and your 5 other girls were pieces of meat hanging at a butcher's shop and your DH came by and "picked you." Woo Hoo you were "picked" yay for you!! Just sounds like you all were waiting around secretly screaming "pick me! pick me! Over here...pick me" gross.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to find out where the Dewey Beach people hang out. They are in their 40s and still drink like that. It's sad and pathetic, I agree. It's also very hard for a single girl in her 30s to meet a guy. I feel for her.

[Anonymous]

Ahh to live that life again... OP, I have unmarried friends that are like your friend. I'm not embarrassed for them but I am really jealous sometimes.